Hello everyone, here something I need advice with,
So my girlfriend whom I been with for 9 months started to act different last two weeks. The typical stuff from"I love you so much" to zero of this sort, it's like talking to a friend rather than a girlfriend.
So the rational male in me asked if something was wrong...she ansered "no". Ok I believe her, then 1 week goes by and still the same thing...natuarly I start to ask myself if she was lying. I'm someone who likes to know the problem at the get go and solve it at the first sings. She acknowleges that she is acting differently but doesnt know why.
A side note, since the lockdown (the country I live in has implemented some firm rules) I haven't seen her in real life, only send messages, called or face timed. Also her mom with whom she lives, is a high risc patient when it comes to Covid-19 so my girlfriend is extemely carefull with everything she does. Hence the not seeing eachother.
Back to the main story. I said to her "listen, if you do or do not find out why you act differently, I don't care, I'm not going to change my behaviour toward you" this was because she got little bit pissed after asking the second what her problem was. Since then I kept my distance, never started a conversation, I let her do the honors. She most days she starts whit a "how was your day" and I just reply normally.
My first question is do I keep up this distance acting or do I start a conversation for a change?
Also we are going to meet this weekend( probably no physical contact as she is scared to make her mom sick)
So my second question is do I put her in place by saying she is acting disrespectful towards me and that she has to figure her **** out, think about if she wants to keep on going. This for giving her the feeling I can brake up with her, that I'm not going to get on my knees and beg or say such wonderfull thing about our futer to convince her. Or do I act like nothing is wrong?
Keep in mind that I do love her, we have things in common, same look at life(more than I had with my other girlfriends)and we have a great time together, so this could get into a serious relationship... but this just caught me by suprise because I didn't expect this kind of behavoiur from her. I don't see a reason for her acting dry towards me and she doesn't know why she is like that.
For those who are asking what I want, I do want to continue to have a relationship with her I just don't know how to handle this situation to avoid a down spiral.
Thanks in advance!
So my girlfriend whom I been with for 9 months started to act different last two weeks. The typical stuff from"I love you so much" to zero of this sort, it's like talking to a friend rather than a girlfriend.
So the rational male in me asked if something was wrong...she ansered "no". Ok I believe her, then 1 week goes by and still the same thing...natuarly I start to ask myself if she was lying. I'm someone who likes to know the problem at the get go and solve it at the first sings. She acknowleges that she is acting differently but doesnt know why.
A side note, since the lockdown (the country I live in has implemented some firm rules) I haven't seen her in real life, only send messages, called or face timed. Also her mom with whom she lives, is a high risc patient when it comes to Covid-19 so my girlfriend is extemely carefull with everything she does. Hence the not seeing eachother.
Back to the main story. I said to her "listen, if you do or do not find out why you act differently, I don't care, I'm not going to change my behaviour toward you" this was because she got little bit pissed after asking the second what her problem was. Since then I kept my distance, never started a conversation, I let her do the honors. She most days she starts whit a "how was your day" and I just reply normally.
My first question is do I keep up this distance acting or do I start a conversation for a change?
Also we are going to meet this weekend( probably no physical contact as she is scared to make her mom sick)
So my second question is do I put her in place by saying she is acting disrespectful towards me and that she has to figure her **** out, think about if she wants to keep on going. This for giving her the feeling I can brake up with her, that I'm not going to get on my knees and beg or say such wonderfull thing about our futer to convince her. Or do I act like nothing is wrong?
Keep in mind that I do love her, we have things in common, same look at life(more than I had with my other girlfriends)and we have a great time together, so this could get into a serious relationship... but this just caught me by suprise because I didn't expect this kind of behavoiur from her. I don't see a reason for her acting dry towards me and she doesn't know why she is like that.
For those who are asking what I want, I do want to continue to have a relationship with her I just don't know how to handle this situation to avoid a down spiral.
Thanks in advance!
