Murk
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Doesn’t really answer the question.
I think plates need to Ben kept at arms length, limited time, limited romanticism, limited money and attention
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How To Treat A Plate? Compared To A GF
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I think plates need to Ben kept at arms length, limited time, limited romanticism, limited money and attention
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When you create many rules of engagement with women you complicate ur life with needless dramas.
You belittle women by doing so, reducing their self worth and they subconsciously sense it hence the ensuing drama.
I answered the question.
It's you not understanding it.
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@soulforge, you do anything you desire to do. It’s actually easier than exclusivity as there are no expectations and set time commitments or days. Absent expectation, It’s very free flowing and zero degree of (relational) control.
How do you avoid the feeliez is your question?
Experience. Once you do it enough, you will habituate, and internalize how it is to spend time with a women just as friends, and remain detached romantically.
I even tell my friends, I miss them too when I don’t see them for weeks or months. But this is in a friendly manner born of authenticity, not of romantic origin.
You will find in time, your friends will be in the double digits, hook you up their connections, and just make your life overall better.
How do you avoid the feeliez is your question?
Experience. Once you do it enough, you will habituate, and internalize how it is to spend time with a women just as friends, and remain detached romantically.
I even tell my friends, I miss them too when I don’t see them for weeks or months. But this is in a friendly manner born of authenticity, not of romantic origin.
You will find in time, your friends will be in the double digits, hook you up their connections, and just make your life overall better.
soulforge
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I go along with this...
It depends on the man, and his inner strength to remain emotionally unatched.
If like me.. You are likely to at some point catch some feels, by doing normal GF & BF with a PLATE, then best option is to keep at arms length.. Especially if she is toxic.
On the other hand, if you are able to treat a plate like a girlfriend, take out for meals, day trips etc... And you can do this without getting attached or feeling anything for her, then kudos, that method is ideal for you.
I don't think there is just one single way to handle plates.
Plates originate from women that you’re not 100% physically or personally attracted to but are good enough to sex.
How do you handle it? You start catching feels, you Exit. It’s not that big of a deal…
If you start getting all hung up on her, then she’s not just a plate anymore…
Simple stuff
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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So lets say for example you find a chick who is attractive as fvk... But is screaming red flags?
Can she be plated.. Or simply pump and dump incase you catch feels.
Flags mean Don’t catch feels. She’s meant to be short term …
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Yeh I agree... Get as much sexual mileage out of her as possible... Then fukin RUN
If she’s got flags poking out her azz, that’s Right…
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My last one, had nothing but flags coming out of her Azz lol
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Avoid unnecessary emotional entanglements. Men have gone so far as betraying their own country under that condition. It can be your biggest personal weakness…
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What if i can use her for sex.... she isn't worthy anything more than that