"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Found a top foreign dating coach in a personals column.

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I tried my luck by reaching myself out in a personals column and to no surprise, I haven’t gotten any responses. Although, the only person who contacted me was a “top foreign dating coach” and he offered his services to me at a fair price. He asked me if i needed help with finding love whether local or abroad. I have yet to respond to him so I don’t really know if I should take his help. What should I do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well, if you haven't did any cold approach you're not even helping yourself. Its dependent on what you want.
 

Alvafe

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I tried my luck by reaching myself out in a personals column and to no surprise, I haven’t gotten any responses. Although, the only person who contacted me was a “top foreign dating coach” and he offered his services to me at a fair price. He asked me if i needed help with finding love whether local or abroad. I have yet to respond to him so I don’t really know if I should take his help. What should I do?
did he also told you how much it would cost you hourly? or its was something you would deal with after the girl arrive?
 

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I tried my luck by reaching myself out in a personals column and to no surprise, I haven’t gotten any responses. Although, the only person who contacted me was a “top foreign dating coach” and he offered his services to me at a fair price. He asked me if i needed help with finding love whether local or abroad. I have yet to respond to him so I don’t really know if I should take his help. What should I do?
I think you should private message @designerman who signed up for an account the same day as you did from the came location, and see what he says. Or who knows, maybe you can just turn your head to the left and talk right to him.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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