For the more, um, Mature among us...the dreaded ED!

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Do you do cardio? Lifting for power raise stress in body. Stress is not good for boners. Cardio is good for your blood circulation producing a veiny and harder boner. Cardio also consumes the stress in your system. 20-30 minutes of cardio at least 3 days a week can keep you good.
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My guy is nearly 50 and has ED sporadically. It frustrates him quite a bit but he's open with me about it. Get your T levels checked. My BF gets T injections every couple of weeks and it is a noticeable uptick in libido (as well as energy and metabolism.)

Being a great lover is much more than your hard on. Learn some erotic arts. If you can please her even when your body won't cooperate you'll relax & that can help your own blood flow organically.

Men obcess about performance. Stop it. If you focus too much on performance you will end up with a self defeating self fulfilling prophesy. Not good.

Focus instead on being fully present, on enjoying your lover and using the erotic potential of your mind and whole body.

See a doc, get your levels checked, try some meds and so on...but don't berate yourself. A woman who is into you is going to be understanding & enjoy you anyway.
This. It's what I was going to suggest but she beat me to it. There are a lot of physical reasons for ED. Get your blood pressure right, T levels checked and, for God's sake, stop deflecting by contemplating that maybe this means the relationship is at its expiration date. That's just you trying to get out of being held accountable for this.

You'll learn more about her loyalty to you by including her in this journey. Be a man, face it, don't let fear dictate your decisions
 

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Eating healthy, exercising and being attracted to the lady helps a lot. They say caffeine too.
 

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Update. Did the urology route, all levels good. Started on 5mg Cialis daily. It works! The expiration date issue is a whole different matter! Thanks again for your insight and support. Later.
 

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Update. Did the urology route, all levels good. Started on 5mg Cialis daily. It works! The expiration date issue is a whole different matter! Thanks again for your insight and support. Later.
Good luck with the redhead and your wife.
 

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Just a suggestion. Read the second page of this thread. @stormrider made an inciteful post that you should explore.


Stormrider:
“If you break frame you can become impotent.

I think I have solved erectyle dysfunction.

Sex is mostly psychological.

I allowed a woman be the dominant one and chased her. I molded myself to fit her idea of a perfect man.

And then I couldn't get it up for months. No porn, no fantasy, nothing could revive my sex drive.

I wasn't until I met another woman that I dominated in bed that I felt virile again.

And it's everything in life. I always have to stay true to myself or a part of me malfunctions.”
 

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Ok guys, this is not for you young guys who can get wood at any time. This is for us who have alot of years on the clock. So for the first time in my lengthy existence I am going through a period of performance issues. And let me share this, it is rather devastating. Been with this woman a number of years. She is 20 years younger...and a redhead. Lately she is ready, but alas it is hit and miss for me. Tried generic little blue pill. Gave me a hell of a headache and not much else. Then tried a Cialis sample. Worked great in AM, but nothing the night before. So my question to the group, besides an implant (Where is Richard the frog when you need him!), has anyone had experience with anything else that can reliably give erection on demand? She has been cool about it but this sh*t needs to stop...or start I guess. And no I am not asking for a friend. Thanks in advance.
Your options are:

Cialis every day and/or testosterone replacement. Exercise. Also, don’t masturbate or watch pornography. At all. Ever.
 

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Anyone here over 55? Typically how long does recovery take before you can come again, even on those pills.
 

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Get a new sexy hot girl that's willing to do all the sexy kinky stuff you that you secretly desire - all those hidden dark perverted desires and suddenly ur ED is miraculously cured.
Thats what it is. Over half the guys "ED" is due to no longer being attracted to his wife or he let himself get dominated.
 

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My guy is nearly 50 and has ED sporadically. It frustrates him quite a bit but he's open with me about it. Get your T levels checked. My BF gets T injections every couple of weeks and it is a noticeable uptick in libido (as well as energy and metabolism.)

Being a great lover is much more than your hard on. Learn some erotic arts. If you can please her even when your body won't cooperate you'll relax & that can help your own blood flow organically.

Men obcess about performance. Stop it. If you focus too much on performance you will end up with a self defeating self fulfilling prophesy. Not good.

Focus instead on being fully present, on enjoying your lover and using the erotic potential of your mind and whole body.

See a doc, get your levels checked, try some meds and so on...but don't berate yourself. A woman who is into you is going to be understanding & enjoy you anyway.
This is true but when women talk about sex like this it takes all the fun out of it.

It’s supposed to be naughty fun. If I try to turn it into some hippy tai chi thing, I’m definitely losing a bit of interest.

Hence, I’m not a great lover.
 
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Oh, and I’ve had it now and then. Perhaps 10% of the time I’ve tried and not managed much to write home about.

I was about 50/50 my first few times due to nerves.

Sometimes I find just finding a quiet moment to think sexy before starting is good. When a woman comes on to me, I will stress a bit more and find it harder to get in the mood. If I get someone going on my own, and then move in, I find this is better. Def ensure you are starting it, the most annoying thing women can do is persevere when you’re just not in the mood.

Interest lowers in women the longer you’ve been together. I find if I am not too close, eating well, exercise but also I take her to buy sexy clothes and underwear and I’m usually sporting a rod of iron just being surrounded by lingerie.

Just sometimes find a woman sat around in sweats with no effort on appearance does not for a boner make. As soon as she freshens up to go out I’m on her.

On that note, a lot of my GF got annoyed when I would ask them to do some basic appearance stuff...not demand, but kind of explained I find myself more likely to have sex if she’s cleaned up and not lying in bed.

I don’t think a lot of women understand just how visual we are. Or how important that becomes once the initial honeymoon is over.

Or maybe just me. I don’t find women fully naked anywhere near as attractive as a woman wearing lingerie or sexy clothes. Makes a massive difference to our sex life once I explained how much a small bit of effort makes.
 

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My guy is nearly 50 and has ED sporadically. It frustrates him quite a bit but he's open with me about it. Get your T levels checked. My BF gets T injections every couple of weeks and it is a noticeable uptick in libido (as well as energy and metabolism.)

Being a great lover is much more than your hard on. Learn some erotic arts. If you can please her even when your body won't cooperate you'll relax & that can help your own blood flow organically.

Men obcess about performance. Stop it. If you focus too much on performance you will end up with a self defeating self fulfilling prophesy. Not good.

Focus instead on being fully present, on enjoying your lover and using the erotic potential of your mind and whole body.

See a doc, get your levels checked, try some meds and so on...but don't berate yourself. A woman who is into you is going to be understanding & enjoy you anyway.
If he’s getting injections “every COUPLE of weeks” he’s not doing it right. Tell him to find a different doctor. An endocrinologist that understands half lives. Not a urologist or a primary that knows nothing about hormones
 

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If he’s getting injections “every COUPLE of weeks” he’s not doing it right. Tell him to find a different doctor. An endocrinologist that understands half lives. Not a urologist or a primary that knows nothing about hormones
The other thing is, what happened to natural ageing? I’d rather just stop having sex than have to jack up testosterone.

Perhaps I’d feel different at 50, but at 50 I’m likely to be very much tied up with being a dad rather than being a stud. In my 30s now sex has gone from my no 1 concern to no 4 or 5 . I honestly don’t care if my drive diminishes. It’s what happens when you get older.

Perhaps if no side effects I’d give it a try, just seems a little OTT to start mainlining androgens.

It’s why I never took steroids when I was lifting a lot, am I really going to screw with my endocrine system for a crumb of female attention? Steroid abusers to me seem like the male equivalent of bimbos getting tit jobs etc.

Perhaps if I got divorced and wanted a new partner.....I’d possibly need some T as you can’t really have a new relationship with no drive...but if I’m still with my wife and at 50 my drive is quite low compared to now, I’d just expect her to accept I’m getting old, like she is no longer the hot 20 something she was, and gracefully age and accept youth is a memory, not something to cling on to.
 

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mrgoodstuff (and more recently stormrider) have dominated this thread, IMO.

I've had ED before, and I'm convinced it wasn't health-related at all. It was stage fright (related to confidence and d*ck size) and lack of attraction. Combine those and it's killer.

Not to mention real sex is not like porn. You do have to semi-work up to it, it's not just a whip out a c*ck and she sucks it until you are hard. There are some expectations there. All this to say, you absolutely MUST be attracted to the woman and you MUST be confident in your own skin (not everybody has 9" c*cks).

I've been married for 11 years. I had some ED at first because #1, I had some stage fright and #2, she wasn't as attractive as the girls I'd been with in the years up until that point. That went on for a while then she lost some weight and suddenly got super attractive to me and ED issues DISAPPEARED. I could nail her twice a day and want more.

Fast forward to recently and some of it has come back. We've gotten into a rut where I am not really comfortable with my own body (gotten a little fat) and she has gained a little weight too. This breeds performance anxiety (at least to me).

Reason I post this now is because this is day 1 of my recovery :cool:. Now, it's possible that I'm also starting to see some health-related issues now like low T, I mean I am 38 and a little overweight. But I'm still convinced my ED is simply the reasons above as always.
 

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The other thing is, what happened to natural ageing? I’d rather just stop having sex than have to jack up testosterone.

Perhaps I’d feel different at 50, but at 50 I’m likely to be very much tied up with being a dad rather than being a stud. In my 30s now sex has gone from my no 1 concern to no 4 or 5 . I honestly don’t care if my drive diminishes. It’s what happens when you get older.

Perhaps if no side effects I’d give it a try, just seems a little OTT to start mainlining androgens.

It’s why I never took steroids when I was lifting a lot, am I really going to screw with my endocrine system for a crumb of female attention? Steroid abusers to me seem like the male equivalent of bimbos getting tit jobs etc.

Perhaps if I got divorced and wanted a new partner.....I’d possibly need some T as you can’t really have a new relationship with no drive...but if I’m still with my wife and at 50 my drive is quite low compared to now, I’d just expect her to accept I’m getting old, like she is no longer the hot 20 something she was, and gracefully age and accept youth is a memory, not something to cling on to.
So we had another guy here whose wife went thru menopause. Along with it went her sexual desire. She didnt try any work arounds to please him. She couldve easily had her hormone levels adjusted to continue having sex and did not. The member suffered and ended up leaving. Getting your test up to a moderate level wont hurt you and your life will be improved.
 
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