"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

How to keep her interested early on

John9999

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 29, 2019
Messages
239
Reaction score
165
Age
59
OK here’s the deal. Matt is super cool woman online and set up a date for today. So we had been talking and texting for about two or three days.

Emergency comes up with her daughter who had to be taken to the hospital last night and of course Date is now postponed until next Saturday.

Very challenging to keep anyone’s interest for that long before you meet. My typical rule is that if I’m not meeting a woman within four days or so of us starting conversation then I’m out.

Anyone got advice. I know not to bombard with texts and phone calls. But not sure what to say to keep her interest. The good news is that she sent the initial reach out to me so that’s certainly a sign of interest. But as we all know a woman’s interest can vanish overnight for very much no reason.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

John9999

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 29, 2019
Messages
239
Reaction score
165
Age
59
While that’s tempting, I don’t want her to think I’m not interested. Damm women, so hard to figure out.
 

teacha

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 16, 2009
Messages
411
Reaction score
141
Location
wall street
While that’s tempting, I don’t want her to think I’m not interested. Damm women, so hard to figure out.
Funny thing, the less interest you show the more they want you. Continue focusing on yourself, if she wants to see you she will reach out.
 

John9999

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 29, 2019
Messages
239
Reaction score
165
Age
59
Yup. Your right. Ok. Will do. Who knows if we ever meet.

Sometimes I gotta ask,,, why can women be more like men. Non of this secret language and all that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

sexymanman

Banned
Joined
Aug 28, 2019
Messages
69
Reaction score
22
Age
36
let the girl choose you first whether its online or in a club, mall or whatever.
 

bcude

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2019
Messages
762
Reaction score
1,219
Age
44
Listen to stormrider as a general way of life.
Meeting a woman within 4 days or moving on? What kind of BS is that. Makes you miss out on a ton of women, not everyone is that eager to meeting up, especially those who have a life and you're just a name on their phone until you meet.
Besides she is a single mom? Don't give too much priority there. Stay back and do your thing and here even more.
Your neediness of not potentially losing this single mom is shining through your post, not good. Work on yourself.
 

sexymanman

Banned
Joined
Aug 28, 2019
Messages
69
Reaction score
22
Age
36
But not sure what to say to keep her interest.
ring her and say you have a 12 inch ****.

I'm still talking to a girl i have told this too. shes been ringing me and i haven't answered her tonight since I wanna listen to music.
there's my advice. of course there's more to it.
 

nismo-4

Moderator
Joined
Jan 31, 2005
Messages
4,439
Reaction score
1,143
Location
From New Orleans, Louisiana to Atlanta, Georgia!!!
Funny thing, the less interest you show the more they want you. Continue focusing on yourself, if she wants to see you she will reach out.
Funny thing is, this holds true if she has high interest in you and she hasn't met a better man. Do you know how many men approach her in 4 days? 64!
 

BURT MCQUEEN

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 4, 2019
Messages
170
Reaction score
80
OK here’s the deal. Matt is super cool woman online and set up a date for today. So we had been talking and texting for about two or three days.

Emergency comes up with her daughter who had to be taken to the hospital last night and of course Date is now postponed until next Saturday.

Very challenging to keep anyone’s interest for that long before you meet. My typical rule is that if I’m not meeting a woman within four days or so of us starting conversation then I’m out.

Anyone got advice. I know not to bombard with texts and phone calls. But not sure what to say to keep her interest. The good news is that she sent the initial reach out to me so that’s certainly a sign of interest. But as we all know a woman’s interest can vanish overnight for very much no reason.
How the fvck are you still wasting your time with this woman, does she open her legs within 3 dates? if yes fine otherwise NEXT because you ain't her priority, she got better prospect/s. And by the why online dating is a buffer for rejection, quit online dating
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

John9999

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 29, 2019
Messages
239
Reaction score
165
Age
59
ok.. all great advice.... I have only responded when she texts or calls first. We are meeting this Saturday night.

Now here's something I want to get opinions on. She says in a text to "always ask, never assume"

Okay I could say assume what? but what do you guys think she is talking about? I just said "ok, I can do that"
 

Alvafe

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 26, 2012
Messages
3,361
Reaction score
1,594
Age
43
ok.. all great advice.... I have only responded when she texts or calls first. We are meeting this Saturday night.

Now here's something I want to get opinions on. She says in a text to "always ask, never assume"

Okay I could say assume what? but what do you guys think she is talking about? I just said "ok, I can do that"
that is nice she is already testing you, do your things and don't ask permission, she want you to ask permission to do things, when you should just do things
 

2Rocky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 13, 2016
Messages
2,442
Reaction score
2,734
Age
52
ok.. all great advice.... I have only responded when she texts or calls first. We are meeting this Saturday night.

Now here's something I want to get opinions on. She says in a text to "always ask, never assume"

Okay I could say assume what? but what do you guys think she is talking about? I just said "ok, I can do that"
PITB.....Definitely butsecks
 

John9999

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 29, 2019
Messages
239
Reaction score
165
Age
59
Yup. This one went dead. Just too many days between first contact and face to face. Next!
 

Suave88

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 23, 2019
Messages
710
Reaction score
271
Age
47
Yup. This one went dead. Just too many days between first contact and face to face. Next!
Don't give up. Play it cool. Remember her hint "always ask, never assume" so never assume anything, including she went dead. Wait some time and reconnect. I would say 30 days. Not more.
Her text may sound like a test, but a test is a test not a phrase, statment or riddle open to interpretation and perception. In the interin, NEXT, but don't ever turn your back on any woman.
 
Last edited:

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

John9999

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 29, 2019
Messages
239
Reaction score
165
Age
59
YUP.... of course she popped up today. I literally feel like asking her point blank "are we ever gonna meet" "are you really interested"
NO NO NO,,, I know not to ask that,,, that is what a Beta would say,,, but it is so tempting...

and there are at least 3 other women I am talking to that all resist to setup the first date as well.... so frustrating
 

Suave88

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 23, 2019
Messages
710
Reaction score
271
Age
47
YUP.... of course she popped up today. I literally feel like asking her point blank "are we ever gonna meet" "are you really interested"
NO NO NO,,, I know not to ask that,,, that is what a Beta would say,,, but it is so tempting...

and there are at least 3 other women I am talking to that all resist to setup the first date as well.... so frustrating
Don't ask her now. She will say no. Instead approach her and see if you can bring up a good mood, but dont ask her to go out. Simply try to reconnect.
 

bcude

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2019
Messages
762
Reaction score
1,219
Age
44
and there are at least 3 other women I am talking to that all resist to setup the first date as well.... so frustrating
Get used to it, women are the biggest flakes ever. Focus your energy on women with high interest in you.
 

John9999

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 29, 2019
Messages
239
Reaction score
165
Age
59
Get used to it, women are the biggest flakes ever. Focus your energy on women with high interest in you.
More they sure are. Women are slaves to their emotions. So while it might feel like a good idea to meet with you today, by the time Friday rolls around they don’t feel like meeting with you.
 

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,242
Reaction score
3,400
Get used to it, women are the biggest flakes ever. Focus your energy on women with high interest in you.
pointless, they all show high interest now, my uncles dated a woman his age, shes an ageing 46 year old, and even shes playing up like a desired 26 year old who wants orbiters........then she checks back in again to make sure "she hasnt lost him"......****ing sickening , fortunately he has me to advise
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top