I raised my kid on my own for years without the help of a woman. It has made me harder than I’ve ever been. It has also taught me the true value of what women can and cannot offer.
Before kids I used to think many women were of at least decent quality. After, few could hold a candle to what my child provides, and many more I found full of sh*t when they cry about how hard it is being single moms...collecting alimony, collecting child support, being able to dump the kids of with dad every other weekend so they can go be wh0res in the clubs, having family baby sit for free, not working or only working part time.
I did it all without any such luxuries, working rotating 12 hour shifts with no breaks and no financial or family support other than what I earned working. I learned just how hard I really was, and exactly how soft most women really are.
My standards with women blew sky high after having kids, and it took a hell of a woman to finally make the cut.
I’m not soft, brother. I just found someone worthy of my respect.
Wasn't questioning you integrity. I know your story, in regard to what you shared with us over the years, so I can understand your struggles and challenges that you and your daughter have faced. I commend you for that. I've been to the cancer wing of one of our hospitals in Stamford, so I can only imagine the pain and hell you and your daughter experienced. Both of you have gotten through some of the darkest days a person (or family) could ever imagine. That should only make your bond stronger and shows your true character. True character as not only a father, but a solid man.
As for someone worthy of your respect, well, only you can be the judge of that. I still stand by my statements with you meeting with a family law attorney prior to marriage. I've seen lessor dudes than you get destroyed by the system. You may had not gone through the system, but I had. It's not fun, and that was just for 16 months of marriage. The lady you marry is not the lady you will divorce. And true, she may not get anything, just like my ex-wife got zero. However, the attorney received $425.00 an hour and his associates received $250.00 an hour. The divorce won't sting, but the financial hit will be sting.
As for what a true lady can bring to your life these days, I am all ears. Most, not all, are garbage. Their true mask is shown if given enough time. It's about just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I am not negative or hate females at all. I am just a realist and face facts with facts. Am I jaded a bit, perhaps, but it comes from experience. You're around 12 years older than me, so I assume you have even more experience. I leave with the following quote that has served me well.. Trust, but verify.