"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Anyone ever with a girl they werent physically attracted too?

Bullbearpig

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Not really looking for advice, but would like to hear some opinions. I've been hanging out with this girl for the last few months. She's smart, funny, comfortable with herself, owns her own business, owns a nice house, nice cars, got her sh1t together, she's my age so her kids are grown, and she worships me. She showers me with affection, but not in a needy and annoying way.

The problem is she's at least 4 points lower than me on the SMV. I'm way hotter than her and She knows it. She wants a relationship and She gets very jealous and always asks me who I'm fvcking. (I work at an apartment complex and she sees me talking to other girls alot) I always just blow her off when she asks that. She is a vendor for the company I work for and I've slept with her a few times because it was easy and I was bored. (The first time was in an empty apartment She was cleaning, I banged her on top of the washing maching) She has a cute face and great personality but she has let her body go. She's also Russian, and I think her accent and broken English is cute as hell. (She says things like "make laundry" instead of "do laundry".) anyways, it just kind of sucks to know I can't be with her because I do like being around her but i know ill always be looking elsewhere. Anyone else been there? I've got a much hotter chick that I can bang at will, but I can't stand being around her for more than a few minutes so I don't see her much.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oldmanofthesea

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Yes. She was objectively very attractive. Just not to me..... Wasn't my type. I came to dread sex with her and she could feel that and it caused her a lot of emotional stress. She treated me SO well. It sucked to break ytings off with her but it was the right thing to do.
 

GoDJ thatsmyDJ

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Never a girl that I wasn’t attracted to at all. But I have banged girls that are less good looking than me.

I have also slept with women that were objectively very hot, but not my type with the same result. I went out and found some hotter *****.

I often feel that girls aren’t hot enough. It’s only a matter of time before I’m over it—half the time it’s one and done for me. Given that you work with her I wouldn’t have even banged her in the first place. I would never ever bang someone I work with. Only you know yourself, if you’re going to get bored don’t waste both of your time in my opinion unless you need a plate or something. Go find someone you actually wanna bang. Sex and sexual attraction are VERY important to me, only you can decide how important they are to you.
 

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Never a girl that I wasn’t attracted to at all. But I have banged girls that are less good looking than me.

I have also slept with women that were objectively very hot, but not my type with the same result. I went out and found some hotter *****.

I often feel that girls aren’t hot enough. It’s only a matter of time before I’m over it—half the time it’s one and done for me. Given that you work with her I wouldn’t have even banged her in the first place. I would never ever bang someone I work with. Only you know yourself, if you’re going to get bored don’t waste both of your time in my opinion unless you need a plate or something. Go find someone you actually wanna bang. Sex and sexual attraction are VERY important to me, only you can decide how important they are to you.
Yea you're right. I told her there wouldn't be a relationship but I didn't tell her why. It wouldnt be fair to her or me to get into something i would get bored with.
 

Bullbearpig

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Yes. She was objectively very attractive. Just not to me..... Wasn't my type. I came to dread sex with her and she could feel that and it caused her a lot of emotional stress. She treated me SO well. It sucked to break ytings off with her but it was the right thing to do.
Ive been there a couple times myself...dreading having sex with someone. Ive been on TRT a couple months though and since i started the testosterone I wanna bang everything with a vagina now lol. It's kind of annoying really.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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AceDB

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Not really looking for advice, but would like to hear some opinions. I've been hanging out with this girl for the last few months. She's smart, funny, comfortable with herself, owns her own business, owns a nice house, nice cars, got her sh1t together, she's my age so her kids are grown, and she worships me. She showers me with affection, but not in a needy and annoying way.

The problem is she's at least 4 points lower than me on the SMV. I'm way hotter than her and She knows it. She wants a relationship and She gets very jealous and always asks me who I'm fvcking. (I work at an apartment complex and she sees me talking to other girls alot) I always just blow her off when she asks that. She is a vendor for the company I work for and I've slept with her a few times because it was easy and I was bored. (The first time was in an empty apartment She was cleaning, I banged her on top of the washing maching) She has a cute face and great personality but she has let her body go. She's also Russian, and I think her accent and broken English is cute as hell. (She says things like "make laundry" instead of "do laundry".) anyways, it just kind of sucks to know I can't be with her because I do like being around her but i know ill always be looking elsewhere. Anyone else been there? I've got a much hotter chick that I can bang at will, but I can't stand being around her for more than a few minutes so I don't see her much.

if her face is very cute and body sucks, why not get her into working out?
 
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