"We probably won't meet again"

[M Musashi]

Good evening fellas,

I have been trying to figure out the psychology of the statement "we probably won't see each other again // we will probably forget about each other" I've heard on the past 3 consecutive hookups.

This is a statement I've received from 3 different women in very different situations (first date early into coffee despite clear attraction signs and later hooking up and also twice and on the first night meet before/after sex).

In these 3 situations I have been in the Alpha position, I have never heard it if I've been in more of a beta role when hooking up. I'm still learning proper use of terminology.. Recently redpilled, I've swallowed the redpill and it's causing a lot of indigestion but I know it will soon reach my blood stream and assimilate into my being.

Anyway due to my bluepill conditioning thinking "oh this girl will surely want some happy forever after **** now that we have hooked up" and reluctantly admiting even having some of those feelings myself this statement has caught me off guard and I usually spurt out some "we'll keep in touch" (me thinking she wants reassurance and simply being agreeable/weak) nonsense.

Is this simply a **** test or what? Is there any logic behind it on their end? I'm assuming an appropriate pass would be something like "hopefully not" or "I think you're right".

Thanks

 

[lizardking82]

This is something you are wasting your time with, I can tell you.

Maybe they didn't like the sex, maybe they have feelings for an ex and regret having sex with you, maybe they saw a dinosaur in their dreams that told them they should not hook up with you anymore. Who cares?

"Maybe we won't meet again after this" you answer with "Yeah, that's OK. As you please."

 

[AttackFormation]

Who cares what it is? do you want to see them again or not? if not, just say "yea who knows" and move on. If yes, say you'll keep in touch.

 

[jaymbrs]

Do you ever ask why they would say that? I've been told that before and turns out the girl said that because she could see herself falling for me. That lead into another conversation.

 

[M Musashi]

I would say I don't care that much, but that's not very convincing considering I made an account to ask about it. I'm genuinly curious in the mindset behind it for one, I found it especially curious that it's something I had never heard until I started hooking up from an Alpha position.

But you're all right I'm making it more complicated than it needs to be, I do forget I can drop the facade and just ask. Next time; "yeah probably not, but what makes you say that?"

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I would say I don't care that much, but that's not very convincing considering I made an account to ask about it. I'm genuinly curious in the mindset behind it for one, I found it especially curious that it's something I had never heard until I started hooking up from an Alpha position.

But you're all right I'm making it more complicated than it needs to be, I do forget I can drop the facade and just ask. Next time; "yeah probably not, but what makes you say that?"

"What makes you say that?" is asking for her validation. It hurts you.

"That's fine, I don't want to see someone who doesn't want to see me anyway"

 

[sazc]

There are a thousand reasons why a chick would say to you "we probably won't meet again". Literally a thousand.

It's a phrase designed to passively, hopefully, elicit a deeper conversation where she might express how she is feeling. When tossed casually like that, its designed to keep her from being vulnerable by starting that conversation herself, and possibly having her feelings/herself rejected.

 

[jaymbrs]

"What makes you say that?" is asking for her validation. It hurts you.

"That's fine, I don't want to see someone who doesn't want to see me anyway"

Depends on how she said it and how he asks it.

 

[M Musashi]

"That's fine, I don't want to see someone who doesn't want to see me anyway"

Hmm I can't picture myself saying that, it seems defensive.

Everytime it's been said to me it's been as a mid-conversation footnote "ohh that's funny, ohwell not like we'll be seeing each other again anyway hahaha" rather than an out right statement "we're not going to be seeing each other again mate".

 

[M Musashi]

There are a thousand reasons why a chick would say to you "we probably won't meet again". Literally a thousand.

It's a phrase designed to passively, hopefully, elicit a deeper conversation where she might express how she is feeling. When tossed casually like that, its designed to keep her from being vulnerable by starting that conversation herself, and possibly having her feelings/herself rejected.

When I read that it feels like it maps the situation properly..

 

[CBear]

"Everyone has a game. Everyone thinks they're alpha in their own way. Even the worst doormat nice guy, hammered flat by women for a lifetime, thinks his supplications or 'Cap'n save a ho' mindset is the best way to win a woman's intimacy. He's invested in thinking he's unique in his understanding of how best to arrive at sex with a woman".-Rollo

Simple solution. Don't worry about it when they do say that. IF they do end up not seeing you again, their loss.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Depends on how she said it and how he asks it.

The way I put it let's her clarify if she wants to.

"That's cool, I don't want to see no one that don't want to see me anyway."

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Hmm I can't picture myself saying that, it seems defensive.

Everytime it's been said to me it's been as a mid-conversation footnote "ohh that's funny, ohwell not like we'll be seeing each other again anyway hahaha" rather than an out right statement "we're not going to be seeing each other again mate".

It's not defensive. She said you all won't be seeing each other. You said "cool, if that's what you want to do."

 

[MrWood]

topic title = awesome line for a ONS (travel/hotel lounge/etc)

Alpha as fvck

 

[logicallefty]

HB: We probably won’t see each other again.
LL: I was thinking that same thing. Take care.

 

[M Musashi]

Just after my initial post I picked up The Rational Male, I finished it yesterday. I can't believe how much my perspective has shifted in 2 weeks, it's really one of the most dramatic shifts in mindset I've ever experienced. Now I see how useless and counterproductive it is to sweat the small stuff like this, even if it is for the purpose of genuine understanding; I'm on board with you on that one Espi - even if my actions and subconscious hasn't caught up.

I can't believe the difference in responses I've been getting from small interactions with women in public just this past week, the only thing that's changed is I'm forcing myself to not be hyper-agreeable. Here I was thinking you have to be a woman's counselor all these years lmao.

 

[Von]

HB: We probably won’t see each other again.
LL: I was thinking that same thing. Take care.

You telling me that to make me happy

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Just after my initial post I picked up The Rational Male, I finished it yesterday. I can't believe how much my perspective has shifted in 2 weeks, it's really one of the most dramatic shifts in mindset I've ever experienced. Now I see how useless and counterproductive it is to sweat the small stuff like this, even if it is for the purpose of genuine understanding; I'm on board with you on that one Espi - even if my actions and subconscious hasn't caught up.

I can't believe the difference in responses I've been getting from small interactions with women in public just this past week, the only thing that's changed is I'm forcing myself to not be hyper-agreeable. Here I was thinking you have to be a woman's counselor all these years lmao.

Dude I did best when I didn't pay much attention and only processed 30-50% of what they were saying. I was focused on my desires and my lady wanted to please me. Those where the days a husband could fvck his wife nightly.