Personalised online openers

[Rainman4707]

Been sat here for 12 minutes looking at a womans profile/picture on POF....tying to think of a creative opener. Not a copy paste.

You have to be edgy in you convos online...stand out from the crowd. Heres an example Danger used :-

Danger: Hey missy. Cheeky smile you've got there. How's Thursday treating you? x


HB: Hi, aw thanks! Thursday is ok thanks. Had a tiring day so think I'll get a bath and an early night.

How's your week mr danger?


Danger: Ha! Dangerous, as per usual

Just cracking on with an essay. Long...

Hope you're having bubbles in that bath. Shows you're hardcore

So how long you been on POF then? x


HB: Sounds good. That is the kids favourite word-everything is 'long'.
Only a couple of months. How about you?



Danger: Ha picked it up from London.

I'm a POF virgin. Joined three days ago so be gentle. It's my
first time.

Your pics make you look well innocent. Bet you've got a dark side
though x


HB: They make me look innocent? I am innocent! I'm your first message?



Danger: Hmm I'll believe it when I see it!

And lol. Not quite.

You seem like a pretty chilled girl but I've got a feeeling you're
quite a strict teacher

What's your name missy? x


HB:I try to be very strict but generally just have a laugh with the kids once they know the boundaries.
My name is [ ]. Miss to you though



Danger: Ha! OK. I must warn you Miss. I was a naughty kid at school. Not
sure you could handle me

What age group do you teach?

I'm thinking it be good to get to know you a bit better. What's
your number? x


HB: Naughty little boys are my speciality. I teach 11-18. Just seen your age, you may be a little young for me... I have ex pupils almost your age!

This is where the 'no' comes in. At 23 I'm 6 years younger than this broad. Watch how her tone completely changes.

Danger: Oh? Scared you won't be able to keep up with me? x


HB: Definitely the reason. Going to bed now just to prove it. Night


Danger: Fair enough. Night.

Left it a few days.


Danger: Feeling unloved right now

And there's me thinking this could be the start of a beautiful
relationship x



HB: Who are you feeling unloved by? Is no one replying to you?


Danger: I wouldn't say that but I'm a one woman guy missy.I'm thinking it
be good to get to know you a bit better. Me, you, Thursday night.
[city location].

Age is just a number x


HB:What's your name then?



Danger: Social_Leper. I'm going to go out on a limb and say your name's [ ]?

HB: [actual name]




Danger: Lol thank God. My ex's name is [ ]. That would have been weird.

So is that a yes to Thursday? x

HB: I dunno. It depends what time.


Danger: Try not to get so excited.

Thinking Thursday night 7. What's your number? x


HB: Thursday is going to be a push. Maybe next week?


Danger: Don't really make plans more than a week in advance. Guess it just
wasn't meant to be

Or I'll give you a call some time next week


HB: It's the last week of term and I have training Wednesday 7-10, at school for presentations on Thursday, out on Friday. Sorry x



Danger: Wouldn't be able to do Friday anyway. This Tuesday night 7 x


HB: Ok. Where.


Danger: I'll meet you [ ]That's all you're getting. Wouldn't want to spoil the surprise now.


HB: Ok. Oh, I'm not great with surprises. I won't need any special clothing??



Danger: Ha. Am I going to get your number then? And probably not.

Wear something smoking hot though



HB: I'll be coming from work so you'll be lucky



Danger: Right, see you Tuesday missy. I need to recover from the weekend's
festivities so off to bed. Night x

Realizing she still hasn't given me her number.


Danger: Btw do you actually not own a phone?


HB: [number]


Danger: Wouldn't want to leave you waiting if something happens


HB: Be nice to hear from you before then anyway.
Night then xx

Personally Dangers opener is good, but a lot of women will not reply to it in my opinion. I think you need something more than "cheeky smile you have there".

I cannot think of someting to say about her hair, her lips. Something like "The pope in 1700 would kill villages for the beauty of your hair" I know thats to soppy..its just an example.

I have stories to tell on dates & topics to discuss. Its personalised openers i'm struggling with espeicially online. Any thoughts or ideas??

 

[AttackFormation]

Use copy pasted personal openers. You can make your own with or without inspiration. It's not worth the time to personalize messages when you can go with what works. Save the genuinely personalized stuff for when she responds to your message, or when she meets you in real life.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Look at the pics closely, especially the background. It is detective work. Pets are good to talk about. Sometimes there is an indication of her favorite sports team. Ask who her favorite player is, and if you know the team well it is easy to guess. For example, every woman in St Louis wearing Cardinal red has a crush on Yadier Molina, so it's an easy opener. Oh and if she is a Cubs fan, the ripping on her begins immediately. Another good one is to notice different hair colors or styles in her pics and ask which one is current. All of these things show that you actually looked at her profile and notice little things about her. Women find that attractive. They don't want just any horny guy seeking any vagina.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Use copy pasted personal openers. You can make your own with or without inspiration. It's not worth the time to personalize messages when you can go with what works. Save the genuinely personalized stuff for when she responds to your message, or when she meets you in real life.

That is the opposite of my experience, but it may have to do with living in a rural area. In a big city, you will never run out of new options. But when there are a lot fewer people near you, they are worth more individual attention. I could spam every woman on pof or match and get a few dates, but I would run out of options in a week or two.

 

[AttackFormation]

That is the opposite of my experience, but it may have to do with living in a rural area. In a big city, you will never run out of new options. But when there are a lot fewer people near you, they are worth more individual attention. I could spam every woman on pof or match and get a few dates, but I would run out of options in a week or two.

Yeah I live in a 1m+ metro area. If you only message a few women because that's all there is or you're really selective then sure. But if you are trying to play the numbers, trying to send a handcrafted opener to every girl is just superfluous and wearying when you can use or create several openers that will enable you to spend your time on more productive stuff than a text message.

I should add that I no longer bother with OLD, focusing on my LMS right now, and I'm pretty selective anyway by now. But if I were to play the numbers game again, copy pasting what works is what I would do.

 

[AttackFormation]

Respectfully disagree.

In my opinion success via online dating is 80% photos. What you say about yourself or to them matters very little.

When women get a "boring" message from a guy with pictures demonstrating high LMS, my money is on them either being happy he messaged them at all and not even thinking about it or "making an exception" because of his high LMS. My money won't be on them deciding not to message the fit tattooed high status job guy with a nice car and social life who likes to surf and travel because his message "wasn't edgy enough".

 

[marmel75]

I used to just say I liked what I saw and read in their profile and wanted to find out more about them. Then maybe a line regarding something in their profile or asking how their day/week/weekend was with my name.

Thats it. Have an interesting profile.

The importance in OLD is Pic, Profile, Message in that order

 

[AttackFormation]

I used to just say I liked what I saw and read in their profile and wanted to find out more about them. Then maybe a line regarding something in their profile or asking how their day/week/weekend was with my name.

Thats it. Have an interesting profile.

The importance in OLD is Pic, Profile, Message in that order

I would say that if a guy tries this message you just gave with a bunch of girls and it doesn't work, it's a sign that he needs to work up his LMS, not obsess over how to make a better opener. Vice versa if it works.

Girls who want you make it easy for you. If they don't, you've got work to do... on yourself.

 

[Young OG]

Its all about your pictures. Get professional pics taken.

There was a test done, where a guy used a male models pics on Tinder. Every right swipe was a match. He could pretty much say whatever he wanted to them and he would get there number. I wish I had the link.

 

[AttackFormation]

Its all about your pictures. Get professional pics taken.

There was a test done, where a guy used a male models pics on Tinder. Every right swipe was a match. He could pretty much say whatever he wanted to them and he would get there number. I wish I had the link.

I don't have your test but I have something else... lol. That part with the music always makes me laugh.

When are you giving us more field adventures though bro

 

[marmel75]

I don't have your test but I have something else... lol. That part with the music always makes me laugh.

When are you giving us more field adventures though bro

Yes obviously pics matter most BUT if you arent a male model then you have to display other traits like humor, etc that women find attractive and this can easily be done in the profile. This will still have women interested in you that otherwise wouldn't be based on your pic alone and a crappy profile...

 

[Rainman4707]

Thanks guys..those replies helped.

I'm thinking of getting some professional photos done.

 

[Rainman4707]

Pics are obviously very important but I'm not convinced this is necessary or even helpful.

I currently post 6 photos and none of them are professional. I'm exceptionally fit and 2 of my photos back that up, but I get the most likes/comments on my head shots. I will tell you that my eyes and smile have gotten me the most attention. Far more than my 2 gym pics.

Download a free app that allows you to set a timer on your cell phone camera. Practice taking photos of yourself and remember that smile and eyes are key. 6 photos is plenty. 1 shirtless photo is fine (if you have the physique to back it up). Key with photos is that they reflect passion.

Ironic. I've just read this now.
Last night i changed my profile pic on pof. My original photo was of me on a boat in Scotland with lake & mountains in backround. I've been on Pof a few weeks. I've had hardly any women send me messages. Last night i changed my main picture to one of me sitting in my room after having my haircut. I have a cheeky smile. It's a closer view of my face. Seems to be the norm these days
I've had ten women message me.
Not many women viewed my profile before...now in the space of 12 hours, 60 women have viewed my profile.
I thought the bedroom shot was tacky, but its working.

My ex rang me tonight ( we split up 6 weeks ago) she wants to discuss "us" tomorrow night...so not sure if i'll be on pof much longer. We'll see.