"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Going on my first date, tips and suggestions?
- Thread starter Dam44
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
TonyTenner
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Clamslammer
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Keep it simple and fun...always focus on having fun as this will reduce the pressure on you. Don't do anything formal on the first date like a sit down dinner. Take her to the acquarium or something like that so you guys have something to talk about
But seriously this is your first date ever at 19yo? Good luck and just remain calm. Don't worry about awkward silences. Just be yourself and don't worry what she thinks of you. At your age, there will be plenty of chances if this one doesn't pan out.
RangerMIke
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yes, like a 'real' date. ThanksShocker... two in the pink... one in the stink.
But seriously this is your first date ever at 19yo? Good luck and just remain calm. Don't worry about awkward silences. Just be yourself and don't worry what she thinks of you. At your age, there will be plenty of chances if this one doesn't pan out.
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Done! It was good. We spent almost 2 hours.
There was good vibe, the conversation was good. A few minutes of silence but it everything went good.
We seemed comfortable and compatible. I think she could turn my girlfriend eventually.
Thanks
Black Widow Void
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One word of advice: take things slow.
This being your first and all, there might be a tendency to daydream and overthink future expected outcomes. Actually, this is normal. The drawback is that things will usually not measure up to our expectations (sometimes it will exceed, but in the end, it usually leads to disappointment).
As to the advice of taking things slow... if you get caught up in a moment, you risk the problem of prematurely advancing things. It's a lot easier to gradually and eventually take a small step forward... than it is to impulsively take two steps forward ... and then attempt to take one step back.
Clamslammer
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
