"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do alpha widows ever get over the alpha?

TonyTenner

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Even if it was 10 years ago.

And since the vast majority of people on these forums are not natural alphas - else how would you have found your way here - how do you deal with an alpha widow?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The answer is yes. Women can and do get over alpha men. I only date men who exhibit natural leadership and alpha qualities (and always have)...

@Mauser96 is correct. You are asking the wrong question. Your attraction and hers is between you & her. Doesn’t matter who came before you.

I just emerged recently from a 3 LTR with an alpha...guess what. Another alpha took no time getting on my calendar...he was simply direct, no nonsense and unapologetic about wanting to get to know me.

Normally I like to cast about by myself a bit to get grounded coming out of a major relationship but the writing had been on the wall for a time in my LTR and I can only control my side of the equation...so I knew to be open to other men. In fact my ex BF’s best friend thought my ex was “an idiot” and that I should accept dates from others if I met someone appealing. And my ex’s best friend liked me a great deal and thought I was the best woman he’d ever seen with my ex in 25 years...and knew I deeply loved him...but it was not going to work in the end...

And the man I’m getting to know currently is too good to pass up. Obviously it’s new and uncharted but developing in an organic way.

So never worry about what came before. If she likes you well enough her ex simply will not factor into the equation.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The answer is yes. Women can and do get over alpha men. I only date men who exhibit natural leadership and alpha qualities (and always have)...

@Mauser96 is correct. You are asking the wrong question. Your attraction and hers is between you & her. Doesn’t matter who came before you.

I just emerged recently from a 3 LTR with an alpha...guess what. Another alpha took no time getting on my calendar...he was simply direct, no nonsense and unapologetic about wanting to get to know me.

Normally I like to cast about by myself a bit to get grounded coming out of a major relationship but the writing had been on the wall for a time in my LTR and I can only control my side of the equation...so I knew to be open to other men. In fact my ex BF’s best friend thought my ex was “an idiot” and that I should accept dates from others if I met someone appealing. And my ex’s best friend liked me a great deal and thought I was the best woman he’d ever seen with my ex in 25 years...and knew I deeply loved him...but it was not going to work in the end...

And the man I’m getting to know currently is too good to pass up. Obviously it’s new and uncharted but developing in an organic way.

So never worry about what came before. If she likes you well enough her ex simply will not factor into the equation.
And so it boils down to this: does she perceive me as alpha.
 

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The more men a woman experience and the more she gets unable to bond and unreasonable in her demands.

If you want a traditional family, make it happen in your late 20s with a girl in her early to mid20s with a low body count and still many overall life experiences to make.

You are not gonna bond with a mid30s average girl not even if you throw warehouse glue on her.
 

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The more men a woman experience and the more she gets unable to bond and unreasonable in her demands.

If you want a traditional family, make it happen in your late 20s with a girl in her early to mid20s with a low body count and still many overall life experiences to make.

You are not gonna bond with a mid30s average girl not even if you throw warehouse glue on her.
Lol. And what if you're in your late 30s like me?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Which gets the the question of if alpha can be achieved for a non-natural
All this natural thing is gay af when you over 30s bro

Being alpha is just living the life you want for good or bad, like letting go.. this is not natural this is bad as$
 

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Your incel terminology is so bizarre, it's not really possible to respond to it accurately.

What can be said however is that no, women can never be truly happy with a beta male after dating an alpha.

Furthermore, a woman can never be happy with a beta after choosing an alpha and being turned down.

Basically, every guy after is a busted black and white 4" cathode ray tube tv she pulled out of the dumpster after a few glorious seconds of viewing everything in 5K SuperHD 3-D virtual reality.

Even if it was 10 years ago.

And since the vast majority of people on these forums are not natural alphas - else how would you have found your way here - how do you deal with an alpha widow?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Your incel terminology is so bizarre, it's not really possible to respond to it accurately.

What can be said however is that no, women can never be truly happy with a beta male after dating an alpha.

Furthermore, a woman can never be happy with a beta after choosing an alpha and being turned down.

Basically, every guy after is a busted black and white 4" cathode ray tube tv she pulled out of the dumpster after a few glorious seconds of viewing everything in 5K SuperHD 3-D virtual reality.
Your last paragraph is more incel than anything I said.
 

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All this natural thing is gay af when you over 30s bro

Being alpha is just living the life you want for good or bad, like letting go.. this is not natural this is bad as$
Totally agree but there's a social situation element to it too. You can be living life on your terms but women's calibration in social situations can still peg you as beta.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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