"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dating younger women tips from a 40's guy

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My conversations-date-lay with a 26 yo accountant that self's explanatory in below attachments.


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And a date is set.

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And after buying her a cheap fried mee and bringing her 2 see mission impossible, I did the possible - bedded her good and left.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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My bad, I've forgotten to translate some of the words in the text.

Some of it is a slang but I trust most will understand the concept.
 

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My bad, I've forgotten to translate some of the words in the text.

Some of it is a slang but I trust most will understand the concept.
Your killing it on the 2/3 "golden ratio". You respond about 1/5 of her, she just bleeding out showing interest to communicate. How did you get this started from the beginning?
 

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It's a summary;

Bumped into her at a bar last week.

I was bone tired and wanted a quick beer before heading home.

A group of 5 girls sat next to my table and was gossiping abt their lady boss; b1tch and every known swear word was said.

Couldn't help overhearing it, and wanting them to hush down to hv some peace, I turned around and said it's easily solved; get ur lady boss some good fvck.

I went back 2 ignoring them, didn't do much good, seems to have fired them up instead.

One of the hot girls invited me to sit over, ignored her, she got persistent and offered 2 buy me a drink, I replied that's it's against my principles to accept drinks from strangers, told her maybe after we got to know each other better I would consider it then I ignored her. This got the other ladies laughing. I ignored it too, continued sipping my beer and reading/responding to emails.

10 mins in, I stood up paid the bill for my drink, took out my business card and handed it over 2 the girl that was the most modestly dressed amongst them all.

I left.

A few days later she messages me and we joked abt her lady boss s€xual needs.

The rest is on the chat that I've posted.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's a summary;

Bumped into her at a bar last week.

I was bone tired and wanted a quick beer before heading home.

A group of 5 girls sat next to my table and was gossiping abt their lady boss; b1tch and every known swear word was said.

Couldn't help overhearing it, and wanting them to hush down to hv some peace, I turned around and said it's easily solved; get ur lady boss some good fvck.

I went back 2 ignoring them, didn't do much good, seems to have fired them up instead.

One of the hot girls invited me to sit over, ignored her, she got persistent and offered 2 buy me a drink, I replied that's it's against my principles to accept drinks from strangers, told her maybe after we got to know each other better I would consider it then I ignored her. This got the other ladies laughing. I ignored it too, continued sipping my beer and reading/responding to emails.

10 mins in, I stood up paid the bill for my drink, took out my business card and handed it over 2 the girl that was the most modestly dressed amongst them all.

I left.

A few days later she messages me and we joked abt her lady boss s€xual needs.

The rest is on the chat that I've posted.
Sharp as a tack! Going after the least impressively dressed one is great strategy. The others want the attention she wanted to have fun.
 

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Not strategy, purely prefer those feminine types.

Hot tight super mini sized - dressed up women although looks good on the outside, imo it's a cover up for everything else that's lacking.

The feminine type moans and trashes properly when in the throes of passion, plus I find their conversation amusingly refreshing.
 

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More conversation and it's time to slowly let it die off....

Perhaps another bang and motivating her to search for the one true man (which is not me)
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Dude. You got her crushed. She's eating out the palm of your hands
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Great stuff OP.

What happened to this plate? U still spinning her?
If not, how many time you banged her and why do you think the plate drop?
 

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Great stuff OP.

What happened to this plate? U still spinning her?
If not, how many time you banged her and why do you think the plate drop?
Banged her for 3 weeks or so and then slowly dropped her.

Nightspot picks will be dropped even when everything seems good.
 

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Why?

To avoid incoming drama?

Because they aren´t ltr material?
None of the above.

Maybe it's instinct or just plain preference on my part and I've been doing the same since my early 20's up to now.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How those the dropping down of the plate usualy goes, you just stop awsering their txt/calls slowly?
Much drama?
 

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This particular lady was a fling. Easy dropping her as the bonds weren't there.

Plates are completely different, age dependent (teens, 20's, 30's) and also if they're been with you over 1 year.

How I manage it is highly dependent on what I've mentioned above.
 

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This particular lady was a fling. Easy dropping her as the bonds weren't there.

Plates are completely different, age dependent (teens, 20's, 30's) and also if they're been with you over 1 year.

How I manage it is highly dependent on what I've mentioned above.
Any pointers to dealing with different ages? As a young and ignorant man I simply didn't like to spend time around women who weren't giving me sex. So there was no over thinking. Things worked great, I kept it moving unless she was into me....

So today as a 40's. I notice I have issue with women about 7 and greater years apart. Due to generational differences. I'm getting mad love from older women though. Youngers some do like me, but the game is a bit different when I was that age and I don't feel I've nailed it. Any pointers?
 

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Any old women who gets a younger man will shower him with lots of "mad love". That's no secret. Don't bother dating older chicks, they're biologically irrelevant and should be treated as such.

If u r dating women into their 30's then her objective will be to settle down ASAP. It's not generational differences.

Go date women in their 20's. Lead them into ur frame.

There's a few men here dating women in their 20's.
 

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Any old women who gets a younger man will shower him with lots of "mad love". That's no secret. Don't bother dating older chicks, they're biologically irrelevant and should be treated as such.

If u r dating women into their 30's then her objective will be to settle down ASAP. It's not generational differences.

Go date women in their 20's. Lead them into ur frame.

There's a few men here dating women in their 20's.
Hardest age group to spin women wanting to settle down asap?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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