Only BE knows for sure, but since this is a male dominated forum, I'll offer my perspective (which differs entirely from yours.. and that's okay of course).
My initial impression from seeing the phrase.... "advice from an old lady" was that ... here's a woman that is comfortable in her own skin. So much in fact that she can have a little fun with the intro. From reading her postings, I never got the impression that she is dismissing her value as a woman or as a forum contributor.
You're right,
none of that.
It's the selfnegging I'd love to see her stop.
Whether any of us uses the word old or incel or afc or shy we are all just reinforcing some negative internal dialog.
I'm powerless to go and find her recent ex and 'have a talk' with him for getting physically abusive.
When any gender shares that something physically abusive happened the reader isn't also reading 'but I hit/shoved/grabbed them harder right back'
Its the maelstrom of indignant anger I feel towards her ex for daring to intimidate her and the tired smh at reading yet another selfneg.
Is it a reach to say the start of the path with selfnegging leads down the path of experiencing physical abuse?
Maybe.
I wish I was better at getting people to quickly 'know' me.
It was never a criticism of Be but a resigned and powerless feeling that I can almost see that path.
I struggle to communicate the feeling I have is of an older Aunt or sister that is protective. Not a policewoman blowing her little policewoman whistle.
I guess, in a way, there's that 'you go giirrll' feminist outrage that slips out and instead of endearing women to me, I distance them.
We've all seen videos of the white knight who goes to step in between a domestic physical fight and then experiences the woman defending the scumbag.
Rant over. I fail at encouraging women.
I bet her ex drives like an azzhole. Sorry to go offtopic your thread OP. Please don't keep going back and forth with me on this @blackwidowvoid, not fair to derail threads