Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Have you read Cat in The Hat?.....no more Netflix and chill.....its all about Dr.Seuss and ChillNo book. No book will do the work for you and all them pretty much say the same thing. You can boil it down to 1) taking action 2) it will either happen or it doesn't
The best cat-care book I've ever read!Have you read Cat in The Hat?.....no more Netflix and chill.....its all about Dr.Seuss and Chill
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is a perfect example of something I've always said: What you need for success is highly individualistic (as opposed to the typical one size fits all "Do this and you'll get laid" PUA advice). It depends on what is holding you back. It may be 50 different things, or it may be one small thing that you can change and see a big difference.What has gotten me laid the most in my life is watching what I eat and working out.
Yep... how you physically show up is half the battle, and something you CAN control. Look good, dress well in clothes that fit your style and body and this will get you through the front door because this is the first thing anyone notices about you. You can have great game, but if you have a beer belly, and look like you just rolled out of bed you'll never get to the starting line.This is a perfect example of something I've always said: What you need for success is highly individualistic (as opposed to the typical one size fits all "Do this and you'll get laid" PUA advice). It depends on what is holding you back. It may be 50 different things, or it may be one small thing that you can change and see a big difference.
Anyway, I agree with IKO69. Books don't get you laid. Ideas are a nice starting point, but you have to take action. You could take action and do the wrong thing, and probably have more success than learning a good idea and then doing nothing.