"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What does narcissist do wheb they sense youre physically/emotionally checking out.

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We could be doing or thinking something that benefits us instead of to discuss them. Making progress. Growing. Adjusting our boundaries so one of them couldn't happen again.
Our technology has enough to handle multitasking. More processing cores more power. ;)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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Our technology has enough to handle multitasking. More processing cores more power. ;)
Continuing to process negative events is a waste of computational power. Psychology weighs negative thought at somewhere between 6 and 16 times more powerful than positive thoughts. Thus for each one negative thought or you will need 6-16 positive thoughts to overcome it.
 

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Yeah they are masters at the silent treatment. MASTERS. They can go days, weeks, months and even years doing it. They can also pop back in whenever they’re ready like nothing ever happened. It’s not about you, it’s about them and how useful you can be to them. The covert narcissist I dated for a year, it took me awhile but I sorta figured out her patterns. Every 6-7 weeks she would devalue me and discard me, I didn’t always know the reason but the timeline always matched up to 6-7 weeks. She’d gaslight me into starting a fight so she could use that ad the excuse to ignore me. In the beginning it lasted for 12 hours, then it would go to 2-4 days, then it would go to a week, then a couple weeks, then the final discard lasted a couple months. She ended up popping back into my life wanting to meet up and talk, even though I’d been pushing it and was getting ignored so I dropped it. It had to be on her terms not mine. The meetup had to be her idea, and it seemed normal for awhile again but it was all a play. She ended up discarding me for good not long after that and I haven’t heard from her since.
Lucky you. Your self worth starts rising immediately after her.
 
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