"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I had my 90 day evaluation and I received a 78 cent raise. Previously I received a $1 raise within the 2nd week when I first started. My supervisor is real happy. The owner is really happy. The owner wants me to learn everything as fast as possible so he give me a truck and a crew. This is great. But I work hard .
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Being a slave sucks. They keep you poor to demoralize you, so you feel trapped and stay.

If they fail to compensate you for inflation, start looking for other work. The best way to a good raise, is other gigs in the pipeline.

Get rid of some bills. Go with the bare necessities.
 

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Being a slave sucks. They keep you poor to demoralize you, so you feel trapped and stay.

If they fail to compensate you for inflation, start looking for other work. The best way to a good raise, is other gigs in the pipeline.

Get rid of some bills. Go with the bare necessities.
I'm living with the bare necessities now . This Job does have potential if I get a under me. But its hard to get these young kids ages 17 to 25, to last more than Two days .Because they are 85% plusses that can't do hard work.

At the least this is character building at most i can get a crew under me and possibly this will lead to other things.
 

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I'm living with the bare necessities now . This Job does have potential if I get a under me. But its hard to get these young kids ages 17 to 25, to last more than Two days .Because they are 85% plusses that can't do hard work.

At the least this is character building at most i can get a crew under me and possibly this will lead to other things.
Well said. If nothing else, it shows that you are like one of the 15% that is willing to work hard. And you're learning.
 

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Well said. If nothing else, it shows that you are like one of the 15% that is willing to work hard. And you're learning.
Why do you keep repeating these numbers? Obviously you all hate me which, whatever. But why not get over it in trying to improve my life and change my ways. If I could make amends I would do it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why do you keep repeating these numbers? Obviously you all hate me which, whatever. But why not get over it in trying to improve my life and change my ways. If I could make amends I would do it
? I'm not sure you read my post. I was trying to congratulate you.
You said 85% of the kids wouldn't do hard work. I was saying it was good that you were like one of the 15% who could.
 

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Being a slave sucks.
This^ is exactly what we are at work anymore, slaves to the system.

Gone are the days with a nice and simple "go to work 5 x days, be on time, work hard, have pride in your work, go home, get paid on Friday. "

Now it's "Go to work, do your job, do 3 x people's jobs who are slackers and won't pull weight, do 3 x more people's jobs to account for short staffing to begin with, get blamed for stuff you didn't do or chastised for the tiniest mistake, watch others who didn't do anything get credit for your work when successful, stand up for yourself and get written up for being adversarial, go home with temporary energy loss and a little more of your soul permanently gone"
 
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Being a slave sucks. They keep you poor to demoralize you, so you feel trapped and stay.

If they fail to compensate you for inflation, start looking for other work. The best way to a good raise, is other gigs in the pipeline.

Get rid of some bills. Go with the bare necessities.

"Learn to live on lentils, and you will not have to be subservient to the king."

"I’ve been broke even oftener than I’ve been wealthy. Of the two, being broke is more interesting, as a man who doesn’t know where his next meal is coming from is never bored. He may be angry or several other things—but not bored. His predicament sharpens his thoughts, spurs him into action, adds zest to his life, whether he knows it or not."

"Indeed the state of all who are preoccupied is wretched, but the most wretched are those who are toiling not even at their own preoccupations, but must regulate their sleep by another’s, and their walk by another’s pace, and obey orders in those freest of all things, loving and hating. If such people want to know how short their lives are, let them reflect how small a portion is their own."


I'll be at work on Monday, but I keep these thoughts with me.
 
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I'm convinced that full-time/salary jobs are for married men, men with kids and suckers.

Makes me a sucker.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you have to max the credit cards out then buy Bitcoin.... On a spike, sell half and put it into gold. That way, you may have some chance of wealth...

 
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