Guess you didn't ready any of my post lol, you must skim a lot. Part of leading is actual comprehension but you knew that already right?If leading is overrated then don't lead.
Continue down the same path you have been at.
Destiny is everything.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.