greatsnake
Master Don Juan
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why does my ex seem so bitter if she Did the breaking up? Lol
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ex
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
greatsnake
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Lol i wouldn't care after breaking up with her
Serenity
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Depends on circumstances.
Case 1: If you're unaffected by it, move on quickly and improve yourself they might regret their decision, that's bitter.
Case 2: If they feel you made them unhappy and especially if she was in that state for a while before breaking up, she might be bitter because of the time lost chasing an unsatisfying relationship with you.
There is a male equivalent to case 1, think about the man that ends it with a girl they're not satisfied with and then she becomes super attractive, that regret is bitter. In case 2 think of a man who breaks it off with a BPD woman, they're bitter because of all the sh!t she did and the time and effort wasted on her.
You probably know which case it might be. I'm not saying either are rational, they're not but humans don't always act rationally. It happens and it explains what you're wondering about. In short she was unsatisfied and thus broke it off, she's not entirely over you and has regret of some form. Note that not being "over you" does not imply she wants to get back together in case 2, it just means you're on her mind still (in a negative sense).
Case 1: If you're unaffected by it, move on quickly and improve yourself they might regret their decision, that's bitter.
Case 2: If they feel you made them unhappy and especially if she was in that state for a while before breaking up, she might be bitter because of the time lost chasing an unsatisfying relationship with you.
There is a male equivalent to case 1, think about the man that ends it with a girl they're not satisfied with and then she becomes super attractive, that regret is bitter. In case 2 think of a man who breaks it off with a BPD woman, they're bitter because of all the sh!t she did and the time and effort wasted on her.
You probably know which case it might be. I'm not saying either are rational, they're not but humans don't always act rationally. It happens and it explains what you're wondering about. In short she was unsatisfied and thus broke it off, she's not entirely over you and has regret of some form. Note that not being "over you" does not imply she wants to get back together in case 2, it just means you're on her mind still (in a negative sense).
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
With literally no backstory, the options are endless.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
women make stupid mistakes, then they pay.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
It's only a worry when your ex is indifferent.
If they r bitter, sad or angry then you made your mark. A tattoo on their soul that would take years and years to be rid off.
Congratulations!
