Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I fatshamed my mom into oblivion

sosousage

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I know this is bad but i dont care if she doesnt like me and its clearly cause i care about her


whenever i see fat greasy person on the street i feel instant disgust and i believe most people feel the same at least on subconscious level


so im kinda saving my mom

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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GrowingPains

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One thing I've learned, especially from being on here...

Is that you can't just tell someone their problem and expect them to change. You have to get someone to realize their problem and lead them towards the answer. Only then will they truly understand and want to change.

What I've learned is they have to want to change. Meaning, you give very very little advice, and they have to set their ego aside (many men cant do this). You just listen. And ask questions. Where will this path take you? Where do you want to be? Etc etc.

I think the problem is that we want to help the people we care about, so much so that we end up doing quite the opposite. This is done by exercising patience, and waiting for the right questions by them. Advice must be minimal, and it is better if they issue the advice themselves.
 

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What do you do if you're attacked? You raise your shields and/or fend off the attack, then you reinforce yourself! Most of the time it's fight or flight when you approach something aggressively.

Shaming will in most cases do the opposite of what many people think it will. You think they'll feel so bad about it that they'll change, wrong! They won't fight their weight, they'll reinforce their view and fight you instead.

I tried for years changing my mother for her own good, lead to nothing other than unnecessary drama and stress. You CANNOT change someone who is determined to not change. If they want to change then shaming is still not the solution, that's still the worst thing you could do.

You should spend way more time supporting and reinforcing good behavior than shaming bad ones.

The only thing you achieved was to alienate your own mother, the only thing she'll change is your presence in her life. If she ever does lose weight you'll have an even harder time reconnecting, because it certainly wouldn't be because of you.
 

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lurk here every so often. had to login and let op kno he is a major lowlife for disrespecting his mom like that. re evaluate what your doing kid. hurting your mother isnt anything to brag about like an edgy little phaggot.
 

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lurk here every so often. had to login and let op kno he is a major lowlife for disrespecting his mom like that. re evaluate what your doing kid. hurting your mother isnt anything to brag about like an edgy little phaggot.
She got officially nexted
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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lurk here every so often. had to login and let op kno he is a major lowlife for disrespecting his mom like that. re evaluate what your doing kid. hurting your mother isnt anything to brag about like an edgy little phaggot.
she said her weight is none of my business but I assumed that was a shi.t test
 

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After my mom got border line diabetes I would nag on her about what she ate but to directly shame her for her weight (which was overweight but not obese) I would never go there. Only thing i would do is attack the food , but not her.
 

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lololol

neither your mom's hot and her orbiters buy you stuff or inherit their loot when they die

or ur mom's fat and she gives all her attention to you, all how u look at it

personally I like me a fat momma who only has me to talk to because emotional security is important

...idk wtf I just wrote
 

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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but fatties can't ignore their sons cause they don't have options
 

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Your mom knows she is fat. You didn't have to shame her. That just caused hard feelings. A better way would have been to ask her out for a walk on a regular basis.
 

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My mother is close to Jesus is excited about Him all the time and tells others about Jesus when she's out. She's not fat. If your mom gets saved, maybe she'll lose her weight too because she'll love Jesus more than food like she does now.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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how does one have a fat mom and a slim ex
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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