Suave88
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The first step in the sequence of events is to add her to my Facebook. Then, who breaks the ice? Her or I? I know what to say but I am abstaining for now
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Suave88
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My concern with the pics is one. I also have pics of my ex-es and when I save them is because of 1 reason, I like them and I wish i could turn things around for a least a night stand. If I don't like a former girlfriend, I distance myself the fvck away from the bytch, but looking at her from my very own spectrum, I can tell she stills likes him.
bat soup
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Break the ice by asking if having unprotected sex is worth the 20 years of stress, hassle and monetary losses. If she says yes, then invite her over to make another one.
Fvck her ex and the horse he rode in on. We are focusing too much on dude and not you placin your penis in her vagina..see if she repsonds to a instant message from you..if she does, keep the ball rollin..the ex is a problem for future you (if you decide to keep her around)
Suave88
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Should I add her to my Facebook or just PM her on messenger? I am contemplating an issue in here, we do not know each other and online **** is impersonal. I dont like the idea of adding her. I actually don't jave my real name on Facebook, but my profile is a name that is something way different than even a proper name and a commun name and a name of guerre. My profile is not to be found by some1 other than the people I send friend invitations. Most are family and very close friends, no coworkers or distant friends.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Suave88
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That won't work. I dont meet people online, but in real life.
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Really? What's up with all this feminine hamstering.
You say you're just looking to bang her, then why do you overanalyze why she has some pictures on her fb and what that potentially means. This is irrelevant if you're looking for what you say you're. Hit her straight up, set a date and take it from there. Anything but a yes you move on and spend your time on someone else.
This overthinking makes me think you're potentially looking for something more than a bang since humans tend to do that when we feel more is on the line. Be honest with yourself.
Suave88
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Dont look like it. She looks local and not from Russia or Ukraine. I don't believe it is a Nigerian scam either. Too many things in place.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Suave88
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I don't know what She wants. She is not a slut, although it looks like she kind of like on the fast lane. She may want a long term and I need yo come across her like what she is looking for and then see you baby, bye bye.
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Well then give it a try. Quit overthinking and give it your best shot.