Trash talking ex

[Rawksteddy]

I was hanging out with some random chick. And she was asking questions about my ex. And I trash talked the ex. Then we added each other to Facebook. And they’re friends. Lol. This situation could lead to a lot of drama. Should I just block the ex??

 

[MrWood]

trash talking an ex will never get a girl in your bed, now she knows what you will do when you break up with her

 

[GioWolf]

Trash talking an ex means she did something to anger you, which may demonstrate lower value. If you are a high value man, women don’t do things to anger you. It also means she’s still on your mind and pining over her. If you were over her, you wouldn’t care what she did.

 

[Rawksteddy]

Trash talking an ex means she did something to anger you, which may demonstrate lower value. If you are a high value man, women don’t do things to anger you. It also means she’s still on your mind and pining over her. If you were over her, you wouldn’t care what she did.

Bro she cheated on me

 

[MrWood]

Bro she cheated on me

good thing you weren't married... or had kids...

Let it go bro

 

[Rawksteddy]

Just do nothing.

I am curious however, if you were trash taking the ex - then you obviously have no use for her. Why is she on your FaceBook?

I dunno. Should I remove her??

 

[MrWood]

I dunno. Should I remove her??

this guy is going to need help gents...

 

[Rawksteddy]

this guy is going to need help gents...

Is that a yes then?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I was hanging out with some random chick. And she was asking questions about my ex. And I trash talked the ex. Then we added each other to Facebook. And they’re friends. Lol. This situation could lead to a lot of drama. Should I just block the ex??

Dumb move. Never trash your ex, it makes you look petty and can do nothing but ruin your chances with a new woman. There is no positive outcome from doing so.

 

[GioWolf]

Bro she cheated on me

That’s your fault. You became unattractive to her. She wasn’t yours, it was just your turn.

 

[RickTheToad]

I was hanging out with some random chick. And she was asking questions about my ex. And I trash talked the ex. Then we added each other to Facebook. And they’re friends. Lol. This situation could lead to a lot of drama. Should I just block the ex??

You should never trash talk an ex. You just say it never worked out and we just drifted apart. You wish her the best and hopes she finds what she's looking for. You know why? Simple, she can internalize this and thing well, if we do not work out, then this dude is going to bad mouth me to others too.

Get it?

 

[Visionist]

Girls also look at you in terms of your value and how you will affect their value.

All girls cheat, or want to cheat, but practically all of them want to pretend to be "good girls".

She doesn't want you spoiling her image down the line when she monkey branches from you. Image is everything to women. The idea that they are less superficial than men is grade AAA comedy. All they have is their image. Men have hobbies and pursuits.

 

[Black Widow Void]

. It also means she’s still on your mind and pining over her. If you were over her, you wouldn’t care what she did.

That’s your fault. You became unattractive to her. She wasn’t yours, it was just your turn.

@Rawksteddy


I see that you are a bit newer here. Don't let postings like the above give you the wrong impression about most forum members. Unfortunately, there's always going to be a few members that feel helpless in their own lives... and so they reach for the most overused canned-phrases and offer no actual constructive criticism (for a person with a low-self image, this offers them some quasi opportunity to feel 'empowered.')

Back to the subject:
Speaking about an ex on a current date isn't a good idea. This sub-communicates to the new date that you are still affected for the former gal. Also women are typically vanity creatures and crave recognition (this includes the ex that still had/has you as a social media friend .. and the current girl you've mentioned).

As far as women that cheat--- sometimes women are habitual cheaters and if their previous 'boyfriends' accepted this behavior, and as a result, they are more prone to do it again. Sounds like you put your foot down with the ex and demonstrated that you weren't willing to look the other way.

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

Bro she cheated on me

Because you were not man enough for her devotion and loyalty.

 

[Baibars]

Because you were not man enough for her devotion and loyalty.

Yes, thats the reason in her eyes but he was not fully responsible for all of her actions. He is responsible for his own live and if he allows cheating.
Even if he was man enough she could be a person that would cheat sooner or later. Being a man guarantees not lifelong devotion and loyalty from a particullar girl.

 

[Roober]

I often take the high road with exes, coworkers, family and friends... Regardless of what they have done to me in the past. Talking trash is the result of harboring anger and resentment, which means they are renting real estate in your heart and mind. And this is rent free. I do not approve of anyone looting anything from my hard work, especially the real estate in my mind.

It does nobody any good, and often just makes you look bad in the process. Think about it. It is absolutely pointless, other than momentary relief of frustrations or a bad mood.

I will admit that I do slip sometimes in moments of frustration, but get back on track once I recognize my weakness.

 

[Rawksteddy]

@Rawksteddy


I see that you are a bit newer here. Don't let postings like the above give you the wrong impression about most forum members. Unfortunately, there's always going to be a few members that feel helpless in their own lives... and so they reach for the most overused canned-phrases and offer no actual constructive criticism (for a person with a low-self image, this offers them some quasi opportunity to feel 'empowered.')

Back to the subject:
Speaking about an ex on a current date isn't a good idea. This sub-communicates to the new date that you are still affected for the former gal. Also women are typically vanity creatures and crave recognition (this includes the ex that still had/has you as a social media friend .. and the current girl you've mentioned).

As far as women that cheat--- sometimes women are habitual cheaters and if their previous 'boyfriends' accepted this behavior, and as a result, they are more prone to do it again. Sounds like you put your foot down with the ex and demonstrated that you weren't willing to look the other way.

I guess deep down I’ve left the door open for some sort of reconciliation with my ex. And things with her have been on and off again. I suppose if I were to unfriend her, it’d impose a certain element of finality to the whole thing and that’s probably a good choice. I haven’t been contacting her or anything.

On Thursday I went out to the bar and got too drunk and blacked out. I woke up Friday morning with some random girl next to me. I kicked her out and just spent my day kinda hung over.

Then last night, the girl that I had been trash talking to hit me up and asked if I wanted to hang out. But I was too hungover so I told her that I had to work in the morning, but we should make plans for when I’m free. She hasn’t responded yet but I’m sure she will eventually.

 

[dude99]

Bro she cheated on me

When they cheat on you, you cut all ties, including facebook, and you walk away. They no longer exist. You dont trash talk, insult or speak bad of them they are just someone you used to know and now are no longer a part of your life-- ever again.

Trash talking shows you are still harboring feelings for them. Harboring feelings for a cheater is counter productive. You cut ties. You walk away.

Yes. Delete her from your facebook.

 

[Rawksteddy]

When they cheat on you, you cut all ties, including facebook, and you walk away. They no longer exist. You dont trash talk, insult or speak bad of them they are just someone you used to know and now are no longer a part of your life-- ever again.

Trash talking shows you are still harboring feelings for them. Harboring feelings for a cheater is counter productive. You cut ties. You walk away.

Yes. Delete her from your facebook.

Okay. Deleted

 

[logicallefty]

This is why I don't have a FB in my real name. I only use it for work (police) with phony names and phony friends. There is just no risk over reward for having social media anymore, IMO. With texting and long distance phone calling a thing of the past, we can connect to anyone in private without the world knowing. That's my favorite option.