"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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antr

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So my gf sent me this text the other day after she invited me over and I spent the night at her place. It was during the week and I didn't go to job that day (I didn't plan to anyway because of exam that day).

I'll try to translate as accurate as possible since english is not my first language.

"Antr I know you're not angry, but I'm only joking, maybe I'm saying stupid **** for no reason.... I enjoy spending time with you, I didnt think you knew how to act with women, but I can see that you're cute, sweet, nice haha... I think you can see that you're not only a fvck buddy for me, if you were I wouldn't spend so much time with you and talk about everything... You think I'm not glad you came here yesterday evening and spent the night with me? Of course I am, but I know you have alot of olbigations so I feel sorry for you. I'm not a girl that needs attention 24/7 who'll drag you along everywhere and expect the same from you, but I like seeing you in "normal" amounts, I mean more than when we started dating. Over time, you'll see how this stuff works with me"

She sent me this text after she sarcastically told me that I should quit my job so we can be together 24/7 to which I replied that her remark is stupid and left.
Now I know words don't mean **** with girls but what I got from all this is that I should see her less and let her initiate seeing each other from now on.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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marmel75

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This chick really likes you and wants to be with you. Not much to read into this.

If you dont share this feeling for her then yeah, stop seeing her as often i guess.
 

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On average how often do you see her?

It kind of sounds like she is trying to say that she likes you but its ok if you don't see her as much. She is perhaps hinting that she would like some more free time.

I'd ask her in person what she means by all of this.
 

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I would have said "great!", put my feet up on the coffee table, requested a sandwich and have told her she can pay my bills tomorrow.
Haha, I already got the sandwich but I like the bill part.

@Howiestern last week I saw her 4 times, but usually its 2-3 times a week. Maybe she hinted that its 4+ is too much which I agree on.
 

antr

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No you dumbass

She’s just really into you

She meant what she said. She’s catching the feels for you and your negative reaction scared her into thinking she upset you enough to backpeddle on her remark.

This is exactly what it looks like when chicks dig you. They assume and worry that they’re actions or they are the problem and don’t wanna upset you
I agree, I'm a dumbass when it comes to stuff like this, thats why I have you guys.

So keep acting like usual? Im the one usually initating seeing each other while shes initiates texting.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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You're seeing her too much already, 4+ is way too much. 3 is too much if you don't want anything serious with this chick.
 

antr

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You're seeing her too much already, 4+ is way too much. 3 is too much if you don't want anything serious with this chick.
She was away for a week and I was horny as fck, thats why it was 4 days last week. I'll keep it around 2-3 days now though.
 

antr

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No you dumbass

She’s just really into you

She meant what she said. She’s catching the feels for you and your negative reaction scared her into thinking she upset you enough to backpeddle on her remark.

This is exactly what it looks like when chicks dig you. They assume and worry that they’re actions or they are the problem and don’t wanna upset you
Update:

You guys were right. Things have been going good with her.

However I'm going on a business trip for a month and I don't know how this will affect us. Any advice how I can keep her interest level up when I go away?
 
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