5string
Master Don Juan
How are all you BPD addicted fellas doing? All that crazy monkey sex and abuse ruining your lives? I truly hope not but I know better.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Howdy! Been awhile.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I don't think our time on SS ever overlapped, but I remember seeing your name on a lot of the threads during the time when I was going through my own break up with a girl (that I strongly suspect) had BPD, which is what lead me here in the first place. Don't remember many of the specifics but I do know that that was a very low point for me and I was struggling to make sense of things & I owe a lot to the guys here who paid that knowledge forward. Thanks bro.
Sadly the quality of the dialogue here isn't what it used to be--still all the same old excuses & fewer of the members who make it out stick around. But what a journey it's been.
Cheers & hope all's well.
Sadly the quality of the dialogue here isn't what it used to be--still all the same old excuses & fewer of the members who make it out stick around. But what a journey it's been.
Cheers & hope all's well.
Mike32ct
Master Don Juan
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Hey man.
Augustus_McCrae
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Wow, glad to hear you’re alive man!
And... you still owe us a story...
Welcome back!
-Augustus-
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Oh man, I was just thinking about you and wondering how you are doing. Glad to see you back, and I hope you stick around!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
5string
Master Don Juan
Thanks guys!
The short version is that I made it through the stalking, the abuse (she hit me so hard, I lost the hearing in my right ear and had surgery to get part of it back), her nasty lawyer, etc. it’s done now of course. After awhile, I met a nice gal, remarried and moved on. I am now 62 and have a beautiful set of twins who are pushing 2! Mine is a unique story no doubt. Funny thing is, I never had kids. Now I have a girl and a boy.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Welcome back
5string
Master Don Juan
Mentally ill thread huh? Ha!@5string - Speak of the devil, I about mentioned your name in the mentally ill thread and here you appear. Figured you could englighten some of these "Captain Deal with a Crazy- Ho" types.
Thing is, the crazy ho’s give you the best sex and are the most fun, at least initially. Then they get you hooked and **** up your mind. Like a mousetrap with a piece of yummy cheese on it. Hard to resist but we all know what happens when the dumb ass mouse goes for the cheese.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
5string
Master Don Juan
Well brother, guess it was my destiny. Thank you for the kind words as well as those from the other guys.Welcome back, 5string. Always nice to see someone older than I am on the board, lol.
I can't believe you started having kids at 60! Not sure I would have the energy for it.
He's doing it right then.I can't believe you started having kids at 60! Not sure I would have the energy for it.
The male primary biological imperative is to win at everything he does and that includes securing unlimited access 2 unlimited pvssies.
Murk
Master Don Juan
5string
Master Don Juan
It has been hard work for sure and the twins are happy, healthy and very cute.Welcome back, 5string. Always nice to see someone older than I am on the board, lol.
I can't believe you started having kids at 60! Not sure I would have the energy for it.
You all know how long I have been gone. I had to take a break and get it together. I did. It took me this long to recover after a bad marriage to the BPD. You guys know my story. Watch out for these gals. I got sucked in and made it back. Not all do after going down in flames as I did. Not everyone will listen to me but if one of you do, I will be a happy Master DJ.