Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

saw my ex at a bar

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It’s for her own ego and mental state. Only she can answer that question. The more important question is why do you care when you tell us you don’t …
I tell myself idgaf but I obviously do... not as much as I did but I do can't lie. Why do I care ive been banging decent looking girls
 

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Only you can answer that one…
I think because in the beginning it went so well. 99% sure she has bpd. Read up on it its unpredictable and ruinous of men with who fast it goes from amazing to them vanishing
 

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she is trying to illicit a response from you because that is exactly what all ex girlfriends do lol MOST of the time it really has no effective meaning. And even if it did, they all hide behind thier cryptic actions by not taking actual action, if that makes sense. I honestly think her behavior is quite normal. This is how girls are. I feel like your the only one in this thread whose surprised by this behavior. By everything you’ve said, I’ve had girls do ALOT more outrageous **** to me after we broke up and still want nothing to do to me. Just brush it off. Your looking for a response your not going to get.
 

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I think because in the beginning it went so well. 99% sure she has bpd. Read up on it its unpredictable and ruinous of men with who fast it goes from amazing to them vanishing
You're someone who needs to find out if there is "some more" behind that closed door. Sometimes it's better to walk away. Can you manage to be alone for long periods of time? I know people who go crazy when they're alone with their thoughts. They need ego validation so bad and stuff those self esteem holes with materialistic fillers. They also need to be surrounded by people 24/7. Do you recognize similarities within yourself? I'm not being sarcastic here. I'm asking you for real if you can see the same things happening within your life?
 

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You're someone who needs to find out if there is "some more" behind that closed door. Sometimes it's better to walk away. Can you manage to be alone for long periods of time? I know people who go crazy when they're alone with their thoughts. They need ego validation so bad and stuff those self esteem holes with materialistic fillers. They also need to be surrounded by people 24/7. Do you recognize similarities within yourself? I'm not being sarcastic here. I'm asking you for real if you can see the same things happening within your life?
I do like to always be into something and surround myself with people . I've been alone for a year now and never pursued a gf though. I think she rocked my ego so bad its still to this day affecting me. You are exactly right I am looking to see if there is more behind that closed do but from what yall are saying its just not worth it
 

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I can't let a brother fall into the abyss
Apparently you either didn't read or misunderstood what "Glassguy" said.

You say you can't let a brother fall into the abyss.

Sir......he can't fall into the abyss. The abyss is ABOVE him. For him,the abyss would be a step UP.

You're new here.....this is a film you haven't seen before. Check MY join date. I've seen the "Ryan Adams" movie a THOUSAND TIMES before......always starts and ends the same way. But don't believe me. Go ahead,have a look for yourself........

Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...ext-7-months-out-of-absolutly-nowhere.264811/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/how-to-rise-above-and-be-better.265083/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/ex-is-hoovering.265724/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/me-again-question-about-a-past-ghoster.253778/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/question-on-ghosting.249469/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/why-is-she-still-on-my-mind.249240/


Sir,I could go on and on. I posted those links not to discourage you,but to simply let you know what you're up against.

So go head....save him from his abyss. Maybe you can succeed where the rest of the entire forum has failed. Good luck.


(cause you're gonna need it)
 

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Apparently you either didn't read or misunderstood what "Glassguy" said.

You say you can't let a brother fall into the abyss.

Sir......he can't fall into the abyss. The abyss is ABOVE him. For him,the abyss would be a step UP.
The problem with helping an attention seeker like Ryan is this: they will drag you down to their wasteful thinking if you let them.

I am all about helping people on here that truly want help. I get DM's from guys that are hung up on a situation and need advice. 90% of the time I can tell they are looking for something that they can implement to be a better person in the dating world, have a better outlook, abundance mindset and stronger frame. I love helping those people. I refuse to help the emotional tampons of SoSuave and the attention wh0re men who create the same redundant posts about doing the same needy/clingy/desperate things over and over.

Only the woman in the situation changes and the guy is always the common denominator. The guy never seems to figure that out.

To be good in the dating world you have to be smart. Witt and intelligence goes a long way (and a human psych background doesnt hurt either) and a select few of these posters on here just dont get it......thus they continue burning bridges with potential women and dont even know it.

So they are the abyss. If you hang around too long, it could be contagious because we ALL have a person inside of us that can be a little needy and clingy if we allow that type of thinking in our lives. I will choose to attempt to help someone once or twice and if they just want to remain the same person that stays spiteful in the dating world because they dont want to change their ways in order to improve themselves, let them stay where they are at.

In this world there are 3 types of people:

1.) The ones that make things happen
2.) The ones that watch things happen
3.) The ones that ask "what happened"

If you arent in the first group, its time for change.
 

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I agree i need to change. I need to train my mind to stop being so goddamn needy
The problem with helping an attention seeker like Ryan is this: they will drag you down to their wasteful thinking if you let them.

I am all about helping people on here that truly want help. I get DM's from guys that are hung up on a situation and need advice. 90% of the time I can tell they are looking for something that they can implement to be a better person in the dating world, have a better outlook, abundance mindset and stronger frame. I love helping those people. I refuse to help the emotional tampons of SoSuave and the attention wh0re men who create the same redundant posts about doing the same needy/clingy/desperate things over and over.

Only the woman in the situation changes and the guy is always the common denominator. The guy never seems to figure that out.

To be good in the dating world you have to be smart. Witt and intelligence goes a long way (and a human psych background doesnt hurt either) and a select few of these posters on here just dont get it......thus they continue burning bridges with potential women and dont even know it.

So they are the abyss. If you hang around too long, it could be contagious because we ALL have a person inside of us that can be a little needy and clingy if we allow that type of thinking in our lives. I will choose to attempt to help someone once or twice and if they just want to remain the same person that stays spiteful in the dating world because they dont want to change their ways in order to improve themselves, let them stay where they are at.

In this world there are 3 types of people:

1.) The ones that make things happen
2.) The ones that watch things happen
3.) The ones that ask "what happened"

If you arent in the first group, its time for change.
. I agree i do need to change I literally agree. I mean fvck her. Glassguy you seem to have your head on straight. In my situation that I'm in now I should do absolutely nothing. Her friend called me off her phone last night and left a message saying cme pick her up she's drunk. I saw it didn't answer and just left it alone. About a week ago I would of been that dumbass driving her home
 

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Apparently you either didn't read or misunderstood what "Glassguy" said.

You say you can't let a brother fall into the abyss.

Sir......he can't fall into the abyss. The abyss is ABOVE him. For him,the abyss would be a step UP.

You're new here.....this is a film you haven't seen before. Check MY join date. I've seen the "Ryan Adams" movie a THOUSAND TIMES before......always starts and ends the same way. But don't believe me. Go ahead,have a look for yourself........

Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...ext-7-months-out-of-absolutly-nowhere.264811/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/how-to-rise-above-and-be-better.265083/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/ex-is-hoovering.265724/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/me-again-question-about-a-past-ghoster.253778/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/question-on-ghosting.249469/
Here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/why-is-she-still-on-my-mind.249240/


Sir,I could go on and on. I posted those links not to discourage you,but to simply let you know what you're up against.

So go head....save him from his abyss. Maybe you can succeed where the rest of the entire forum has failed. Good luck.


(cause you're gonna need it)
I understand that you guys have been here longer than I have. I've checked out older threads before I signed up here and I think one of them was Ryan's post. I don't care whether he eats sh*t with girls all over again within the next calendar week. It's my personality to dig through things and learn all the facts before I decide whether it's worth it for me to be proactive any further.

We'll see if he's on the beta board next season again. Don't disappoint us @Ryan Adams. And if you do, make sure it's entertaining as hell for us.

 
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