Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Why do I care that my fwb is sleeping w other dudes?

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I spin plates and if anyone of them sleep with another man, I'd drop her like a ton of rocks.
Isn't it a correct assumption that women that you dating are dating other men and sleeping with other man? In other words, I met a girl today, we had a date, I can guarantee she is having dates with other dudes, I had another date with her, we fcked, I can guarantee you she is fcking with other men as well. They'lll never tell you that, but I assume it to be the truth.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Isn't it a correct assumption that women that you dating are dating other men and sleeping with other man? In other words, I met a girl today, we had a date, I can guarantee she is having dates with other dudes, I had another date with her, we fcked, I can guarantee you she is fcking with other men as well. They'lll never tell you that, but I assume it to be the truth.
It depends, either its the reality you produce or you follow the reality that's written for society/men to follow.

You have a choice.

What you should be asking is how to produce a reality where women or even men will automatically adhere to and mold themselves accordingly to meet those standards.

I've talked abt frame, even gave everyone a breakdown on it.

I've talked abt leadership, on taking responsibility and also empowering people.

I've talked abt increasing a man's sphere of influence.

I've repeatedly touched on these since I 1st joined in because that's the only way a man can sustainably achieve greatness, and through it or because of it he is admired by many women/men - creating a reality or worldview that's shared by those you're influenced.
 

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This is cuckholdry in its simplistic manipulated form. Unhealthy af IMO to becoming a solid man. She basically nursed you right into it. But hey if your into that. To each is own.
But to use that as an example to what this guy is going through is to me. Useless
Was kind of thinking the same.

But i dont judge
 

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It depends, either its the reality you produce or you follow the reality that's written for society/men to follow.

You have a choice.

What you should be asking is how to produce a reality where women or even men will automatically adhere to and mold themselves accordingly to meet those standards.

I've talked abt frame, even gave everyone a breakdown on it.

I've talked abt leadership, on taking responsibility and also empowering people.

I've talked abt increasing a man's sphere of influence.

I've repeatedly touched on these since I 1st joined in because that's the only way a man can sustainably achieve greatness, and through it or because of it he is admired by many women/men - creating a reality or worldview that's shared by those you're influenced.
If you are a high value man she will stop doing things with other men by herself.

Or for example she will delete her tinder/dating app
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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All the same, such a woman can also benefit from the same. If she is worthy and very sexually satisfying to me, I am less likely to pursue multiple women with much vigor myself.

At any rate, great point, @lamath. Many guys need to soak that in.
+1

So its not double standard.

Self respect is key, a fwb that **** many.men at same time, is not a FWB its public cumbucket.
 
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