Yep, substituting one addiction for another @stovepipe. I knew a guy that missed the hot sex so much after her marriage cheat and dump he carelessly banged a low class skank raw and ended up with HIV…
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Holy chit! That hot sex will drive a man insane! I know first hand what it feels like and how dangerous we can make a life changing mistake acting on addiction n emotion. You get these rushes of just not giving single fuk about anything, not even your life. You either come out of these types of relationships a brainwashed zombie or a soldier of war.Yep, substituting one addiction for another @stovepipe. I knew a guy that missed the hot sex so much after her marriage cheat and dump he carelessly banged a low class skank raw and ended up with HIV…
Yes, and it’s not just a coincidence that specialists say these women can leave trails of damage in their wake.Holy chit! That hot sex will drive a man insane! I know first hand what it feels like and how dangerous we can make a life changing mistake acting on addiction n emotion. You get these rushes of just not giving single fuk about anything, not even your life. You either come out of these types of relationships a brainwashed zombie or a soldier of war.
almost 2 years, it's an interesting restructuring for me but i'm going balls to the wall lol.This is the perfect example.. You THOUGHT you could keep on banging with no FEELS..
You thought you could handle the situation.. But attractive woman and kinky sex is very powerfull..
Its only a matter of time you will catch FEELS.
This is why you should have an exit stratedgy in place and a strict time limit to drop her, when you realise how broken or damaged she is.
She cant indefiniatly bang these woman, without paying a price.
How long was you seeing This chick for?
Luckily I got rid of mine, within 4 months.
i agree completely. when i peeled her layers back she was a very sad and fragile person. she would be extremely emotional and cry at everything. i would constantly coddle her. eventually i realized she wasn't respecting herself and that nothing i did could fill that hole for her because she was supposed to have filled it herself long ago. that strong male guidance is what i was at the beginning, but i see the key to sustaining it as what i said before, lovingly holding firm on boundaries even if that means walking to teach a lesson.If one simply adheres to these words, then women problems become nonexistent. It's no coincidence that women with the most red flags will attempt to disrespect you the quickest and most often, as if they cannot respect themselves, then how can they respect you?
Even women who respect themselves without proper male role models might attempt to disrespect you as they were not guided properly in how to behave or respond to strong male guidance, and so they revolt (internally) under the guise of self-respect, when it is really their fear of being vulnerable manifesting.
you're absolutely right. that dramatic push pull becomes kind of addictive. an unhealthy addiction to an unhealthy habit. i think part of me thinks this drama is the spice of life, that i'm missing out by not being a part of it, but that just sounds like some sort of insecurity based on external validation. when i live it it's obvious that nothing can really be built on it. the foundation is never firm enough for something to grow because at least one partner isn't willing to work together and craves drama good or bad at any expense.because a normal healthy relationship doesn't bring the drama, the emotional push pull, the feelings, the highs and lows, that relationships with broken people bring.
With broken people you get ugly drama but the payoff of makeup everything - the reinforcement of "YES, I want you" that's called 'worth validation' we ll crave worth validation. when you're dealing with normal ppl there's also worth validation going on, but it's not done after catastrophic lows, it's done with consistency, because normal people are consistent, flat, reliable, etc
wouldn't some say that sex on the first date and massive love bombing is a red flag? yet that's what 9-10 guys get from a girl a few points lower. that first day lay could just be infatuation and desire. i know what you're saying. even if you put off beta throws or otherwise pretend to go along with her infatuation you have to be extremely careful not to fall for your own theatrics. i think that's what happens with some women and i've experienced it with my own behavior as well. it's freaky how quickly the mind is willing to believe a story and identify with it, how quickly it forgets that YOU made the story up to begin with.The kinky sex she's constantly giving you is to manipulate n trick your mind into brushing off those red flags. It's like stepping in a pit of quick sand. Each red flag you ignore, the further you sink. If you don't escape in time you eventually sink to the bottom while losing yourself in the process. When you get to that point some end up losing a piece of themselves. You then end up gong to war with yourself trying to get it back.
there is something to say about this... a woman that encourages recklessness and pushes you to abuse her is setting a trap. she may even be doing this subconsciously because she simply feels the most pleasure when she's being dominated and degraded in such a primal fashion. sometimes i feel like doing this relentlessly because it's extremely enjoyable in the moment in a very juvenile perverse way. but experience has taught me that kinky stuff is meant to be built on a foundation of trust and in baby steps. the reason being that extremely kinky acts can have very traumatic and long lasting effects when not respected for their power. if there's no sense of underlying connection and overall control(in kink everything is called a 'scene' to drive this point home and generally the dom is orchestrating things) then it's just two people diminishing themselves and getting off to it. it's an extremely unhealthy, toxic, short sighted, and unsustainable sexual perversion. it may feel good in the moment but then reality sets in and there's tons of doubt, guilt, resentment, uncertainty, shame, trauma, etc on both sides.Yep, substituting one addiction for another @stovepipe. I knew a guy that missed the hot sex so much after her marriage cheat and dump he carelessly banged a low class skank raw and ended up with HIV…
This board is a good representation of the PTSD they leave behindYes, and it’s not just a coincidence that specialists say these women can leave trails of damage in their wake.
I disagree with this. If you were a leader of a social circle that has hot women in it, they will naturally compete for your attention. You will automatically create space because you don’t want to be smothered.
The king shows up. And the women fill in the void. All he does is qualify and disqualify. Molds women’s behavior to his liking. They all supplicate to him because they don’t want to be ostracized from the tribe. He has absolute authority.
Because of his power and abundance, he no longer has any interest in petty romance. It is literally impossible to be the leader of the tribe and still feel like you need or even want to seduce women. The only feeling that exists is cashing in on the spoils of victory.
Women are actually the spoils of victory. They are not some kind goal or target. They are a byproduct of successfully becoming a leader of a social tribe/environment that has women in it.
That’s why it’s often said women are secondary. Taking over your environment is primary. It is your nature. It’s in your DNA to dominate.
Does it all make sense now? Am I speaking directly to your DNA?
The reason why 99% of guys on this forum do not know this is because they have never taken over a social environment that has hot women in it.
They don’t know the natural order of things. They don’t know that men are the conquerors and women are the seducers.
You stand by seduction because you failed to dominate an environment that has women in it. If you did that, the women would seduce you. Not the other way around.
You think nature made a mistake? You think men don’t have what it takes to naturally attract women and polarize them?
We were all born with it. It’s just that 99% of guys think their potential is a Great deal lesser than what it really is.
You were born to dominate and become kings. Not figure out the whims of women.
The king basks in validation and sexual tension that’s built in given his position as tribal leader. He doesn’t seduce. He doesn’t have to.
I’m talking about Being. You guys are talking about Doing the right things. One is infinitely more powerful than the other. One is a natural and the other has to learn calibration. But in the end, he is still merely a button pusher.
Doingness must come from Beingness, otherwise it has no real power.
The single absolute Being is where the power is at. One day more people will understand this.
If you do nothing else but walk around with the frame of a “wise King” who’s purpose is the betterment of others around him, your whole life would change.
Walking down the street, people would get out of your way as if you were parting the Red Sea. Random women would supplicate to you. High status people would talk to you as if you are their equal.
Walk around with this frame long enough and it would be completely embedded into your entire being. And you would no longer know what seduction is.
All of your actions will come from a powerful place of beingness.
What I am talking about, few will grok. But for those who see the pearl of wisdom, take it and never look back.
Again, never seen a vagina before bud & Has a opinion.That's pretty rich coming from a guy who learned everything from "theory" created by former geeks who couldn't hack it in the real world so they decided to create alter egos as "PUA's".
LOL.
Push/Pull is even more effective on guys than on women especially these days. More scarcity = more tolerance. Dating someone doing it to me and I can consciously see myself getting hooked because of it, luckily the pull on her end isn't terribly strong bc not too high interest.
Yea but even then you should limit the amount of time you bang her for.It’s not an issue if you just have fun with them