She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
'common knowledge to realize the social circle is key' actually came from member stormrider in another post. He's written this before too.Glad you have the common knowledge to realize the social circle is key to meeting women. Bars and online dating do not work generally.
Just to expand on what you said:
Meetup.com
Check out your local community college or County Park Systems for classes.
Just a word of advice, most classes at a community college (e.g basic Spanish) are through the adult education catalog (not full semester classes and last maybe 3 to 8 weeks (at most) with classes once a week
I took a basic drawing class through a county park system. Good class, but only met once a week for six sessions.
These environments are fun and conducive to learning, but you don't spend enough time with the people to really make a social connection.
Better idea: Take a full semester real class on a topic of interest.
Look into taking a class at night at a community college or university where you can audit the class (You do all the assignments and homework, but you don't get a grade) This will cost you $300 to $500 but you will be with college paying students. My basic French class was 3 months, two nights a week. I was 35 or 36 with a bunch of 19 to 22 year olds and there was one person older. I didn't make any new friends when I left, but it could work since you are with these people alot longer than a Continuing Ed. Class.
Another great one: Join a gym and take a intructor taught course (Hiit, Kickboxing, Yoga, Spin) Most of the participants are women.
Volunteer somewhere! (Park System, food bank)
Alumni events (alot of the same people go)
Good Luck!
Happy and relaxed areas, genius.Dancing classes are good
Yoga classes are even better
No, no it's where most women I want to date hang out.Happy and relaxed areas, genius.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I just remember my Dad saying he got a lot of dates being on a champion high school football team.As a captain of the high school football team I got no ***** from it. You actually gotta get around girls and actually esculate and **** them.
Your better off spending all your time hitting up girls on the streets, at pubs and clubs, beaches shopping malls.
Spend 1-1.5 hours in the gym (home workout till futher notice), eat clean.
You need to focus on finding girls who are wanting to **** straight off the bat. Not spending time on girls who ain't even interested. Usually this is done through eye contact, keeping things fun, escualting, and then ****ing.
Being conscious is very attractive and girls will want to be around you and not get some sort of social status on money or sum **** from you.I just remember my Dad saying he got a lot of dates being on a champion high school football team.
I agree, you pretty much just have to place yourself in places where there's abundance of choice.
When the opportunity arises, isolate and escalate.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.