"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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rewire your brain to be embrace being hungry

hunger is a sign that your body is in a depleted calorie state (which is what you need to lose a lot of weight fast). Don't panic when you feel this, in fact, see it as a good sign and try to go as long as you can without eating anything

When you do eat, you want to eat healthy - protein, veggies, healthy fats but you need to eat as little as possible

The fear about losing muscle is mostly nonsense. They've done studies on people who have gotten all the way down to 6% BF and they haven't lost any real muscle. People just have way less muscle than they think so when they strip away all the fat, they're a lot smaller than they think they would be.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I feel like

Theres 3 types of people

1. FAT People who are trying to lose weight (body fat) and gain muscle
2. SKINNY people who are trying to gain weight (healhty weight) and gain muscle
3. Average people who are trying to lose body fat and gain muscle
 

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When you cut you're bound to lose some muscle mass. Eating enough protein and working out can mitigate the loss. I do agree that it shouldn't be feared if you're overweight as you'll look better and be healthier once you're down to a good size.

Once you've cut to a healthy body fat percentage you can go for a bulking phase if you want to have some muscle. Though for people who don't workout and have noobie gains to take advantage of, you can lose fat and gain muscle at the same time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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As for not eating, it sounds simple but that can lead to overeating in your next meal to compensate. I find not eating breakfast and lunch and then eating for the first time at 5pm gives me a smaller window to eat and thus I eat less calories. However, intermittent fasting isn't for everyone.

Simply determine your caloric maintenance level and cut 500 calories from it. When I cut I eat 2 meals a day and a protein shake and that keeps me at about 1800 calories and I lose weight. One thing to keep in mind is to count everything including sauces or condiments. You can improve your accuracy by weighing food such as chicken to get the actual calories you're eating.
 

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When you cut you're bound to lose some muscle mass. Eating enough protein and working out can mitigate the loss. I do agree that it shouldn't be feared if you're overweight as you'll look better and be healthier once you're down to a good size.

Once you've cut to a healthy body fat percentage you can go for a bulking phase if you want to have some muscle. Though for people who don't workout and have noobie gains to take advantage of, you can lose fat and gain muscle at the same time.
not really. They did studies on people in the military who cut down to 6% BF without losing any real muscle mass. Muscle is very very hard to lose

500 calories below maintenance? I do about 1500-1800 calories below maintenance with no problems
 

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I've certainly found that I eat WAY more food than needed. 3 small meals a day is fine for someone trying to cut, as long as the nutrition is there.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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By decreasing your calories too low immediately, you deprive your body and skin of vital vitamins/nutrients they need to operate at maximum capacity, slow down your metabolism, and eventually your body will habituate to the new lower calories and you will stop losing weight. Then you have to drop your calories further to drop more weight. Entirely inefficient.

1) Drop calories by 300-400. Increase calories expenditure by incorporating one cardio session 30 minutes daily;
2) Three weeks later, maintain the lowered calories, and increase calorie expenditure with 45 minutes of cardio;
3) Three weeks later, maintain the lowered calories, and incorporate two cardio sessions 30 min each, 60 minutes daily;
4) Three weeks later, drop calories 100-200 further and continue two cardio sessions 30 min each, 60 minutes daily;
5) Three weeks later, maintain the lowered calories, and increase calorie expenditure with two cardio sessions 45 min each, 90 minutes daily.

Gradual is key.
 

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By decreasing your calories too low immediately, you deprive your body and skin of vital vitamins/nutrients they need to operate at maximum capacity, slow down your metabolism, and eventually your body will habituate to the new lower calories and you will stop losing weight. Then you have to drop your calories further to drop more weight. Entirely inefficient.

1) Drop calories by 300-400. Increase calories expenditure by incorporating one cardio session 30 minutes daily;
2) Three weeks later, maintain the lowered calories, and increase calorie expenditure with 45 minutes of cardio;
3) Three weeks later, maintain the lowered calories, and incorporate two cardio sessions 30 min each, 60 minutes daily;
4) Three weeks later, drop calories 100-200 further and continue two cardio sessions 30 min each, 60 minutes daily;
5) Three weeks later, maintain the lowered calories, and increase calorie expenditure with two cardio sessions 45 min each, 90 minutes daily.

Gradual is key.

complete bro science nonsense that sounds good in theory but is not true in reality

the bodys survival instincts don't really kick in until you're like 7% bodyfat. The avg guy can get down to 10% BF and still be ripped by cutting calories down to nothing (1500 a day for me is fine). If you eat lots of veggies, some meat, some fruit and some healthy fats, that's still plenty nutrition

the goal is to get shredded ASAP so you can start gaining muscle again. You wanna spend as much time as possible in bulking mode

losing muscle is bro science nonsense. Muscle is very hard to gain and very hard to lose. Everybody thinks they're losing muscle when cutting because they think their 16 inch fatceps are all muscle

lose 20 lbs in 2 months cutting ASAP and then spend rest of year getting muscular as hell
 

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complete bro science nonsense that sounds good in theory but is not true in reality

the bodys survival instincts don't really kick in until you're like 7% bodyfat. The avg guy can get down to 10% BF and still be ripped by cutting calories down to nothing (1500 a day for me is fine). If you eat lots of veggies, some meat, some fruit and some healthy fats, that's still plenty nutrition

the goal is to get shredded ASAP so you can start gaining muscle again. You wanna spend as much time as possible in bulking mode

losing muscle is bro science nonsense. Muscle is very hard to gain and very hard to lose. Everybody thinks they're losing muscle when cutting because they think their 16 inch fatceps are all muscle

lose 20 lbs in 2 months cutting ASAP and then spend rest of year getting muscular as hell
Hmm...

Your experience: Never been at a single-digit bodyfat percentage and been fat most of your life.

My experience: Been at single- or close to single digit body fat percentage for almost 20 years, and trained alongside professional or national-competing bodybuilders during most of my 20s.

But Fat-, err Big-, Dave knows better. Gotcha.
 

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Hmm...

Your experience: Never been at single digit bodyfat percentages

My experience: Been at single- or close to single digit body fat percentage for almost 20 years, and trained alongside professional or national-competing bodybuilders for most of my 20s.

But fat-, err Big-dave knows better.
I talk to lots of very serious lifters who get down to 8 to 9% bodyfat very quickly (say 2 months)

You don't really need that many calories to feel fine. I feel fine on 1500 calories a day. Am I mildly hungry all day? sure but it don't bother me. Hunger pains are a sign im getting lean

Metabolism slowing down because you're not eating enough is complete bro science bull****. You don't go into starvation/survival mode until you're like 6 to 7% BF. You think the avg gym rat going from 15 to 10% BF is hitting starvation mode? That's beyond laughable

Get lean ASAP...maximize amount of time spent on getting big and muscular

My best friend is 5'11 198 7% BF all year round. His key? he does zero cardio, just cuts calories down to nearly nothing when he wants to get lean.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cutting is for chumps. Clean bulk, clean maintenance is the way to go. For being slightly leaner in summer compared to winter, I simply add an extra 2 hours of cardio per week either the (real outdoor) bicycle or rowing machine.

....**** starvation.
 

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Cutting is for chumps. Clean bulk, clean maintenance is the way to go. For being slightly leaner in summer compared to winter, I simply add an extra 2 hours of cardio per week either the (real outdoor) bicycle or rowing machine.

....**** starvation.
You still have to eat in a calorie deficit to lose weight dude

and if you want to be very lean (9% BF), you have to be in a heavy calorie deficit
 

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Cutting is for chumps. Clean bulk, clean maintenance is the way to go. For being slightly leaner in summer compared to winter, I simply add an extra 2 hours of cardio per week either the (real outdoor) bicycle or rowing machine.

....**** starvation.
If your a$$ is FAT you have to shed the fat. If you are within 5-7 lbs, then it's not a big deal. Whale or pig style bulking is a bunch of bull, most of the gain is FAT.
 

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If your a$$ is FAT you have to shed the fat. If you are within 5-7 lbs, then it's not a big deal. Whale or pig style bulking is a bunch of bull, most of the gain is FAT.
if you're gaining more than 3-4 lbs a month, you're gaining 80% fat
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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