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So I bought the home gym. What workout regime to use?

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Don't think in terms of hours. Develop a program where you exercise various muscle groups (biceps, triceps, pecs, etc.). Let the minutes take care of themselves while you concentrate on the results you want. Again, start nice and easy and you will find the appropriate weights and reps within a few session. Don't exercise the same muscles on consecutive days! Not sure if you know this, but your muscles need rest to recover in-between sessions. As an example, my sweet spot is 2 sessions per muscle group per week. That means for my personal physiology, I need a lot of rest between sessions. If I move to 3 a week, my results go down. For others, 3 a week is the sweet spot.

You will start to catch a rhythm. You should also research very basic workouts on similar machines as yours.
 

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Don't think in terms of hours. Develop a program where you exercise various muscle groups (biceps, triceps, pecs, etc.). Let the minutes take care of themselves while you concentrate on the results you want. Again, start nice and easy and you will find the appropriate weights and reps within a few session. Don't exercise the same muscles on consecutive days! Not sure if you know this, but your muscles need rest to recover in-between sessions. As an example, my sweet spot is 2 sessions per muscle group per week. That means for my personal physiology, I need a lot of rest between sessions. If I move to 3 a week, my results go down. For others, 3 a week is the sweet spot.

You will start to catch a rhythm. You should also research very basic workouts on similar machines as yours.
It came with a chart, but it's pretty basic. I guess use youtube as well. The manual says work muscle to max capacity for muscle building and gradually increase the weight.
 

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That's good but again, remember not to overdo it for the first week or two. We don't want to see you get hurt and then have to lay off for a while. Better to err on the side of caution.
 

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Not sure if you know this, but your muscles need rest to recover in-between sessions. As an example, my sweet spot is 2 sessions per muscle group per week.
Yeah, it sounds counterintuitive, but it's a basic principle. You see better gains when you rest a muscle group at least a day. Some people rest a group for an entire week (they may have leg day once a week, for example).
 

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That's good but again, remember not to overdo it for the first week or two. We don't want to see you get hurt and then have to lay off for a while. Better to err on the side of caution.
getting a bit nervous here now I'd hurt myself too easily at first.
 

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No need to be nervous. Just be a little cautious and pay attention to your body's signals. It is natural to be a bit sore after starting workouts, but if you're in intense pain, you're pushing it too hard. Just back off on that particular exercise if that's the case.

I learned long ago that I didn't feel it when I was overdoing it. So I wouldn't know I overdid it till one or two days later. That's how I became proactive and cautious about it. That's all I'm saying. Good judgment for the first week or two is just getting your joints and muscles used to the movements. After a few sessions you won't need to be so cautious anymore and you will start to feel how much weight you should be using.
 

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Listen to your body. Do a moderate amount the first day, add a few each additional time. There’s no formula. Each person is drastically different.

For example, if you haven’t been doing them at all, just do a few the first day. Maybe the same amount the next day. If you’re not super-sore, add a few the following day. Let your body’s reactions guide you. After a couple of weeks, you can start pushing yourself harder.
 

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The home gym model, Golds gym XRS 50 only has two exercises for abs. Do I need to to sit ups for those?
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

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Here is a small frame guy as well. So how do I get abs like he has? You need abs like that so you can post selfies of the abs on OLD.

 

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Does the ab roller burn calories or just flatten the stomach muscles?

I've had a couple women I've talked to on OLD seem interested but they wanted more torso pics because they thought I was too skinny.
 

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I've had a couple women I've talked to on OLD seem interested but they wanted more torso pics because they thought I was too skinny.
You kids today are living in a strange reality with OLD and all.
 

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You kids today are living in a strange reality with OLD and all.
She asked for more torso pics because she thought I wasn't built up enough. She was in good shape but even around her thighs had a little flab since she was 40 so she didn't have much room to talk. Did I take a shirtless selfie and send it to her? NO. NEXT.

Maybe men should flat out comment about a woman's weight then if they do this. Only makes it fair. Did I do the right thing by not sending more pics or should I've simped and sent her more pics?
 

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You kids today are living in a strange reality with OLD and all.
I said it before and will repeat it again, its a meat market,
people with already low self esteem, trying to sell they iamge with the best pic they can take, and most of cases, that mean the right lightining and makeup, so a 5 looks like a 8-9, plus there will be always more men then woman on said things, plus a real good woman wouldn't waste time here, if she do, you can try to guess how damaged she is.

and then we have op case....
 

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Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I said it before and will repeat it again, its a meat market,
people with already low self esteem, trying to sell they iamge with the best pic they can take, and most of cases, that mean the right lightining and makeup, so a 5 looks like a 8-9, plus there will be always more men then woman on said things, plus a real good woman wouldn't waste time here, if she do, you can try to guess how damaged she is.

and then we have op case....
OLD 10 years ago wasn't nearly as bad. A lot more decent women on there, less work to get replies, etc. Now very few decent women on it but more men.

heck, in the pic thread you have guys with muscle who look nearly liek Chad and are having problems getting traction on OLD.
 

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None. No sit ups. If you want abs you need to do explosive shvt. Squats or sprints.
So the sprints do like my 6 mile runs but do some high intensity fast sprints on the treadmill when I do it?
 
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