"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why so much talk about how to get girls?

You have books, seminars and coaching to be sucessful with girls.

When I like a girl, I go to her and tell her I liked her and I want to kiss her. IT IS VERY EASY. I don't care if she rejects me or not. Davidx is a PUA who teached that and he is right.

I avoid all this PUA plans and schemes. I like things very simple. I hate intelectualism when you don't really have to think.

What you guys think about that?

Thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Some guys, including myself, have a hard time turning off the intellectual side.

I would need five drinks to even attempt to turn that shyte off lol.

HB: Hey what’s up?

Mike: <The entropy of the universe is continually increasing.>

Mike: Not much thanks.

HB: Are you having a good time?

Mike: <The Pythagorean Theorem is a special case of the Law of Cosines.>

Mike: Yeah not bad lol
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The problem Isn't thinking, but the type of thinking. You can't PLAN to be spontaneous. You can only practice spontaneity. Practice requires about as much preparation as will fit on a notecard. But, that's why nerds have so much trouble with girls; it isn't because they're smart; they just have the wrong kind of smarts. It requires social intelligence, not programming skills. Zuck has billions, and he still acts like a robot. Fortunately for him, enough money really can buy you love, or a close facsimile thereof.

Jock: "Stop thinking, and ACT!"
Nerd: "Like what?"
Spot on.

I once heard this advice:

“Approach women with an empty head.”

Just clear your head (to the extent possible) and force yourself to approach and converse on the fly. No routines. No canned openers (except maybe a quick situational opener). Just force yourself to speak without any preparation, and let the conversation naturally take its course.
 
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Spot on.

I once heard this advice:

“Approach women with an empty head.”
You ever been able to pull that off? Because I haven't.

I'm like you...I need 5 drinks to have an empty head.

But that's why we have the 3 second rule: to get you to act before you have time to overthink it.
 
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Self-censorship is a conversation killer. You cure writers block by putting EVERYTHING in your head onto the page. Reorganize later, if at all. Conservation is the same. Just say whatever you're thinking. If you're a pervert, you'll be okay. If you're a psycho....get therapy.
Haha that cracked me up, but I think guys would be better off asking the chick questions and letting them ramble on.

Drop a couple of anecdotes, crack a few playful jokes at her expense...and you're golden, pony boy.
 
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@brazilian_user I agree with you.

We're a bunch of guys that can't help but think and talk about women.

Most posters talk about how tight their frame is, and how they're focused on their mission above all else! Lol

Yet they spend most of their free time on sosuave, talking about women. They seem to have a lot of free time.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Then you have guys that listen to a love song and their soft-ass frames buckle.
 

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That sounds boring as fukk to be honest. I love the thrill of the hunt. Not really interested in the “prize”.
 
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I know much more than I used to, and yet I think less than ever. I guess spontaneity (with chicks) it does come from practice.
I've never been a spontaneous guy. I'm more of a thinker, and more deliberate. I need to have pick-up on my mind.

It's kind of stupid, but walking with a longer stride and swinging my arms more freely helps to put me in the right frame of mind. C0ck of the walk...
 

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You ever been able to pull that off? Because I haven't.

I'm like you...I need 5 drinks to have an empty head.

But that's why we have the 3 second rule: to get you to act before you have time to overthink it.
No I haven’t.

I like to plan ahead to do things “right.” Just jumping into something is totally not me.

I think being somewhat spontaneous is a worthwhile social skill, but no, I currently don’t have it.

I also have difficulty mentally “shifting gears” quickly. For example, if I’m in deep thought about something, and some friendly person starts chatting with me, I’m initially cold/distant until my brain gets off the old dry topic and switches to, “Ok be friendly Mike. Turn your brain off and don’t be a cold prick to someone who is being nice to you lol.”
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No I haven’t.

I like to plan ahead to do things “right.” Just jumping into something is totally not me.
Try what I said in my last post. Lengthen your stride; swing your arms a bit further than you normally would. I know it sounds stupid, but there is an immediate change in thinking.

I've noticed that I'm caught off guard less when I do that.
 

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Provide fun, for yourself first and secondly for those who are around you.

If you think I’m those terms, you will give off a light and fun vibe, which is very attractive to women.
 

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Try what I said in my last post. Lengthen your stride; swing your arms a bit further than you normally would. I know it sounds stupid, but there is an immediate change in thinking.

I've noticed that I'm caught off guard less when I do that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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