"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do you screen for girls who love sex?

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To sort for girls who LOVE sex, you'll need to also sort for the absence of NEGATIVE qualities.

clinginess, insanity, random murderous rage, vampirism, STD's, boyfriends who just got out of prison, etc.

If you start with a population of 1,000,000 women, and find the ones who LOVE sex, and then eliminate the ones with UNWANTED qualities, you'll find that statistically, you'll be in Unicorn territory. (Assuming you want a girl who's easy on the eyes).

Best to just have an acceptable baseline set of criteria and bang whoever you can, and let the rest work itself out.

If you spend a year or so banging minimally acceptable ladies, you'll eventually filter out the rest and keep the best.

Kind of like a long game, sexual sales funnel idea.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Think you might have succinctly nailed it. I learned something today, thank you.
Another aspect is all the women who are simply shy/insecure/passed over due to not being hot, a lack of confidence or introversion doesn't necessarily make them not horny or not freaks.
 

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If you start with a population of 1,000,000 women, and find the ones who LOVE sex, and then eliminate the ones with UNWANTED qualities, you'll find that statistically, you'll be in Unicorn territory. (Assuming you want a girl who's easy on the eyes).
I think the trick is to search for negatives you can personally deal with rather than trying to find a girl with no negatives at all.

Nobody is perfect and if you found someone who was they'd be taken and too loyal to be stolen

For example i don't really care about clinginess or neediness if i like the girl, or partner count/her past (until it starts affecting the present/future)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Tact, calibration and being appropriate are intelligent.
But do they generally let this being " socially respectable and discreet " risk being a sign they are not interested in THAT?
 

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Another aspect is all the women who are simply shy/insecure/passed over due to not being hot, a lack of confidence or introversion doesn't necessarily make them not horny or not freaks.
That being said, is it safe to assume ALL women are freaks just obscured by differing degrees?
 

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That being said, is it safe to assume ALL women are freaks just obscured by differing degrees?
Depends on how close you are to being chad or brad pitt.

I've definitely known girls with a mile long laundry list of things they wouldn't do because they're boring like that, but i suspect that for at least some of them, chad would tear up the list then do every item in order.

It's probably best/easiest to find a girl who displays whatever sexual traits you want early on, than to bank on bringing her inner freak out
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Depends on how close you are to being chad or brad pitt.

I've definitely known girls with a mile long laundry list of things they wouldn't do because they're boring like that, but i suspect that for at least some of them, chad would tear up the list then do every item in order.

It's probably best/easiest to find a girl who displays whatever sexual traits you want early on, than to bank on bringing her inner freak out
I hear you, but let's assume he is a Chad Pitt, is she doing those things coz she's actually enjoying them or coz she's just so thrilled psychologically she's getting it from such a prime specimen she's just LETTING him so as to not risk pushing him away?
 

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The conservatively dressed one showing strong interest will give you sex the fastest... but when the tattooed one who's been ignoring you finally lets down the guard she has up because of her "issues"... she will rock your world
I don’t doubt that. Fair enough.
Thoughts as to why this is? No doubt about the tattoo covered crazy chick having daddy issue but why are the quiet conservative ones apparently so quick to yield? They say it's always the quiet ones, but why?
Deep thinking / introverted / intellectual / shy / quiet / repressed types have deep sexual fantasies in their heads. The wheels are spinning upstairs.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I know lots of girls who can be quite boring when it comes to sex and i try to avoid that, so I'm curious as to how you guys search for women that give lots of sex or interesting/kinky sex (if there is any way other than just fvcking them until you figure it out lol, i acknowledge that might be the best/only way)

What are your thoughts gentlemen?
Didn’t read replies but I’m sure somebody had to have said this...

All women love sex. There is no screening for if a girl likes sex.

Some may be more into different or kinky things but ALL women love sex in some capacity
 

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Didn’t read replies but I’m sure somebody had to have said this...

All women love sex. There is no screening for if a girl likes sex.

Some may be more into different or kinky things but ALL women love sex in some capacity
that would be incorrect. There are lesbians and asexual.
 

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The craziest girls I have been with were also the best in bed. Total Freaks. Any position. Any style. Any where. Flatout Pornstar Sex! I've had 3 really crazy girls and they rocked my world and we had the kinkiest sex you could have. My buddies all say the same thing. Find a good bipolar or narcissist!
 

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The craziest girls I have been with were also the best in bed. Total Freaks. Any position. Any style. Any where. Flatout Pornstar Sex! I've had 3 really crazy girls and they rocked my world and we had the kinkiest sex you could have. My buddies all say the same thing. Find a good bipolar or narcissist!
Great until they turn on you. Its best they have a loving boyfriend or husband who supports them and thus she bleeds. While she shares her lust with the world.
 

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Great until they turn on you. Its best they have a loving boyfriend or husband who supports them and thus she bleeds. While she shares her lust with the world.
This is true. crazy ex of mine once described her libido and state of constant arousal as "her gift to the world". That made me feel queasy at the time and in retrospect not so much a gift as a curse or biblical style plague. (shudder)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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