Keeping connected in a Long Distance "Relationship"?

[The Duke]

Simple. "he's whipped over her" & "Skype every night before they went to bed". Case-in-point.

I don't see how "communicating" with your long distance relationship girl every night is whipped or feminine. Most of my LTR girl's I talked to nightly.

Certainly wasn't whipped.

I'm curious about your experience with LTR's.

 

[Chi Town]

I don't see how "communicating" with your long distance relationship girl every night is whipped or feminine. Most of my LTR girl's I talked to nightly.

Certainly wasn't whipped.

I'm curious about your experience with LTR's.

I didn't get that either

 

[RickTheToad]

With all the temptation and options ladies have these days, I wouldn't know why she would keep something like this going. You may be setup to be plan B, C or later. Tread carefully my friend.

 

[Chi Town]

With all the temptation and options ladies have these days, I wouldn't know why she would keep something like this going. You may be setup to be plan B, C or later. Tread carefully my friend.

That's the thing, options don't matter if your at the top of the list, how many options women have is a mot issue unless your at the bottom of the totem pole.

Girl A is a 8 and currently has 4 guys pursuing her, that's not going to mean anything to a guy who is at the top of her list of 4 guys, and when other guys try to get with her it still won't matter because those other guys aren't as attractive to her as the number 1 guy.

Worrying about how many options a women has is like saying you don't measure up with the competition.

That's like trying out for the basketball team and worrying about all the other players who are trying out for the same position as you lol, a confident player who knows how good he is won't care.

 

[Chi Town]

Very few on SoSuave can top that.

This

 

[GrowingPains]

When guys on here claim they never love women it sounds ridiculous to me. Maybe I don't fully understand it, which is fine but it'd be cool if someone of that viewpoint could help me out.

It just sounds so cold and incapable of forming a relationship with a person. Why is it frowned upon to love someone. We're human. I understand not putting women on a pedestal and relationship hunting.. but love is a natural emotion. I'd even go as far as to say women can, even if very rarely, experience love too. It might be predicated on what she thought the guy could do for her, but can transform into something else. Yes? No?

OP: Writing letters is good but you'll need to figure out if that's where she is too. She might think it's too much. I wrote my ex letters when we were dating. We were high school sweethearts though and dated for 4 years. So the intimacy of a letter was appropriate. But if I were you I'd find other options and check in with her when she's around. Investing in a LTR is pointless in this scenario. There's plenty of interesting women it there, just put that energy in finding them instead of entertaining the LTR (which had been pointed out to not be a relationship anyways). She must be BAD if you're considering pursuing her even though she isn't around.

 

[Chi Town]

When guys on here claim they never love women it sounds ridiculous to me. Maybe I don't fully understand it, which is fine but it'd be cool if someone of that viewpoint could help me out.

It just sounds so cold and incapable of forming a relationship with a person. Why is it frowned upon to love someone. We're human. I understand not putting women on a pedestal and relationship hunting.. but love is a natural emotion. I'd even go as far as to say women can, even if very rarely, experience love too. It might be predicated on what she thought the guy could do for her, but can transform into something else. Yes? No?

OP: Writing letters is good but you'll need to figure out if that's where she is too. She might think it's too much. I wrote my ex letters when we were dating. We were high school sweethearts though and dated for 4 years. So the intimacy of a letter was appropriate. But if I were you I'd find other options and check in with her when she's around. Investing in a LTR is pointless in this scenario. There's plenty of interesting women it there, just put that energy in finding them instead of entertaining the LTR (which had been pointed out to not be a relationship anyways). She must be BAD if you're considering pursuing her even though she isn't around.

There just bitter and there tired of women playing them lol.

They think not loving women and not showing affection makes them more attractive lol they think showing affection will make women lose attraction

 

[R.U.G.]

I didn't get that either

Read between the lines brother. With women, you always have to be on your game and top form. It's always best to be one or two steps ahead of them so you can react to a positive or negative experience instinctively. Women are complex animals. It's a maze that most men get lost in.

 

[Chi Town]

Read between the lines brother. With women, you always have to be on your game and top form. It's always best to be one or two steps ahead of them so you can react to a positive or negative experience instinctively. Women are complex animals. It's a maze that most men get lost in.

True, your telling me what I already know, I'm just saying, showing affection to your girl is not losing in the game lol being a pushover is, chasing her is ECT ECT ECT

Showing affection alone is not bad.

 

[Spaz]

Women are complex animals. It's a maze that most men get lost in.

Women r complex simply because they have all 4 inherent personality traits within them.

Which is why women are good at multitasking and also flaky as hell compared to men, who only has 1 inherent personality - that's why men are geniuses in a given field - that ability to focus.

 

[Spaz]

There just bitter and there tired of women playing them lol.

They think not loving women and not showing affection makes them more attractive lol they think showing affection will make women lose attraction

In an LDR, it's not so much as ur cousin showing affection that's holding on their relationship.

It's because another greater man has not come knocking at her door.

So its basically luck and also his girlfriend smv vs other women in her current environment.

 

[Chi Town]

In an LDR, it's not so much as ur cousin showing affection that's holding on their relationship.

It's because another greater man has not come knocking at her door.

So its basically luck and also his girlfriend smv vs other women in her current environment.

In any relationship, whether it's long distance or not has nothing to do with showing affection, it's based on her level of attraction to her man which is predominately based on the man's behavior.

 

[Roober]

There are two circumstances when a man is free to spread his seed, and step outside of his relationship.

1. An LDR. A highly interested woman will follow you to the ends of the earth, or wouldnt dare leave you to your own vices while she follows her dreams. This is assuming a certain amount of reasonable behavior in the mans part ofcourse.

2. When a woman refuses sex. This means she does not find you desirable enough to fvck at that point in time. If you push all of the right buttons, she should almost always be willing to have sex. Periods, exhaustion, and any other reason are mere excuses to avoid your p3nis. A "no" to me is the Monopoly equivalent of "get out jail free" card.

The best way for an LDR is to not do it. For every 1 that succeeds, many more fail. And for every success, think about what they likely sacrificed for that LDR. Maybe they missed on someone who was better for them, or maybe they gave up career opportunities. It's best to part ways peacefully, and possibly reconnect in the future.

 

[Spaz]

In any relationship, whether it's long distance or not has nothing to do with showing affection, it's based on her level of attraction to her man which is predominately based on the man's behavior.

Attraction via behaviour/looks can only be sustained by respect and admiration.

Like I said, if a greater man comes along....

 

[Chi Town]

Attraction via behaviour/looks can only be sustained by respect and admiration.

Like I said, if a greater man comes along....

The respect and admiration comes from the man's behavior.

 

[Spaz]

The respect and admiration comes from the man's behavior.

Nay brother.

It comes from his passion and effectiveness.

 

[Chi Town]

Nay brother.

It comes from his passion and effectiveness.

Bottom line, we can both agree without respect it's a failed mission.

 

[jaymbrs]

I literally have hoes in different area codes. **** buddies who I hit up every now and then on social media or through text who I hook up with whenever I'm in their parts of town. We'll go on "dates" but we both never take it past a certain emotional point. Always friendly and keeping it light. LDR? No way dude. That's a huge waste of time.

 

[Spaz]

Bottom line, we can both agree without respect it's a failed mission.

Let's not forget admiration too...

 

[bario]

Thanks all

So I did give her a call an hour or so ago, but she did not pickup ... will see, if she does not get back later ... it's her lost.