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What does narcissist do wheb they sense youre physically/emotionally checking out.

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I'm thinking of letting go 1 active narcicist begun as an very short LTR. Im thinking of putting her in my orbiters status, seemingly shes not just that harley quinn type of narc that i would like to hang around..

This malignant narc im currently with are too boring to even played with, lol its must be humorous to all of you.

Shes currently doesnt realize that im playing with her all the way right now, so what they do if they know youre on run mode?? Not actually running, she doesnt have any important roles in my life, its too boring.
 

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You must be mentally exhausted if you’re playing games with a narcissist. These people spend their whole lives crafting their personality and games, they aren’t like normal people. You’re basically trying to outsmart a crazy person, and if you aren’t crazy then you’re going to wear yourself out. They can sense you’re about to check out and they’ll discard you. Here’s how it’s going to go, she will talk you into staying and then she will discard you not long after. They have to win, at all cost.
 

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Just what Robert said. Was hooking up with a girl I went to highschool with. She had gone onto a d1 college on a scholarship and then when she graduated moved to LA and modeled.

at first I was simply thinking with my friend below the waist. She is a ten....after a month and a half of listening to her I was physically repulsed by everything about her. I started to hate her.... so I ghosted her and she had an epic meltdown. A few months after that she was texting me... It was a calculated play for her. She completely changed her personality during the text exchange and at one point brought up meeting up. I was drunk and said sure we can meet up again. The next day I got a scathing text about how she would never allow me to hurt her again and how horrible I was,... I literally laughed for 15 minutes because her ego was so massive she had to find a way to be the one that ended it.
 

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She will talk you into staying and then she will discard you not long after. They have to win, at all cost.
Shes currently in her training me mode by Withdrawal of affection and attention as their standards sop while busy grooming their fresh victims, so she doesnt hold any power on me.

So short lives then? Ok thats even good reason to leave early.
 

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Just what Robert said. Was hooking up with a girl I went to highschool with. She had gone onto a d1 college on a scholarship and then when she graduated moved to LA and modeled.

at first I was simply thinking with my friend below the waist. She is a ten....after a month and a half of listening to her I was physically repulsed by everything about her. I started to hate her.... so I ghosted her and she had an epic meltdown. A few months after that she was texting me... It was a calculated play for her. She completely changed her personality during the text exchange and at one point brought up meeting up. I was drunk and said sure we can meet up again. The next day I got a scathing text about how she would never allow me to hurt her again and how horrible I was,... I literally laughed for 15 minutes because her ego was so massive she had to find a way to be the one that ended it.
This is sooo goood, i will try this.
 

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Shes currently in her training me mode by Withdrawal of affection and attention as their standards sop while busy grooming their fresh victims, so she doesnt hold any power on me.

So short lives then? Ok thats even good reason to leave early.
Yeah they are masters at the silent treatment. MASTERS. They can go days, weeks, months and even years doing it. They can also pop back in whenever they’re ready like nothing ever happened. It’s not about you, it’s about them and how useful you can be to them. The covert narcissist I dated for a year, it took me awhile but I sorta figured out her patterns. Every 6-7 weeks she would devalue me and discard me, I didn’t always know the reason but the timeline always matched up to 6-7 weeks. She’d gaslight me into starting a fight so she could use that ad the excuse to ignore me. In the beginning it lasted for 12 hours, then it would go to 2-4 days, then it would go to a week, then a couple weeks, then the final discard lasted a couple months. She ended up popping back into my life wanting to meet up and talk, even though I’d been pushing it and was getting ignored so I dropped it. It had to be on her terms not mine. The meetup had to be her idea, and it seemed normal for awhile again but it was all a play. She ended up discarding me for good not long after that and I haven’t heard from her since.
 

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Yeah they are masters at the silent treatment. MASTERS. They can go days, weeks, months and even years doing it. They can also pop back in whenever they’re ready like nothing ever happened. It’s not about you, it’s about them and how useful you can be to them. The covert narcissist I dated for a year, it took me awhile but I sorta figured out her patterns. Every 6-7 weeks she would devalue me and discard me, I didn’t always know the reason but the timeline always matched up to 6-7 weeks. She’d gaslight me into starting a fight so she could use that ad the excuse to ignore me. In the beginning it lasted for 12 hours, then it would go to 2-4 days, then it would go to a week, then a couple weeks, then the final discard lasted a couple months. She ended up popping back into my life wanting to meet up and talk, even though I’d been pushing it and was getting ignored so I dropped it. It had to be on her terms not mine. The meetup had to be her idea, and it seemed normal for awhile again but it was all a play. She ended up discarding me for good not long after that and I haven’t heard from her since.
Feel dearly sorry for you,

Yeah it will seems normal for while, but u can obviously should've not ignore all the red flags. Its legit and your instinct wont ever lie to you!

I entered this relationship solely base on feelings, and ended up as well with the same consciousness.

This one withdraw affection/passive agressive mode within 1 weeks intervals.. I bet shes so desperately for supplies that she had to push for powerplay that soon.

The best part the last time i spoke to her on the phone yesterday she sound exhausted - thats a good indicator of melting down for not getting any emotional response from me or supplies, today are one of the weakest day in my life since im getting 3 minor surgery this morning, doing recovery at home, im expecting her to take this the best opportunity to destroy me, she wait until now and still... I havent respond. Haha

Think this are the best time to go completely ghost from her.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

You are not a person to an actual NPD narcissist. Rather you are an object. That means you are an extension of the narcissist and you have value only if/when they choose to play with you/use you.

That means in the mind of the narcissist you have no agency; no autonomy. That is why it makes them angry when you exercise agency or autonomy...you aren’t supposed to think or act for yourself.

But few people are actually NPD level folks.

The best way to handle a narcissist is to walk away and pre-emptively leave them. They lose in that sense and it is injurious for them to lose, because after all, how dare you...they are better than you.

They will avoid you if they feel they cannot win with you. Otherwise they will try at some point to reel you back in.

It is not a normal dynamic and cannot be viewed as such.
 

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Shes currently in her training me mode by Withdrawal of affection and attention as their standards sop while busy grooming their fresh victims, so she doesnt hold any power on me.

So short lives then? Ok thats even good reason to leave early.
Dump and enjoy the fireworks lol
 

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Yeah they are masters at the silent treatment. MASTERS. They can go days, weeks, months and even years doing it. They can also pop back in whenever they’re ready like nothing ever happened. It’s not about you, it’s about them and how useful you can be to them. The covert narcissist I dated for a year, it took me awhile but I sorta figured out her patterns. Every 6-7 weeks she would devalue me and discard me, I didn’t always know the reason but the timeline always matched up to 6-7 weeks. She’d gaslight me into starting a fight so she could use that ad the excuse to ignore me. In the beginning it lasted for 12 hours, then it would go to 2-4 days, then it would go to a week, then a couple weeks, then the final discard lasted a couple months. She ended up popping back into my life wanting to meet up and talk, even though I’d been pushing it and was getting ignored so I dropped it. It had to be on her terms not mine. The meetup had to be her idea, and it seemed normal for awhile again but it was all a play. She ended up discarding me for good not long after that and I haven’t heard from her since.
Shes coming around to texting after a week of nc.. Boy i think this is when they talk to you for staying.. Youre right its like nothing had happened, the text goes saying "hi how are you? Why you're being quite? Is everything is ok?" im like what the fock. o_O
 

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Shes coming around to texting after a week of nc.. Boy i think this is when they talk to you for staying.. Youre right its like nothing had happened, the text goes saying "hi how are you? Why you're being quite? Is everything is ok?" im like what the fock. o_O
My first girlfriend would do that, Even when she had ignored prior texts all week lol. It's tied into her sleeping with other men.
 

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My first girlfriend would do that, Even when she had ignored prior texts all week lol. It's tied into her sleeping with other men.
Yes this are her second text.. Previous text were on the pre nc started.. Hows its tied into your ex sleeping with other man?
 

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Yes this are her second text.. Previous text were on the pre nc started.. Hows its tied into your ex sleeping with other man?
She knows that you would never text back if you would know that she has just phucked some other guy so it satisfies her that you are so gullible by texting back.

It fuels and confirms her covert disrespect for you (alpha would not write back so you are obedient provider of snacks-level interest).

It's actually a low-level revenge behaviour that 95% men don't get.
 

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I'm thinking of letting go 1 active narcicist begun as an very short LTR. Im thinking of putting her in my orbiters status, seemingly shes not just that harley quinn type of narc that i would like to hang around..

This malignant narc im currently with are too boring to even played with, lol its must be humorous to all of you.

Shes currently doesnt realize that im playing with her all the way right now, so what they do if they know youre on run mode?? Not actually running, she doesnt have any important roles in my life, its too boring.
All women are narcissists so if your woman(narcissist) is checking out then Soft Next her Black Dragon style. If you're in a monogamous LTR then your woman will inevitably "distance" at some point. It's how you handle it that will determine if she sticks around or not.

The worst thing you can do is beg and plead with a woman who is distancing. If she's distancing then you abruptly make yourself unavailable and it will screw with her ego, then you can re-attract her with a strong frame when she comes to you "searching for answers"
 

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I'm thinking of letting go 1 active narcicist begun as an very short LTR. Im thinking of putting her in my orbiters status, seemingly shes not just that harley quinn type of narc that i would like to hang around..

This malignant narc im currently with are too boring to even played with, lol its must be humorous to all of you.

Shes currently doesnt realize that im playing with her all the way right now, so what they do if they know youre on run mode?? Not actually running, she doesnt have any important roles in my life, its too boring.
You don't play with a narc... they play with you, but you don't realize it until it's too late.

I've been out of a really toxic family environment. My dad has a lot of those narcissist traits. It's an evil that I can explain... Being 3 months out of all that sh1t I can tell you how drained I was until now.

29 years trying to find a way to deal, accept, trying to fix my relationship with him... And he loved that.

If you stay around pigs, you will get dirty... Difference is that they like being dirt.

I almost took out my own life... They abuse you so silently, if you allow it and stay around those people, they will put you on such a sh1t that you can lost your desire to live.

I had a good job on his company, also I lived on one of his houses... And I just give up on all that. That offer he did is like a call to put me on a miserable cage. He can offer my 1 billion dollars, I would never accept that sh1t again.

My best advice would be: RUN.

This guy has a lot of good information on that topic:

 

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You don't play with a narc... they play with you, but you don't realize it until it's too late.

I've been out of a really toxic family environment. My dad has a lot of those narcissist traits. It's an evil that I can explain... Being 3 months out of all that sh1t I can tell you how drained I was until now.

29 years trying to find a way to deal, accept, trying to fix my relationship with him... And he loved that.

If you stay around pigs, you will get dirty... Difference is that they like being dirt.

I almost took out my own life... They abuse you so silently, if you allow it and stay around those people, they will put you on such a sh1t that you can lost your desire to live.

I had a good job on his company, also I lived on one of his houses... And I just give up on all that. That offer he did is like a call to put me on a miserable cage. He can offer my 1 billion dollars, I would never accept that sh1t again.

My best advice would be: RUN.

This guy has a lot of good information on that topic:

keep running too...until you've built up your own company
 

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I'm thinking of letting go 1 active narcicist begun as an very short LTR. Im thinking of putting her in my orbiters status, seemingly shes not just that harley quinn type of narc that i would like to hang around..

This malignant narc im currently with are too boring to even played with, lol its must be humorous to all of you.

Shes currently doesnt realize that im playing with her all the way right now, so what they do if they know youre on run mode?? Not actually running, she doesnt have any important roles in my life, its too boring.
There is no other advice to give on a narcissist, bipolar, bpd, sociopath, or histrionic personality disorder---- other than this -- Any cluster b personality = immediate next.

Just don't.
 
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