Is this salvageable?

[TonyTenner]

Move to the US chicks here love Irish accents. Women would be all over you... but you will have to take action when they put themselves in front of you.

Ya been a few times. Ex is from NYC. In the South, places like Texas and Tennessee, the accent really stands out. It gets your foot in the door alright, but you're right, if you don't escalate the accent is quickly forgotten.

 

[AttackFormation]

Haha you're absolutely spot on. I'll meet her next week and go for it, and **** it if it doesn't work. Just have to be careful and make sure she meets me. She may be reluctant now given my past wimpy behaviour. Any suggestions for angle I should go for with the texts? Im think short and direct "Im coming up next week, lets meet."

Yep just keep the texts simple and don't try to overcompensate, that's it.

Your words here, "I'll meet her next week and go for it, and **** it if it doesn't work" - that's my boy. Your goal should in my opinion always be to just make the escalation, regardless of whether you have sex or not. The goal is to just get past the psychological inhibitions and excuses by escalating, no matter what happens.

 

[TonyTenner]

Yep just keep the texts simple and don't try to overcompensate, that's it.

Simple text sent, immediate reply saying she'll meet me Monday.

The goal is to just get past the psychological inhibitions and excuses by escalating, no matter what happens.

Ya, thats the core of it, psychological inhibitions with this girl. I got you, I'll escalate no matter what. Thanks for the top top advice, these forums are great.

 

[Glassguy]

There are literally NO excuses for you not to have escalated. I mean sneak her into the bathroom for God's sake and put your hand over her mouth if you have to....she would have fvcking LOVED it.

Stop messaging her for now and see if she chases. If not then shoot her a message when you are ready to meet up and escalate properly.

The best advice from what I have read so far on this thread.

OP you bored her to death. 100% of women want FVCKED and they at least want to see a guy have the confidence and the balls to go for it at BARE MINIMUM. No excuses.

Another piece of @ss lost to failure to escalate.

Youre 37 years old. Get your shyte together and get your own place for crying out loud so you have an option to take a date.

Do NOT contact this chick again to meet up until you have it worked out to have privacy to fvck her. That is if you get another shot.

 

[NSX-R]

This hasn't happened since I was about 21! We literally have nowhere to do it. All hotels are shut and we both lived in shared houses with no visitors allowed (Ireland has gone completely INSANE with covid 19). I suggested the car and she said "I'm not 21"

I do feel you . Covid19 made me lost almost all of plates and made me plateless for the first time since years. I don’t like it either cause i was really into one of the plates and the current situation made it all worse . The only thing you can do is just look after yourself till this thing is over . There is not much you can do .

Also if the female can’t realize how hard it is for both of you to do something and acts weird, means she’s not too much into you . More or less we on the same situation so have some patience till all this thing is over and adjust your moves then.Hope things get better.

 

[TonyTenner]

The best advice from what I have read so far on this thread.

OP you bored her to death. 100% of women want FVCKED and they at least want to see a guy have the confidence and the balls to go for it at BARE MINIMUM. No excuses.

Another piece of @ss lost to failure to escalate.

Youre 37 years old. Get your shyte together and get your own place for crying out loud so you have an option to take a date.

Do NOT contact this chick again to meet up until you have it worked out to have privacy to fvck her. That is if you get another shot.

I agree with all of that but too late, the die is cast, I've crossed the Rubicon, she replied and meeting her next Monday. I've nowhere to bring her except the back seat of the car. At least I've a big roomy car.

 

[TonyTenner]

I do feel you . Covid19 made me lost almost all of plates and made me plateless for the first time since years. I don’t like it either cause i was really into one of the plates and the current situation made it all worse . The only thing you can do is just look after yourself till this thing is over . There is not much you can do .

Also if the female can’t realize how hard it is for both of you to do something and acts weird, means she’s not too much into you . More or less we on the same situation so have some patience till all this thing is over and adjust your moves then.Hope things get better.

Haha plates as in spinning plates? I like that metaphor.

 

[TonyTenner]

That sucks. Here too. Lets hope this gets better sooner then later.

Hope do - the pubs here do live up to their reputation.

 

[TonyTenner]

The best advice from what I have read so far on this thread.

OP you bored her to death. 100% of women want FVCKED and they at least want to see a guy have the confidence and the balls to go for it at BARE MINIMUM. No excuses.

Another piece of @ss lost to failure to escalate.

Youre 37 years old. Get your shyte together and get your own place for crying out loud so you have an option to take a date.

Do NOT contact this chick again to meet up until you have it worked out to have privacy to fvck her. That is if you get another shot.

By the way, just to give further context, on the third date I got her home to my house for a couple of hours, but she wouldn't stay over. It was a close call though. 2 days later Ireland went into this hard lockdown and my housemates banned all visitors. I've haven't been *****footing about the whole time - only since the lockdown cos I've basically given up on having sex with no place to do it.

 

[NSX-R]

Haha plates as in spinning plates? I like that metaphor.

Yes . It’s just a phrase people usually use around here mostly to describe the women they fck or they about to fck . You’ll see it often.

 

[TonyTenner]

Yes . It’s just a phrase people usually use around here mostly to describe the women they fck or they about to fck . You’ll see it often.

I'll remember that one. Ironically, the only one keeping any plates spinning is the guy who architected the lockdown

Exclusive: Government scientist Neil Ferguson resigns after breaking lockdown rules to meet his married lover

Prof Ferguson allowed the woman to visit him at home during the lockdown while lecturing the public on the need for strict social distancing

www.telegraph.co.uk

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

I know we're not compatible. The least I want out of this is to **** her, I've put too much work in not to. I think I'd be happy with that because I don't see myself with her long term. I would like to get her chasing me again though, which she was doing at the start. Your super aggressive strategy is the way to go. Im up for it, I've done it before.

Now to figure where and how to **** during this insane lockdown.

What I'm advising isn't aggressive at all. Your actions should be effortless, or at least appear to be. That's what she wants, a man to conquer her in his sleep. It only sounds aggressive to you because it's so against your passive nature.

And your mindset about this is super warped. You've put too much work in not to fuuck her? So what, she owes you? Do you act nice to women so that they pay you out with sex? Ever heard of cutting your losses? Your time would be better spent with a hooker.

You've dug a hole and made a particular impression on her, 'passive cuck'. You're not going to be able to flip that instantly and do everything in a boss manner to diick her down properly, especially with her doubting you every step of the way(because of the first impression). You're asking how to salvage this because you have no clue how to be a boss, forget faking it. That stuff should come to you naturally, it shouldn't be this big deal where you're sinking a ton of time planning things out, especially if you see nothing long term.

The effortless boss pipe laying mentality doesn't come overnight, it's a lifestyle. Forget the outcome of this one girl and focus on the process. You say you want to be a mack, good, now trust in the process of becoming one and execute. And again to be clear that does not mean desperately try to fuuck this girl. It means challenge yourself in all aspects of life. Work on your body, your mind, your clothes, your career, your social circles, until women are child's play by comparison.

Find dragons to conquer and let women be your joy when you take a break. Don't make women out to be the dragons, that's thinking like a cuck.

 

[Visionist]

Always tease. The more a girl is into you the less teasing you need to do, whilst still having her fantasize about you and blow up your phone with sexts - assuming you haven't already fvcked her.

The key is overcoming the naturally beta tendancy to look for "comfort" to tease, and in doing so trying to protect your ego and avoid rejection.

Maybe some part of you was blinded by her looks and that made you cautious about escalation or at least teasing her to keep her hot for you. Girls love public indecency and exhibitionism. The least you could have done was get hot and heavy with her in the park and clamp her hand on your d!ck through your trousers, leaving her desperately wet. She'd be the one asking you when you were going to have sex, not the other way around.

Please never again ask a woman if she can see herself having sex with you. Actions not words.

Fvck or tease.

 

[TonyTenner]

What I'm advising isn't aggressive at all. Your actions should be effortless, or at least appear to be. That's what she wants, a man to conquer her in his sleep. It only sounds aggressive to you because it's so against your passive nature.

And your mindset about this is super warped. You've put too much work in not to fuuck her? So what, she owes you? Do you act nice to women so that they pay you out with sex? Ever heard of cutting your losses? Your time would be better spent with a hooker.

You've dug a hole and made a particular impression on her, 'passive cuck'. You're not going to be able to flip that instantly and do everything in a boss manner to diick her down properly, especially with her doubting you every step of the way(because of the first impression). You're asking how to salvage this because you have no clue how to be a boss, forget faking it. That stuff should come to you naturally, it shouldn't be this big deal where you're sinking a ton of time planning things out, especially if you see nothing long term.

The effortless boss pipe laying mentality doesn't come overnight, it's a lifestyle. Forget the outcome of this one girl and focus on the process. You say you want to be a mack, good, now trust in the process of becoming one and execute. And again to be clear that does not mean desperately try to fuuck this girl. It means challenge yourself in all aspects of life. Work on your body, your mind, your clothes, your career, your social circles, until women are child's play by comparison.

Find dragons to conquer and let women be your joy when you take a break. Don't make women out to be the dragons, that's thinking like a cuck.

The dragon line is great.

You phrased this well. I do already do a lot of this stuff already - mind, body, career. My clothes could do with an overhaul though. I agree with you about not making women the goal - I got there a long time ago. Im 37 with a good career, and single because I choose to be, there were plenty of options to settle down.

I haven't had an issue like this in a long time. With this girl its been a combination of factors: I've never been with a girl this hot (close, but not this hot) and so self-doubt crept in. Combine that with the lockdown and no privacy, and I've let it slide into a situation where we're meeting up and going for walks like it's the 1800's in Victorian England.

To be clear: I do like this girl, I would like to fck her, and I would like to see her again when all of this is over. She is hard work and a puzzle and I want to solve it. We're meeting Monday, so that's my shot.

 

[TonyTenner]

An update: we met up. I went super-sexual straight away. After about 5 hours of teasing, we finally had sex, even though she was on her period. The advice here was vital. I shall be sticking around these forums.

 

[AttackFormation]

An update: we met up. I went super-sexual straight away. After about 5 hours of teasing, we finally had sex, even though she was on her period. The advice here was vital. I shall be sticking around these forums.

Attaboy...

 

[Lookatu]

An update: we met up. I went super-sexual straight away. After about 5 hours of teasing, we finally had sex, even though she was on her period. The advice here was vital. I shall be sticking around these forums.

I'm glad you didn't fall for the "I'm on my period" line whether it was an excuse or not. So where did you end up doing it then?

 

[TonyTenner]

I'm glad you didn't fall for the "I'm on my period" line whether it was an excuse or not. So where did you end up doing it then?

She was on her period alright, found that out. In the car

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She was on her period alright, found that out. In the car

So she wasn't a liar in that instance. You chose a different tunnel?

 

[TonyTenner]

So she wasn't a liar in that instance. You chose a different tunnel?

Nope just went for it, she's a 10, it helps.