So this woman I work with has a significant other but claims she cant end it due to financially dependence. We went out on couple dates and was supposed to go out again but she cancel on the last mintue twice. I simply stated no problem just let me know when your free. I see her at work and she would call my extension for things she can do herself but I do it since its work related. Finally yesterday she call and stated hey stranger my phone number hasnt changed and I replied mines didnt neither so hit me up when u figure out your schedule and she said alright with an attitude. Any input on why she doing this?
Hello,
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You have not indicated you are her boyfriend or lover. Only that you went out twice because you are dating her. I don't believe you made up with her just yet.
You said she told you " she has a significant other but claims she cant end it due to financially dependence." This is private information here, so I assume there is compenetration at some level. At this point, you may have or may not have made up. I don't believe so.
She told you already your place. She is not in love with her provider. He is a tool, a sugar daddy. So, unless, you can supersede him, she won't leave him.
Why she canceled twice? Because you are second in line. Imagine she asks you to give her your car. This is your mean of transport and you don't have another. How do you commute for work and fun?
So if she canceled twice is because she had to do some with her significant someone.
Your reply was " I simply stated no problem just let me know when your free." This reply indicates you like her to some extend. You are flexible. I would have simply reply "ok" or "well, if that is what you want, ok"
I see her at work and she would call my extension for things she can do herself but I do it since its work related. She makes up excuses to see you. She is indirect, so she likes you.
So she called you yesterday and stated hey stranger my phone number hasnt changed and I replied mines didnt neither so hit me up when u figure out your schedule and she said alright with an attitude.
Validation, validation, validation, validationvalidation,validation,validation, validation from you. She knows you like her. You are flexible for her.
"I replied mine didnt neither so hit me up when u figure out your schedule" I would have simply reply "mine neither" but you added " so hit me up when u figure out your schedule"
at this point you clearly indicate her she can canceled on you last minute as many times as she wants and you are not supposed to be upset. Again, you are flexible.
Any input on why she doing this?
She has a financial provider, and if you want her, you need to work around her schedule, but don't make implications to her that you are available and too flexible.
I don't know why you keep going out on dates without making up, but in my experience, I don't wait too much to kiss a woman after my second date with her. I don't care how much she likes me or knows me.
In my experience, I have ****ed married coworkers and it was easy for me to kiss on first lunch outside the office and have her give me head after 5:30PM on the same or following day of the same week.
I would keep playing with her, but next time you head out on a date with her, make sure you make up. Later on, she should give you head, and eventually intercourse.
My I understanding is that she is looking for validation because you have not made up just yet. So why keep on going out if you don't fvcking make a move and kiss thebytch.
