Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Have you read Cat in The Hat?.....no more Netflix and chill.....its all about Dr.Seuss and ChillNo book. No book will do the work for you and all them pretty much say the same thing. You can boil it down to 1) taking action 2) it will either happen or it doesn't
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This is a perfect example of something I've always said: What you need for success is highly individualistic (as opposed to the typical one size fits all "Do this and you'll get laid" PUA advice). It depends on what is holding you back. It may be 50 different things, or it may be one small thing that you can change and see a big difference.What has gotten me laid the most in my life is watching what I eat and working out.
Yep... how you physically show up is half the battle, and something you CAN control. Look good, dress well in clothes that fit your style and body and this will get you through the front door because this is the first thing anyone notices about you. You can have great game, but if you have a beer belly, and look like you just rolled out of bed you'll never get to the starting line.This is a perfect example of something I've always said: What you need for success is highly individualistic (as opposed to the typical one size fits all "Do this and you'll get laid" PUA advice). It depends on what is holding you back. It may be 50 different things, or it may be one small thing that you can change and see a big difference.
Anyway, I agree with IKO69. Books don't get you laid. Ideas are a nice starting point, but you have to take action. You could take action and do the wrong thing, and probably have more success than learning a good idea and then doing nothing.