She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And she doesn't call or text you! No stupid chit chat for you to ask her out. Nothing! She doesn't have to ask you out but she can call and talk about ****. That is a hint! Wtf is she doing now? She may not even have some1 at all.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Right now we on our 7 off days so I have no clue what she doing and nope she hasnt called or text me since that time she called me on my ext.
She already reached out her way. Whether it is validation or not. You should know when you can ask her. She thinks like a woman and a woman thinks like a bunch of women.
When you grabbed her arm and didn't kiss her, you became clingy. That is exactly what happenes if you take a woman to a hotel room and instead of fvcking her, you start to watch baseball and drink beer. She gets naked and you don't notice her.
Well then maybe I should just take the loss if she doesnt reach out again
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It is interesting what she told you.... Her extension didn't change. That dont mean her phone number did not change, which you used to ask her out.
Don't take a loss.just wait some time to see if she makes a move and if she doesn't then you move. You move even if you risk to be slapped! Just make an example!e
She said her personal phone number didnt change. She called me on my ext to tell me her personal phone number didnt change.
Yes I still greet and talk to her but only about job related things. Technically I just stop talking to her about meeting up since she cancelled twice on me
Well we will see what she does from now
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Did you knew her schedule the first and second time you ask her out? Did she tell you? How about heading out after work for. Drink or movie?
Yea we have the same schedule 7 on 7 off. I've asked her after work at that time how bout a drink after work
I mean her schedule after work. You know........
You know her DOB?
Oh I dont know her schedule after work besides she spends a lot of time with her 12 year old son
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Not quite but im 32 shes 43
What is your DOB?
8/6/87
I will try to PM you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.