Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That's day game! Let's say you spaz doing it right and go to the beach walk in the evening for a stroll. Find a girl there that sending you some IOIs and approach, and instead of getting her number you spend an evening with her. You will end up fcking her, if alcohol is involved chances are high for same night and strong coffee in the morning at your place.
Cold approached, probably somewhere in there. Most of my success has come from social circle and online. Plus for a long time i was a club DJ and hot chicks used to approach ME on a nightly basis...
Exactly. You get it.
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Cold approach means approaching a woman who you do not socially know as in a total stranger.
300 cold approaches for one lay is insanely bad dude. It either means you’re shooting exclusively for models and girls way above your SMV, or you’re a disaster socially. Shooting above my SMV I’m probably 1 in 50, at my SMV I’m 1 in 30, below I’m 1 in 5.
Yep. But with no IOI's. She's not looking at you smiling first for example
It did. Don't know why. Didn't give a chance to get the actualy discussion going.
Maybe. But it's what most PUA is about and I guess the idea is that it means you can choose who you approach rather than being limited to girls who approach you or are checking you out
This is where we'll have to disagree lol. I'm not calling you a liar, but i'll assume there's still some sort of missunderstanding as literally nobody can get anything like them ratios from a COLD approach lol. Unless maybe he's Leo Dicaprio AND he's hitting on old 5's lol. Like, you're sying your friend bangs every girls he opens? So he could just go and bang all of the victoria secret models next week if he fancied it?
With a cold approach, you need the looks part to get your foot in the door. If she's not physically attracted, then it's a non-starter. Hence Tyler gets' rejected tonnes and he's a millionnaire with next level 'game'.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
them numbers are at least a little more realistic! ALthough still better than all of the RSD instructors, mystery, Tom Torrerro etc.
Dude getting a look or even a smile is not a warm approach. A warm approach is a female friend introducing you to childhood friend or other kind of social circle game. I like to give every girl a chance (a few seconds) to check me out so she has some time to decide whether she likes me rather than go with the impulsive “no”.Yep. But with no IOI's. She's not looking at you smiling first for example
It did. Don't know why. Didn't give a chance to get the actualy discussion going.
But yeah. And that would be a 'warm approach'.
Maybe. But it's what most PUA is about and I guess the idea is that it means you can choose who you approach rather than being limited to girls who approach you or are checking you out
This is where we'll have to disagree lol. I'm not calling you a liar, but i'll assume there's still some sort of missunderstanding as literally nobody can get anything like them ratios from a COLD approach lol. Unless maybe he's Leo Dicaprio AND he's hitting on old 5's lol. Like, you're sying your friend bangs every girls he opens? So he could just go and bang all of the victoria secret models next week if he fancied it?
With a cold approach, you need the looks part to get your foot in the door. If she's not physically attracted, then it's a non-starter. Hence Tyler gets' rejected tonnes and he's a millionnaire with next level 'game'.
But yeah, I certainly have really handsome friends who ALWAYS get approached at a bar. And could obviously bang 100% of them girls at the click of his finger
Fair enough. As is often the case with most discussionS , people have different definitions of everything which makes every stage of dicussion difficult lol. PUA James Tusk and a few others have said that a girl smiling at you is a 'warm approach', though.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If we go by that definition of a cold approach, she either hasn’t seen you (and you might end up startling her) or she took a quick peak and rejected you already in her head. Either way, yes I’d agree that means you’re probably screwed.
yeah, like. For me, a huge percentage of approaches are i'm at a bar, a girl will walk towards me to get a drink. She's aware i'm there (so there's no 'startling' as such. I'm not invisible
), but she hasn't smiled at me or checked me out or anything. I'm no male model! And then i'll open her. That's a cold approach. And yeah, as a male 5 (and say she'sa 7) it takes me maybe 300 approaches to get one of them in bed lolI open girls who haven’t looked at me but that is obviously a worse hit rate...much better than 1 in 300 though. Maybe 1 in 30.yeah, like. For me, a huge percentage of approaches are i'm at a bar, a girl will walk towards me to get a drink. She's aware i'm there (so there's no 'startling' as such. I'm not invisible
PS - To confirm, it sounds like you're now saying that my definition of 'warm approach' is what you are calling a 'cold approach'? So you only open girls who smile/check you out etc? If so, that clears a lot of the confusion up as before the numbers made zero sense, and now they make some.
Like, I agree it's easy to close a girl who is checking you out/is clearly attracted to you/your looks
cool. As I say, if we're talking about a 'cold' approach, that's still better than most PUA coaches I can think of. I take it you have very good looks on your side. I'm happy for you
Man I don't really understand this post...it's full of contractionsYep. But with no IOI's. She's not looking at you smiling first for example
It did. Don't know why. Didn't give a chance to get the actualy discussion going.
But yeah. And that would be a 'warm approach'.
Maybe. But it's what most PUA is about and I guess the idea is that it means you can choose who you approach rather than being limited to girls who approach you or are checking you out
This is where we'll have to disagree lol. I'm not calling you a liar, but i'll assume there's still some sort of missunderstanding as literally nobody can get anything like them ratios from a COLD approach lol. Unless maybe he's Leo Dicaprio AND he's hitting on old 5's lol. Like, you're sying your friend bangs every girls he opens? So he could just go and bang all of the victoria secret models next week if he fancied it?
edit: OK, I tihnk you were saying 1:1 WITH IOI's (my mistake)
In that case, sure that seems normal tbh.
My handsome wing has the same numbers. No such thing as a rejection if she thinks you're hot unless you're a sperg or whatever lol
With a cold approach, you need the looks part to get your foot in the door. If she's not physically attracted, then it's a non-starter. Hence Tyler gets' rejected tonnes and he's a millionnaire with next level 'game'.
But yeah, I certainly have really handsome friends who ALWAYS get approached at a bar. And could obviously bang 100% of them girls at the click of his finger. Not that them girls are usually stunning, tbh. Fairly hot though, usually.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.