"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
theres so much glorifying women online
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I went off that app soon after. I just logged in today, she's still online and active. Amazing. I often wonder how many good people are thrown to the side by either sex because they think something is better outside of what they currently have.
yes and on these apps far-above-average men are forced to compete over some average piece of azz
lamath
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Thats funny af i don think this is representative of the reality.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Think of it this way... what if you had 100 fatty b!tchy chicks fawning over you... would you care about any of them? If you had 1 out of 100 chicks that was attractive and feminine would you care about the 99 that were not? Of course you won't.
The average dude is attracted to looks and feminine behavior, that's pretty much it. We will put up with a lot of BS if a chick is hot and makes us feel dominate and manly. She could be working in a dead-end job... making next to nothing. Be a total wreak with finances... in debt up to her @ss, no real sense of humor... She could be flaky as fvck, and a complete airhead. But if she is hot, and knows how to be feminine and submissive we will forget about everything else.
Chicks are the same way... they see these fawning masses the way we see fatties. Chicks are attracted to good looking men who on the surface appear to be hot... but they really are not interested in these men, because they do not make them feel anything. The dopamine rush they get from getting so much attention is like taking a drug hit... the feeling never lasts... and they have to get another fix. You might love the way the drugs make you feel, but you really don't care about the drugs.
No matter how hot a chick is... there is some dude out there that she really wants... all the others kissing her @ss are not the one. The ONE they want is the one that acts like a man.
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How do you act like a man?
NSX-R
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She’s been there for couple of years now . All of the females she lives with half of them are fat and ugly . They all just below 6 . Guess what? They fck like rabbits.
My friend she’s kinda attractive around 7 at her best and she was telling me it’s so easy to find someone to fck in London. All the guys are so thirsty and have no standards. Even a fat whale can get laid . I just couldn’t believe what she was saying.
In fact i wanted to throw up just in thought of interacting sexually with any of her female room mates. How is this possible these women to have a sex life?
That woman swiping left could do that because as I explained she has a lot of options and I’m sure she’s talking with at least 2 or 3 guys at the time .
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PeasantPlayer
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This is so true
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Good question, and the simple answer is to not act like a woman.
Never over react to anything, especial things the chick does.
Put yourself first, she orbits you... NEVER orbit her. If she decides that she doesn't want to be in your orbit, then you have to be okay with that... if she's circling another planet. Earth doesn't care that Titan orbits Jupiter, be grounded like Earth.
Make a move, get to the point. Don't pvssy-foot around with what you want. Declare your intentions, but do not push for anything she doesn't want.
Don't b!tch about your problems in front of chicks.... it's okay for chicks, but not for men, men solve problems they don't complain about them.
Don't play emotional games with chicks... that is their game and you CAN NOT WIN, so don't play. This really is easy to do, but so many guys have been sold a bill of goods by PUAs and dating gurus that give you 'rules' and teach how to pretend to be something you aren't as a means of manipulation. You just do what you want.... that's it. If you ever get to a point where you are asking what sort of action you should do in situations involving chicks, then you know you are on the WRONG path. If you want to text her, fvcking text her. Don't worry about how what you say might impact her impression of you, just do and say what you want. Now be advised, if what you do and say is awkward, well... you will suffer the consequences..., you just need more practice with chicks. Fix that part, but don't fix your impulses, unless you impulses are criminal in nature... but this is advice for normal men. Just like my advice will not help you with crazy chicks... it also will not help you if you are a crazy dude.