She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I know of a few guys like this. The impression I get is that these guys are happy to have a pretty girl to go out with and spend some time with, and don't really mind spending a few bucks for the experience. I really don't know if they're getting any sex or not, but let's say no. I think that given their lack of options, this scenario is better for them than nothing.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hell I can sense when a man and woman are out and he’s in the friend zone and I’m a man! I can show you all the signs that give it away. I think even men that do have other options STILL get stuck in this friend zone crap because they won’t step back and admit what’s going on. They could easily be out with a girl that is interested in them but the time and effort they’ve put into one woman that’s never going to pay off makes them stick around.
Move to a country that doesn't fvck you up through the divorce courts.
It's because he thinks he has "game" when it's actually a game within the feminine frame.
I am not moving to some 3rd world sh1thole just for a woman..... No woman is worth giving up my US citizenship...... I'm doing just fine occassionally banging strippers in the VIP......
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
There probably is an ego component to the whole thing. Such a guy might come on SoSuave and post "Hey, I was out with an HB9 last night". Just the fact that she goes out with him at all is probably validation on some level to them.
Like I said though, the guys I know that are like this actually take out multiple women, so it isn't like they put all their effort into one woman. They just get friendzoned by them all. I know one guy who moons over about three different women, but can't really get anywhere with any of them. I imagine if one of them really did give them some true affection, he would narrow his focus to her.
We need to get a list compiled.
I guess you're never been out of the states....
Bali in Indonesia and Da Nang in Vietnam, would be my top choice.
I like my gun rights.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You must be having daily orgasms just by being next to it, since you're obviously not using it daily.
I like having it next to me. It's the great equalizer.
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The moment you enter my ancestral dwelling you'll be surrounded by about 400 people, half of which is tattooed with curses, battle stories, protection spells, life stories and dozens of beheaded skulls thats on display, etc.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.