Girlfriend of a year put a pink streak in her hair.

[peanutbuttablunts]

the hair thing is just a symptom of the problem...her attitude is huge red flag.

Pride comes before a fall.

yeah this. but you also have to realize the situation she has created. its primed for her to cheat at this point. you cant say "oh the pink hair is a direct sign that this particular woman will cheat." but .....ill hedge my bets on this, shes going to cheat. who wants to put money on this

I'm not a gambling man fyi. read the art of war. pick battles etc

 

[In2theGame]

Not all women no.

But in my opinion if it’s not a big deal that she wants to dye a pink streak in her hair, then it shouldn’t be a big deal for her not to. It’s not like he is saying he doesn’t want her to get a job or something that would actually affect her life in a significant way.

If she was just some FWB, plate in his rotation or whatever that’s different, who cares. But she’s his girlfriend. So what’s more important? Having a pink strand of hair or having a happy boyfriend? That’s how I would see it personally.

The pick your battles thing goes both ways here.

Yes not all Women but a large percentage of them do. Some more subtle than others.

The overall feeling I get from this is she doesn't care what he thinks. What message does that send? She's going to do whatever she wants whether he likes it or not. Sure it's just a strand of pink hair but it sets the tone of the relationship that he's going to have to accept her if she does something he doesn't like which puts him in b!tchboy territory.

Women WILL change things for their Man to keep him lusting after her, even Women who aren't in a relationship with a guy but trying to impress him if he said, likes blonde hair, she will die her hair blonde to make him attracted to her because that's what he likes. Sh!t I wouldnt even put it passed her to impress another guy, If some dude she thought was a "hottie" said he thinks pink hair is hot. Women are insane like that, i've been with a ton of them and nothing surprises me anymore.

 

[In2theGame]

yeah this. but you also have to realize the situation she has created. its primed for her to cheat at this point. you cant say "oh the pink hair is a direct sign that this particular woman will cheat." but .....ill hedge my bets on this, shes going to cheat. who wants to put money on this

I'm not a gambling man fyi. read the art of war. pick battles etc

My thoughts are similar to this as well.

 

[Spaz]

I've not given this much thought.

Some of those ONS that I had in the past somehow had recently colored or cut their hair short.

They'd asked me what I'd think of their new hairdo prior to the fvck but ends up in the morning looking guilty, nervous and a few had tears in their eyes..wtf

I used to think perhaps it was my aggressiveness in bed but they were moaning like it's the best thing that's ever happened, I dismissed it as them being innocent good girls but now....

Im thinking perhaps they had some boyfriend tucked somewhere

Interesting topic

 

[HankHill]

It's not her dying the hair that's the problem, it's going against his wishes AND THEN instead of saying 'sorry I know you didn't want me to get it but I really wanted to try it. I'll probably get rid of it in a few weeks...let's have some fun'...she's creating drama about him not accepting her is an entitlement attitude and a blatant disregard for his wishes.

Apply silence and distance until she recognizes that a relationship requires compromise and communication (not just talking, but listening)

 

[Spaz]

I had this realization too that in hindsight I took a bunch of women from boyfriend's but I had no clue they even had them. You wouldn't know if the boyfriends aren't big social media users.

There's some lines I won't cross. Having a taken women is one of them. Old fashioned perhaps but it's more rooted to not wanting some drama in my life.

I've had 1 man begging me to leave his girlfriend alone in the past. It's not something desirable nor honorable.

Women can be tricky at times, projecting their availability, some from my experiences are expert liars when they want you to bed them.

Like I said this is an interesting topic. The hair thing is starting to make some sense.

I've not thought about this before until you guys brought it up to the fore.

 

[Jay25]

her immediate reaction to my displeasure was to say it was her hair and she could do as she pleases, I said well I don’t have to be attracted to it, then she said if you’re not attracted to me over hair color I don’t give a ****.

Then she’s making a hissy fit now about how I’m not attracted to her and then awhile back I told her she curses took much she’s taking everything from the kitchen sink.

 

[HankHill]

She might have an eye on someone else if she's using random stuff to make a mountain out of a molehill. Clearly she's not afraid to lose you so how you respond is what will determine what happens. Unless you apply silence and distance it's definitely over. If you play soft, clingy, forgiving she'll walk away because she's already lost respect and just needs that last push to get out. So, silence, distance and start looking for her replacement if you don't already have one.

 

[Murk]

Seems a very minor ting to get upset about, also seems a bit controlling.

 

[Jay25]

Yeah I called her and texted her that maybe I came off as a jerk, but only in response to the fact that she told me her hair color doesn’t concern me.

 

[In2theGame]

her immediate reaction to my displeasure was to say it was her hair and she could do as she pleases, I said well I don’t have to be attracted to it, then she said if you’re not attracted to me over hair color I don’t give a ****.

This chick is an open book. I'll let the rest of the SS don juans answer this. Red Flag on the play.

 

[Spaz]

This chick is an open book. I'll let the rest of the SS don juans answer this. Red Flag on the play.

Going from my above post and upon reflection.

I'm thinking along this lines;

It's not him dumping her.

It's her getting ready to dump him.

 

[wifehunter]

yeah this. but you also have to realize the situation she has created. its primed for her to cheat at this point. you cant say "oh the pink hair is a direct sign that this particular woman will cheat." but .....ill hedge my bets on this, shes going to cheat. who wants to put money on this

I'm not a gambling man fyi. read the art of war. pick battles etc

yep...

"I can do anything I want." also translates to "I can do any guy I want."

100 feet away, is minimum safe distance.

 

[sosousage]

I’m not really into this and I’ve told her this before, but out of nowhere she comes in with a pink strand in her hair.

It didn’t look bad but I don’t know I don’t really like stuff like this and she knows this, she says it’s her hair and can do what she wants and I said I don’t have to be attracted to it.

She knew I wouldn’t like it and did it anyway, how should I handle this

rationally: who cares, she wears what she wants, deal with it.

but you can troll her and tell her 'either pink strand or me' be ready if she choses pink strand tho you cant take your words back

 

[In2theGame]

her immediate reaction to my displeasure was to say it was her hair and she could do as she pleases, I said well I don’t have to be attracted to it, then she said if you’re not attracted to me over hair color I don’t give a ****.

Then she’s making a hissy fit now about how I’m not attracted to her and then awhile back I told her she curses took much she’s taking everything from the kitchen sink.

You know, If I were you, I probably would of let it slide a little bit if she came to me with "Baby, I really like this look. I think it's cute, I know you don't like it much but I want to keep it" Then I would be willing to bend a little but her coming out with "If you're not attracted to me over hair color I dont give a fvck" I would of told her "Do me a favor, get the fvck out of here with that attitude and don't contact me until you change that fvcking tone" That's how you should of handled that disrespect from her.

 

[Skyline]

Thieves always start small. Stealing a candy bar. They won't get caught, it's only a candy bar.

People who break laws start small. They're just going 10 over the speed limit, it's not that fast.

The point is, everyone always starts small and it eventually evolves into something greater because they went without being punished or caught.

You give a prisoner 2 minutes extra outside and then that same prisoner starts asking for 3, 5, 7, then 10, and before you know it... He now has leverage over you.

If it really bothers you, and if her attitude towards that does, you should withdraw attention.

 

[Jay25]

You know, If I were you, I probably would of let it slide a little bit if she came to me with "Baby, I really like this look. I think it's cute, I know you don't like it much but I want to keep it" Then I would be willing to bend a little but her coming out with "If you're not attracted to me over hair color I dont give a fvck" I would of told her "Do me a favor, get the fvck out of here with that attitude and don't contact me until you change that fvcking tone" That's how you should of handled that disrespect from her.

I wish I would have thought of this, but I got off center.

I’m not sure exactly what to do now, because I don’t want to act like this behavior is ok, that disrespect.

 

[wifehunter]

I wish I would have thought of this, but I got off center.

I’m not sure exactly what to do now, because I don’t want to act like this behavior is ok, that disrespect.

The best way to deal with it, is to remove yourself from the situation.

Use extremely limited contact until things improve and the dust settles.

Her drama is her business, not yours.

 

[xuzaki]

I just came a cross a relevant quote from Roosh that reminded me of this thread:

If a girl cuts her hair short even though you explicitly told her you dislike short hair, she’s saying that she doesn’t care about your opinion, and is essentially daring you to break up with her. You then have grounds to downgrade the relationship, but her insolent act indicates it’s likely that she has already downgraded it. If a girl does something she knows you don’t like, she’s essentially slapping you in the face. You must not ignore it.

Her action indicates that her Alpha-perception of you is very low. The conversation between @peanutbuttablunts @In2theGame @wifehunter @Spaz @LARaiders85 about her being primed for cheating seems to be on point.

It's been three months. Does the OP have an update?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I’m not really into this and I’ve told her this before, but out of nowhere she comes in with a pink strand in her hair.

It didn’t look bad but I don’t know I don’t really like stuff like this and she knows this, she says it’s her hair and can do what she wants and I said I don’t have to be attracted to it.

She knew I wouldn’t like it and did it anyway, how should I handle this

A chick i was smashin got the Kristi mack porn star, MK goro haircut. The one that is attention ***** on tren and implies she eats box too.

I simply lost her digits.