"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Machine10033

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Last year I almost got myself involved with a woman who claimed her marriage was ending. She literally morphed and portrays all the traits I would want in a woman. Loving, caring, home maker, fitness enthusiast... in the back of my mind I kept saying wtf man you need to bail.. she has kids and had moved her mom into her and her husband’s house. So Distanced myself.... she continued to reach out and I kept distancing myself.

I ghosted her for 2 months and she moved onto another dude. He was married and she was still married. I run into her and this other guy this spring and she immediately tells this poor guy she has an emergency and needs to leave. They both leave the event and she comes back without him and comes over. Gives me **** for ghosting her and starts saying we should be fck buddies. I keep my distance and she keeps reaching out. Now all her messages are about fcking.

She senses I’m not interested in taking her bait and possibly getting trapped with her and her baggage. She goes back to the other dude. They end up getting busted by their significant others.. and both get served with divorce papers. Her husband kicks her, the kids and her mom out... she’s never worked... never paid a bill... never contributed a dime to their marriage.

I have ghosted her for the last 6 months and she continues to email me. Giving me updates that go unanswered.... the other guy is now living with half his salary, lost his house and is now dating this mess. I returned to this forum last year because of this situation and the advice was priceless and snapped me out of my brain fog! Thank you all!!!! God knows what my life would be like now if I didn’t come back here !
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Last year I almost got myself involved with a woman who claimed her marriage was ending. She literally morphed and portrays all the traits I would want in a woman. Loving, caring, home maker, fitness enthusiast... in the back of my mind I kept saying wtf man you need to bail.. she has kids and had moved her mom into her and her husband’s house. So Distanced myself.... she continued to reach out and I kept distancing myself.

I ghosted her for 2 months and she moved onto another dude. He was married and she was still married. I run into her and this other guy this spring and she immediately tells this poor guy she has an emergency and needs to leave. They both leave the event and she comes back without him and comes over. Gives me **** for ghosting her and starts saying we should be fck buddies. I keep my distance and she keeps reaching out. Now all her messages are about fcking.

She senses I’m not interested in taking her bait and possibly getting trapped with her and her baggage. She goes back to the other dude. They end up getting busted by their significant others.. and both get served with divorce papers. Her husband kicks her, the kids and her mom out... she’s never worked... never paid a bill... never contributed a dime to their marriage.

I have ghosted her for the last 6 months and she continues to email me. Giving me updates that go unanswered.... the other guy is now living with half his salary, lost his house and is now dating this mess. I returned to this forum last year because of this situation and the advice was priceless and snapped me out of my brain fog! Thank you all!!!! God knows what my life would be like now if I didn’t come back here !
Why couldn't you keep banging her? Doesn't mean you have to marry her.
 

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Why couldn't you keep banging her? Doesn't mean you have to marry her.
Could keep banging.... there is much better puss out there though. 35 year old with 3 kids.... after this board woke me up she’s pretty much at the end of the food chain. That should be a last resort 3am Hail Mary!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Could keep banging.... there is much better puss out there though. 35 year old with 3 kids.... after this board woke me up she’s pretty much at the end of the food chain. That should be a last resort 3am Hail Mary!
Something about the mental image of nutting on her face, you own her then. So then when you want the 3am hail mary, guess what, she'll pick up the phone.
 
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