B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
What does that mean? I said it for some reason that I can't put my finger on and it got me friendzoned.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah but there was nobody else in the restaurant except a waitress who was in the kitchen when my date said "make out with me." Thinking about it now, her request sounds like fun and I don't know why I turned it down like a fvcking phaggot. I honestly don't know why and no matter how hard I think, I can't find an answer. It's psychological torture...Public Display of Affection
Ugh I gotta turn it around with her. It can't end this way. Not over that!As Pook said, rejection is better than regret.
What's done is done, no sense in beating yourself up over it now.
Just resolve to learn from the mistake and move on.
For what it's worth, who the heck wants to make out in a restaurant anyway? There's a scene in The Sex God Method where the author is fingering his date in a restaurant. I always thought damn, there's a time and a place, y'know? If you want to eat, eat. I bet they didn't even wash their hands![]()
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.