"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting a girl you don't know

Romanemp22

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How to you get a girl you like who you don't know in person? Say you saw her on Instagram, Facebook etc but don't know where to find her. Do you go for it through DMs or do nothing?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well you should never do nothing, nothing is a choice and it is what you will be left with if you make it.

Go for it... In person... Without social proofing, going through social media is very hard and risky.
 

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Well you should never do nothing, nothing is a choice and it is what you will be left with if you make it.

Go for it... In person... Without social proofing, going through social media is very hard and risky.
I agree. There is this girl I found on insta, very hot, dentist but I have no clue where she is going out. It's annoying to text her over instagram because if I have saw her I would go for it definitely
 

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So Act like you met her out one night....

"Did I meet you the other night in downtown Flagstaff? I'm kicking myself that if I did I didn't get your number....I want to find out more about...(something you gleaned from her I page)...

It's worth a shot...
 

Romanemp22

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So Act like you met her out one night....

"Did I meet you the other night in downtown Flagstaff? I'm kicking myself that if I did I didn't get your number....I want to find out more about...(something you gleaned from her I page)...

It's worth a shot...
That's very good man.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just shoot them a DM: "hey what's up"
That's it. Nothing fancy. You don't even know her so why act like you have to prove yourself?
If she is attracted she will respond. If she doesnt, move on.
 
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