You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Sounds like you’re doing a lot of things right. I drink whiskey every day and take ibuprofen for back and shoulder issues. And so far no issues with getting wood.I do lift....heavy. It will be enlightening to see what urology has to say. Pretty much eat clean, with low carbs, high protein. Never smoked, no drugs, no alcohol...Do use Porpecia on a regular basis and know that can be problematic. Wonder if non steroidal anti inflammatory meds have an effect...like Alieve and such?
Your concerns about propecia: https://www.webmd.com/sexual-condit...pecia-proscar-new-sexual-dysfunction-warnings. You Might want to stop taking it and see what comes up (so to speak). Sorry... couldn’t resist.I do lift....heavy. It will be enlightening to see what urology has to say. Pretty much eat clean, with low carbs, high protein. Never smoked, no drugs, no alcohol...Do use Porpecia on a regular basis and know that can be problematic. Wonder if non steroidal anti inflammatory meds have an effect...like Alieve and such?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Most men have ED because their head was done in by the increase in the power of feminism over the last 20 years. The others are mostly overweight. Calcification of blood vessels etc are the minority conditions.The problem isn't inability to get and keep an erection. The problem is insufficient blood flow to the erectile tissues. Most likely you have athlerosclerosis. That's a build up of fatty plaque on the inside of your artery walls. It restricts blood flow a little more and a little more over a long time. One way to check to see if this is the case is to take your resting blood pressure. Is it noticably higher than 20 years ago?
The problem took decades to develop. It won't magically disappear with a few weeks of diet and exercise. You'll need medical help.
Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra are nitrates that reduce blood pressure. They work by releasing nitrous oxide into the bloodstream, which causes arteries to expand. These particular meds work better on the genitourinary system than do other nitrates. There's more to it than that, but that's the more important bit.
I take Cialis because it lasts longer. The so-called Cialis for Daily Use has insufficient dosage to work at all. I found that I need 10mg, and that most side effects disappear when I maintain a high enough concentration of the med in my body. Unfortunately, whenever the body level dips below a certain point, the side effects come rushing back. So I cut a 20mg tablet in half, and take half every 12 hours.
One interesting change is that my kidneys are working better, excreting more sugars. I know this because my pee suddenly became frothy like a good head on a beer. My urine had been flat for so long I hadn't noticed it. After a while, I also found a substantial reduction in the numbness and tingling in my toes.
You will know if you're taking enough Cialis when you awake with morning wood. That, too, is something I'd completely forgotten. Sure, Cialis won't make your 60-year-old prick as hard as when you were 40. Your Johnson will seem a bit less sensitive and sort of choked feeling. But the mere ability to function normally is a huge improvement in quality of life.
Well, I hope this helps. Best of luck.
I agree. The KETO diet will remove buildup in the vascular walls. This is a MODERN condition.Most men have ED because their head was done in by the increase in the power of feminisn over the last 20 years. The others are mostly overweight. Calcification of blood vessels etc are the minority conditions.
Take all of them men with issues and let them have all the sex the sex they want with a physically attractive wpman that loves and desires them the problems will go away in 70-80% of men.
Many men are dealing with situation and women that are boner killers. The damage is deep.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I had a ex which shut doen the sex and was issuing put downs and abuse. So no love was there. After some time my self worth and erections lessoned. It took about 6 months of daily abuse.I do believe the issue is a combination of the issues of age, and the fact of a whole lot of mental crap that lives in a man's head. It all adds up to a self fulfilling and increasing issue that once established is difficult to remedy, thus feeding upon itself creating doubt and further frustration with performance. Urology will address any physical causation, but the big head work will have to addressed by my own self evaluation and modification of life situation. Thanks for the replies.
EurekaAnd there it is! I am getting increasing pressure from her to legally commit to her, sell my property and move to her community. I just do not want to do that! And as such disrespect and hostility has been increasing. Last time we were together, performance was an issue, her response was, ok let's get up I have sh*t to do! Yeah, that me feel really special. She is an independent woman who has a past, orbiters, and the will to walk if she wants to do so. That is a deadly combination when it comes to dealing with the psychological aspects of the current problems. As I said this relationship has an expiration date that is rapidly approaching I fear.
I wouldn’t rely on anything otherwise you will always have to have it.Sadly im on the other side of the spectrum i dont last long enough.
Probably for the lack of sex i was having in ltr.
Now that im single i want to fix it ik about the cream i can use anything else that can help?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Idk man tried that before did not work very much even when i was getting alot more sex.I wouldn’t rely on anything otherwise you will always have to have it.
Get her off a couple of times before you go to intercourse.
Good man! Good to note a nice conjugation revs your sex drive for a couple weeks. Have you ever had a chick try to do bj only?Hi Spinach,
Just to say that UBER is right about red and Blue Vegetables,add tomatoes,purple skinned Potatoes and Red Onions to his list,it's Svexual arousal benefits are really spin offs to the major benefit that is helping avoid Cancer and maintaining a healthy Prostrate...Speaking of which at your age you will probably be getting symptoms of an enlarged Prostate from time to time,something that can be relieved by just eating a complete head of Brocalli every couple of days,boil it for seven minutes in a large cup of Water,drink the juice and eat the rest,horrible as it is,it's not too bad in an omelette,really works wonders....getting back to poor old Spinach and his problems,are you taking a bit of Dutch courage before your little soirees?...just a half bottle of full octane Beer will put me off my mark!!...I am close to 75 but can always raise it,on occasion with the help of Viagra sometimes service two girls in one Day,generally manage it four times a week,my secret all the above plus four Vitamin B's and a Zinc pill daily and lifting heavy weights,a little every Day...Too much of that or too much work causes problems though...You say Cialis works in the AM,well think laterally,take the little pill in the morning...A little romp with the odd bit of stray will also lift my Libido for several weeks So good luck Spinach.
Redhead or a brunette nurse, nurse doesn't know about the redhead does she?And there it is! I am getting increasing pressure from her to legally commit to her, sell my property and move to her community. I just do not want to do that! And as such disrespect and hostility has been increasing. Last time we were together, performance was an issue, her response was, ok let's get up I have sh*t to do! Yeah, that me feel really special. She is an independent woman who has a past, orbiters, and the will to walk if she wants to do so. That is a deadly combination when it comes to dealing with the psychological aspects of the current problems. As I said this relationship has an expiration date that is rapidly approaching I fear.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.