"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Using "dating" as code for sex

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Just because you go on a couple of dates with a woman it's not like you're dating her.
I disagree with @pyros. You're not the first person to say it but I vehemently disagree with it every time I hear it. I don't care if it's the way people talk. It contradicts the rules of the English language.

If you go on more than one date with someone, you are literally dating them. It's not a code word for sex. How about we call sex with romance a relationship and we call sex without romance casual sex.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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andreihaha

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Fk rules of the English language.
If there's no sexual tension, no kissing, you can call it dating but it doesn't make much of a difference.
 

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Fk rules of the English language.
If there's no sexual tension, no kissing, you can call it dating but it doesn't make much of a difference.
Yeah sure I get what you're saying. You go on a few dates, there's kissing, tension, so you're dating. You go on a few dates, for whatever reason there's no kissing or tension, you were dating. It didn't work out.

I'm just saying, you want a code word for "We're fcking," how about you say we're skorping? Just make up a word if that's what you want. Dating is already a word and it means to go on dates.
 

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Fk rules of the English language.
If there's no sexual tension, no kissing, you can call it dating but it doesn't make much of a difference.
And that’s exactly why women love using it: to hide their promiscuous activities. Same thing they did with “seeing” someone.
 

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And that’s exactly why women love using it: to hide their promiscuous activities. Same thing they did with “seeing” someone.
Not just women.
"She's just a girl I'm seeing, nothing serious" works a lot better than it should.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dating means going on multiple dates by very definition of the word. Now, that could all lead to no sex, you can bang a chick 3 times you're not even dating.

The definition of dating, seeing, f*cking etc only matters to the person you're saying it to. What are you really trying to say here?
 
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