"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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I was engaging into a conversation with one of my female co workers. Shes 54 but look like she's 20. Yes she look that good so anyway we will talk every now n then on the job nothing about hooking up just casual conversation. We eventually got on the topic about how she just had her house remodeled and a huge bedroom with a king size bed. She asked me have I saw pics of it and I responded no. She said she was gonna send me pics of it. She sent me 3 pics. One with her kitchen floor, another with her huge room n bed and last one with her in her room dress up like she going out and put a heart between her breasts cause she was wearing a low cut shirt. She got that heart from snap chat Im assuming. I complicated her kitchen, bed and I asked who is that sexy woman standing in that room. She responded her daughter which she only has 2 sons and no daughter. My question is was she being friendly or was she trying to enticed me?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Being friendly. Even if she wasn’t just being friendly she works with you, so better if you pretend she was just being friendly.
Thats what I did cause I dont want to interpret all this wrong so I just kept it casuel.
 

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Lol she knows what she’s doing. Either she just want attention from you or she could be testing the waters to see if you like her. My guess the latter.

My advice; flow with whatever may happen. You only got one life to live. Stop limiting yourself with these “rules”.
 
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Lol she knows what she’s doing. Either she just want attention from you or she could be testing the waters to see if you like her. My guess the latter.

My advice; flow with whatever may happen. You only got one life to live. Stop limiting yourself with these “rules”.
You right thats why I replied when she sent me that
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was engaging into a conversation with one of my female co workers. Shes 54 but look like she's 20. Yes she look that good so anyway we will talk every now n then on the job nothing about hooking up just casual conversation. We eventually got on the topic about how she just had her house remodeled and a huge bedroom with a king size bed. She asked me have I saw pics of it and I responded no. She said she was gonna send me pics of it. She sent me 3 pics. One with her kitchen floor, another with her huge room n bed and last one with her in her room dress up like she going out and put a heart between her breasts cause she was wearing a low cut shirt. She got that heart from snap chat Im assuming. I complicated her kitchen, bed and I asked who is that sexy woman standing in that room. She responded her daughter which she only has 2 sons and no daughter. My question is was she being friendly or was she trying to enticed me?
She is looking for validation.. She wants to know if 'she still got it' and if she can get a reaction out of a guy half her age.

She is a coworker. Do not engage.
 

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I wouldn't call that flirting if I were you.

Looking at pictures of a remodeled house, a remodeled kitchen, and a bedroom with a bed in it doesn't seem very sexual to me.

If you think about what turns you on, then you would know if she's flirting or hinting something sexual with you or not.
Looking at the interior of someone's house does nothing for me.
Just being real.
 

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She is looking for validation.. She wants to know if 'she still got it' and if she can get a reaction out of a guy half her age.

She is a coworker. Do not engage.
This

No woman is worth losing your job/career over in this #metoo era, especially not a 54yo that's most likely on menopause and can't get wet or wanna have sex. The closest thing to sex is her dopamine rush through validation, whether it be online, work, out and about, etc. They always find suckers to entice...

A good comeback would've been, Oh my, is that work appropriate?
 
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Riiight MILF hunter...

Screwing much older woman at work is hardly a good idea. You must be really thirsty for poosy.
If u read my post correctly you would see that Im not making it all about the pvssy like some of u weak ass men on here. I simply asked a question about her sending me a pic when we discussed about her house being remodeled dumb azz
 
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Relax, I was just teasing you.

At my current state, I would probably give it a thought if I was you - still, it's universally bad idea. I do understand the being intrigued part however.
Lol my bad man its just hard to interpret the context and I do wanna give it a chance but at the same time I think about my job as well
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She is looking for validation.. She wants to know if 'she still got it' and if she can get a reaction out of a guy half her age.

She is a coworker. Do not engage.
I will co-sign this as well.
 
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I remember that there was this great guide about dating/picking up women at work (can't find it on my hard drive now) neverthless I would try to find it. The key is to catch eye contact and hold it too long with the coworker you are interested in - I used this efficiently to pick up a coworker when I was working in large international company several years ago. Smooth, seducing look into her eyes few seconds too long.

Of course you shouldn't do it.
Hell I should try it but damn it might get me in trouble if it works lol
 

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I've never seen a 54 year old woman that looks like she's 20. Surely you're exaggerating. But anyway, you think she's hot and I assume you want to bang. You have to be extra careful here because she's from work. I'd advise just inviting her out somewhere for a drink together and then make a move on her subtly whilst you're out drinking together. If she's not 100% cooperative then fall back quickly and then just forget about her.
 
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I've never seen a 54 year old woman that looks like she's 20. Surely you're exaggerating. But anyway, you think she's hot and I assume you want to bang. You have to be extra careful here because she's from work. I'd advise just inviting her out somewhere for a drink together and then make a move on her subtly whilst you're out drinking together. If she's not 100% cooperative then fall back quickly and then just forget about her.
Well thanks for the advice but I can tell you havent been around enough women cause surely there are a lot of older women that look a whole lot younger.
 

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Well thanks for the advice but I can tell you havent been around enough women cause surely there are a lot of older women that look a whole lot younger.
There are women that look younger than their age but I've never seen a 54 year old that looks 20. Not that it really matters because if she's attractive to you then that's what's important.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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