Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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but guys who make money for girls with bad necks are low quality tho
 
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but guys who make money for girls with bad necks are low quality tho
Then who is high quality?

First of all, my "neck" is fine, just had some metal put in it 14 years back.

Also, any money I spend on sex is a disposable portion of my income.

Girls charge the market rate, and no way I can go lower than that. In fact, not sure would want to. That would be like buying spoiled meat.
 
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Suddenly struck me... I've never even flipped a house yet. Yet I talk all day about this sh1t.

Haha.

Maybe I'm telling them about "potential value" lol.

First one should be finished within 4 days. Hold me to that.
 

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I disagree.

What you people don't realize is that I used to be very socially popular and have a million friends with my phone ringing 100 times/day before I got arrested.

I've been there and done that. Think about it... What kind of "cred" could being in prison for 4 years earn me with other guys if I really cared. I'd rather keep it a secret.
When your phone was ringing off the hook and you were so popular, wasn't that when you were dealing acid or something?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Struck me how OFFENSIVE/inappropriate/rude it is to only want a girl for a hole in her body.
Hmm, maybe some congratulations are in order for gaining some insight and showing some growth. I'm impressed.

Remembering a line from The Mystery Method saying how girls screen out guys who have a "dubious intent." (among other reasons).
There's basically 2 sides of the fence. Which are you on? Do you wish people well or harm?
I've always thought that one of the reasons that "social proof" was important was because it sent the message to the woman that the guy is safe to be with. I don't mean safe like "nice guy" safe, I mean if other women will hang out with him, chances decrease that he's a serial killer or sexual offender of some sort.

going to prison is low quality tho
A lot of guys on this forum have seemed to think that a guy in prison is the ultimate male to some women.
 

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What's your point?
I'm asking you a question . You just stated that you were extremely popular and socially sought after. I remember you mentioned before you were popular when you were dealing. Was this comment t
related to the same period, the one when you were dealing drugs? Or was this social apex at a different time in your life?

It's simply a question.
 

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Don't even act like my,Lambo isn't totally,hot.

I'm gonna get a license,plate that says LAMBO69.
Personally, I'm not turned on by expensive cars. I grew up surrounded by weathe, in a wealthy community. I saw first hand how "things" can definitely be all about smoke and mirrors and absolutely do not determine the quality of the person.

When I see flashy items on a person, expensive cars clothes Etc, my first thought is how much debt do they really have? So immediately I am "on guard" and listening/watching for information about who they really are.

Anyone can have expensive stuffb and still be a total a$$hole
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Anyone can have expensive stuffb and still be a total a$$hole
That's true.....

but a LOT of women LIKE azzholes.... (didn't say "all"...didn't say "you".....said "a LOT")

Or do you disagree?
 

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I went to prison for 4 years.

There's a line between what matters and what doesn't, and "friendships" with other males does not.

Think about standing in front of a judge and hoping he only gives you a few years instead of 25. Think about how serious that is.

Now think about how all of that is just games compared to when I broke my neck when I was younger.

Now think how unimportant your "friends" seem.
I've been in front of a judge facing jail. I've also nearly died before. It certainly makes you question your choices. It made me value my life a lot more, my friends included. It's part of what made me want to have more fun, but fun the way I wanted. It's why I don't get caught up in the seriousness of it all anymore.
 
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I've been in front of a judge facing jail. I've also nearly died before. It certainly makes you question your choices. It made me value my life a lot more, my friends included. It's part of what made me want to have more fun, but fun the way I wanted. It's why I don't get caught up in the seriousness of it all anymore.
Define "nearly died,
 

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but a LOT of women LIKE azzholes.... (didn't say "all"...didn't say "you".....said "a LOT")

Or do you disagree?
There are different kinds of @ssholes. There is the "charming" @sshole type that the community leans toward, and he's not really that bad of a guy at all. He just has a strong personality, a strong frame, goes for what he wants, is playful and teases women, and doesn't supplicate to them. The community has an odd way of labeling people ("nice guys" aren't nice and "jerks" aren't really jerks).

Then there's the real kind of @sshole where he's such a d!ck most people aren't going to tolerate hanging around with him. They're going to remove that kind of negativity from their life.
 

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guys that gone to prison fvcked tons of *****s.. their so low quality tho..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm asking you a question . You just stated that you were extremely popular and socially sought after. I remember you mentioned before you were popular when you were dealing. Was this comment t
related to the same period, the one when you were dealing drugs? Or was this social apex at a different time in your life?

It's simply a question.
Yes that was the same time.

But I also hung out with people sometimes when no drugs were involved.
 
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Anyone can have expensive stuffb and still be a total a$$hole
They can also have a cool Lambo and NOT be an a$$hole.

Or you could look at it this way...

Everybody is an a$$hole sometimes. But if you drive a Lambo, people will associate your attitude with your car even if it's unrelated.
 
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Don't talk about prison to these women. Most want a bad guy, but only one that acts like it. They like fake a$$ bad guys, not real bad guys. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Revealed it once, the woman jetted so fast I think the door is still spinning from a few years ago. Tell them happy, positive fluffy stuff. You know clouds and gumdrops. They seem to like that, not real like and it's unfortunate hardships/mistakes in life.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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