"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Social proof
- Thread starter Redwolf
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Glassguy
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As a rule of thumb I think it is far more important to establish your social "proof" in real life. Go to events, social circles, etc.
You cant build those things on the internet through social media.
RickTheToad
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This. I do not use SM at. I'd rather remain a mystery. Besides, just because one person thinks a post is cool, it may scare away other ladies. Never a good thing to post stupid sh it on SM. So, just don't have one.
MrWood
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I even pull from IG having 3 dates 2 lays.
Linked Tinder > IG has created social proof there as well. (Most of my Tinder dates/lays checked out or I referred to my IG)
out on a real date, show her your IG... proof of your travels, status, view on life etc. My IG has upped my perceived game 100% and added unmeasurable social proof
Actually... from chatting to a 25yo HB8.5 lawyer from China, who was my seat mate on a flight, showing her my pics etc on IG... she was holding my hand by the time we were ready to l and... all Ican say is that you can add social proof from social media.