"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Like many red pill guys, I came to all this after a particularly hard break. There was a lot going on but on my end I acted blue pill/beta and eventually she lost all respect for me. A one point she basically told me she wanted the alpha and I mentally understood what I had to do but I couldn't do, the more she tested the more I doubled down on the beta behavior. It's only recently, quite awhile after the break (and after reading the RM) that I really understand.
Anyway, that's over. But the problem I have now is that I don't feel the need to put all that effort into ****ing a lot of women. I traveled all over the world and many of the things (plat spinning etc) I already employed and have been with a lot of women. Now I go on dates and i've already nexted them within a few minutes of meeting them. I have a few that are down for sex only but that's only so fulfilling for me. I'd like to employ my new red pill mind to create a relationship that actually functions but i'm not sure if I should pull back completly and just work on myself or continue wasting my time on dates i'm not really feeling.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Like many red pill guys, I came to all this after a particularly hard break. There was a lot going on but on my end I acted blue pill/beta and eventually she lost all respect for me. A one point she basically told me she wanted the alpha and I mentally understood what I had to do but I couldn't do, the more she tested the more I doubled down on the beta behavior. It's only recently, quite awhile after the break (and after reading the RM) that I really understand.
You may think you understand but, you really don't and a read through Rollo's book isn't enough to extricate decades of limp **** beta male provider blue pill cuckoldry.

You really need to work at it throughout your entire life. Its a plague and you can easily allow it to bleed into other areas of your life the sec the next girl comes along.

Anyway, that's over. But the problem I have now is that I don't feel the need to put all that effort into ****ing a lot of women. I traveled all over the world and many of the things (plat spinning etc) I already employed and have been with a lot of women. Now I go on dates and i've already nexted them within a few minutes of meeting them. I have a few that are down for sex only but that's only so fulfilling for me. I'd like to employ my new red pill mind to create a relationship that actually functions but i'm not sure if I should pull back completly and just work on myself or continue wasting my time on dates i'm not really feeling.
Insert red pill rage.

Man up. Go get baeeee. Moreover, get a life. Step up or step aside.
 

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Got you on the first party and you're correct.

Not sure about the second part though. If I'm not actively bedding a bunch of women I don't have a life?
 

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Got you on the first party and you're correct.

Not sure about the second part though. If I'm not actively bedding a bunch of women I don't have a life?
Personally I've found a stable GF whose invested to be a better use of my time and energy. Keeping up with or communication with too many folks distracts me from my priorities.
 

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I've did plate spinning before and it's really a lot of effort when I work, go to school and have other priories.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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